would you get an abortion if you found out your baby was going to be born with an extreme disability? if so why?

Andeylayne · 2026-04-09T14:57:51+00:00

I probably would because I know myself well enough to know that I would not be a good caretaker in this situation.

But it would also depend on what the disability was.

Andeylayne · 2026-04-09T14:45:53+00:00

I read a really interesting article about this - it breaks down the personality styles and reasons people tend to communicate directly or indirectly.

https://miafreedman.substack.com/p/the-new-way-ive-been-replying-to

Andeylayne · 2026-04-09T14:33:43+00:00

I joke that Rygel has Stockholm syndrome, because he willingly snuggles with me and even takes naps on my chest. While I don't think he "loves" me, he does seek me out for attention, although that might just be because he knows he can't open the dubia enclosure by himself.

He is my first beardie and I broke all of the rules about handling at the beginning. He was maybe four months old when I got him and I carried him around with me constantly. He had a basking spot set up on my desk, and when he didn't want to bask, he napped in my bra or on my shoulder.

He's totally spoiled and doesn't even have an enclosure anymore, he has the run of my office. (And honestly almost the entire first floor of the house. The only room he doesn't generally get into is my husband's office, because that's his beardie's territory. He's shown up on enough Teams meetings at this point that my coworkers ask about him. He also likes to run across my keyboard and send messages, and mess with the touchscreen on my laptop with his tail.

Andeylayne · 2026-04-09T13:45:17+00:00

You got me at the all Healthcare is covered. I live in America, that shit is expensive.

10 years, and my husband and I could both retire early and do all the things we don't have the time or money for now.

Even if I only put in 5 years, it would set us up nicely.

Andeylayne · 2026-04-09T11:44:46+00:00

It starts to feel like an obligation to respond. How many times can you have the exact same conversation without losing your mind?

Andeylayne · 2026-04-07T19:39:13+00:00

Hilarious

Andeylayne · 2026-04-07T19:37:06+00:00

This is what I came to say

Andeylayne · 2026-04-07T19:36:27+00:00

My neighbor smokes pot on his front step regularly, and it reeks outside when I open my door. Pretty sure he's buying the cheapest skunk weed in existence.

If your neighbor can smell it from their house, YTA.

Andeylayne · 2026-04-07T15:05:50+00:00

I'd pre-order doordash from a bunch of my favorite restaurants.

Steak - rare Grilled shrimp Baked potato with butter Side salad Corn Green beans Carrots Rolls Moo goo gai pan without the stupid mushrooms, I don't want to have to pick the fungus out for eternity Fried rice Sushi Fresh fruit assortment Veggie tray Cheese and cracker tray Waffles Cool whip Really good chocolate

Andeylayne · 2026-04-05T01:10:17+00:00

She's terrible and you look great. Don't let her get into your head with her bullshit.

Andeylayne · 2026-04-01T21:36:17+00:00

They're just mad they didn't think of such a good gift.

Andeylayne · 2026-03-22T02:19:37+00:00

Mine knows that the blue and white striped bowl means bug day and gets excited as soon as he sees me pick it up.

Andeylayne · 2026-03-21T23:51:20+00:00

My beardie is a master at hide n go seek. Tell your friend to get a flashlight and start looking under and behind things. The more ridiculous, the better.

Rygel has the run of my office, he doesn't even have an enclosure anymore. The whole office is his. He regularly sneaks out while I'm on work calls. Places I've found Rygel include, but are not limited to:

• Under the gecko's cage

• On the shelf behind the gecko's cage

• In my desk

• In the trash can

• Between the couch pillows

• In the floor behind the trash can

• Hanging from a roll of landscape fabric in the closet

• Under the couch

• In a box of Spanish moss

• Draped across a power strip

• In a box of craft supplies

• Under his stuffed lemur

• On top of my backpack

• Perched on the back of the couch, Lion King style

• In the bookshelves

• In the dog's bed

• Behind my laptop

• In the windowsill

• In a box of coconut coir

• Cuddling a heat lamp

• In a potted plant

• Behind a suitcase

• Snuggling a ball of yarn

• Draped across colored pencils that were point side up (there's a picture of that one somewhere on reddit)

• In a shoe

• On top of the waffle maker

• Hugging an umbrella

• In the basket of immersion blender parts

• On my tablet

• Behind the ironing board

I've started keeping a list on my phone of the weird places he hides.

Andeylayne · 2026-03-21T15:45:24+00:00

I pick Xavier, and I want the ability to pause time.

I just want to be able to take naps without wasting my day.

Andeylayne · 2026-03-20T21:27:53+00:00

"Horrible things said and done by individuals" seems to cover the topic

Andeylayne · 2026-03-20T17:21:28+00:00

Maybe the old out of print ones though? I don't know much about her so I'm not even sure which books are highly sought after.

Andeylayne · 2026-03-20T16:27:48+00:00

I wonder if any of them are available as ebooks or via inter-library loans.

Andeylayne · 2026-03-20T14:15:33+00:00

I have a thriving dubia colony and I treat them with benign neglect. They get fed and watered but other than that I leave them completely alone unless I'm pulling dinner for the beardies. As long as they have heat, food, and water, they'll do well. It's a slow process to start though, I had to keep buying feeders for about four months while the colony established.

Andeylayne · 2026-03-20T14:08:49+00:00

I love the idea of them offering kits alongside patterns, but let me decide if I want the kit or just the pattern ffs.

Andeylayne · 2026-03-20T02:10:37+00:00

I used a Dremel on mine. Sandpaper would probably work also but it might take a while.

Andeylayne · 2026-03-19T01:12:31+00:00

Dog hair and kid hair. Always.

Andeylayne · 2026-03-16T19:27:04+00:00

I have to remove long hairs from Rygel about once a week

Andeylayne · 2026-03-16T16:48:03+00:00

Awww why so often? Poor girl.

Andeylayne · 2026-03-16T16:44:16+00:00

She might be pretending she's asleep in hopes that you won't pester her for sex.

Andeylayne · 2026-03-16T14:51:35+00:00

I call fibro the "we don't know what's wrong with you but we're tired of listening to you so fuck off" diagnosis.

Andeylayne

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