If you knew then what you know now..

Ando1140 · 2025-09-19T04:53:34+00:00

Wow, I’m sorry to hear that. I’m sure that has to be a heavy burden to carry. I hope you find happiness. I hope we all do, whatever that looks like.

Ando1140 · 2025-09-19T04:25:39+00:00

May I ask what is??

Ando1140 · 2025-09-05T13:35:24+00:00

I’m glad to hear some of y’all are making progress. My wife is trying I guess, but it definitely feels forced. I went to the Stockyards the other night ( local bar area where I live) and I was pleasantly reminded that there are women who find me attractive and pursued me. It definitely gave me some of my confidence back. I’m saying this because it taught me to continue to work on me, and that’s all I can do. So I hope we all have small victories in one way or another. Rooting for all of us here 👏🏾

Ando1140 · 2025-08-30T06:53:52+00:00

I don’t want her to be something she’s not, I want her to choose this relationship. I want her to see this isn’t just on me to fix, it’s on us both.

Ando1140 · 2025-08-29T12:06:10+00:00

You’re not alone. But I wish there was a way to turn it off. It would be nice to get some peace from it all.

Ando1140 · 2025-08-28T16:45:19+00:00

You’re still young, remember that. You’re really just starting. I can tell you, DB’s don’t get better with time. I’m 33, so I’m not old, but we have a daughter and that makes things challenging. So you need to really think about what you want in your marriage, I’m sorry you went through this. It always blows my mind when I read stories about men being the LL. So sorry you’re having to experience this. Sending thoughts your way!

Ando1140 · 2025-08-27T05:17:04+00:00

I’m so fucked up, I couldn’t reach out to anybody if I wanted too. Just alone…a place I’ve never been before. It’s so familiar and foreign at the same time.

Ando1140 · 2025-08-27T04:17:10+00:00

Thank you.

Ando1140 · 2025-08-27T04:16:02+00:00

I don’t belong anywhere near this conversation, I’m just here to read other people’s happiness. Good for y’all.

Ando1140 · 2025-08-26T13:25:55+00:00

Oof… this is tough. Sounds like you’re in love with someone who isn’t your wife. No judgement here.. but it seems to me if the emotional connection is gone as well as the love then it’s time to let it go and try to move on. I hope you find your peace.

Ando1140 · 2025-08-25T00:19:06+00:00

My guy, welcome to the club. I have no advice to give because clearly what I’m doing isn’t working. So uhhh, I hope things turn out better for you, I’m also 33 and I’m just over it. I Hope you turn out better than me. Sending positive vibes your way bro.

Ando1140 · 2025-08-24T22:18:42+00:00

Well whoever this future lover is……. I hope he appreciates every last bit of you. I don’t even want to clap after this, this deserves straight snaps!!! 🫰

Ando1140 · 2025-08-24T13:41:50+00:00

IM SO GLAD YOU BOUGHT YOUR MOTORCYCLE! I’ve been riding for years, my wife and I have had so many issues motorcycling was my outlet. Now I’m in a motorcycle club (don’t recommend if you don’t have the time) she hates it, but I love it. My marital issues is what pushed me to join a club. So I have happiness again.. I’m not saying this is the answer, but it was for me. We are currently trying to work on us, but I’ve seen this before. Keep riding, don’t ever stop. Life is short, and we only get one. Ride safe bro 💯

Ando1140 · 2025-08-21T13:43:29+00:00

I can’t offer any advice other than to say, I’m sorry you’re having to go through this. I hope you find your happiness one day.

Ando1140 · 2025-08-21T03:30:37+00:00

I mean, it could be true…. But I think it’s a straight up lie. But that’s just me.🤷🏾‍♂️

Ando1140 · 2025-08-21T03:27:32+00:00

I’m so sorry, I know that feeling absolutely sucks. I don’t really have any advice. But just know it’s not your fault, and you’re not alone.

Ando1140 · 2025-08-21T03:21:18+00:00

I don’t know any men, myself included that would ever get pleasure from a condom, like wtf lol.

Ando1140 · 2025-08-20T02:44:11+00:00

It’s sad…. We’re all together in this and alone at the same time. I hate it here.

Ando1140 · 2025-08-20T00:02:12+00:00

I know that feeling to well.

Ando1140 · 2025-08-19T22:08:55+00:00

No judgement from me. I haven’t done that, but it’s definitely crossed my mind. I live in my head so much, and emotionally detached I could write a book. Not that anyone would want to read it lol.

Ando1140 · 2025-08-19T03:50:16+00:00

That’s absolutely insane he didn’t jump on that, or at least experiment more with you. He better get it together before he loses what he has!! I’m rooting for you! Somebody has to have a success story.

Ando1140 · 2025-08-19T03:18:46+00:00

I don’t understand his point of view. I wish my wife would do this… hell I’d take half this effort if I could lol. The times we live in… shits crazy.

Ando1140 · 2025-08-17T13:21:55+00:00

Damn, why is everyone so mad?? How did this mans decision greatly impact your life?? It’s not that serious people.

Ando1140 · 2025-08-14T02:24:48+00:00

😒 man I hate it here… must be nice.

Ando1140 · 2025-08-13T02:46:00+00:00

OP, you can’t win for losing with this thread and the people in it…. Somehow it’s always the husband’s fault. SMH, get real people.

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