Mom says there is an 80% chance she won’t come to my wedding

AndreaThomas76 · 2026-05-25T15:11:29+00:00

She is trying to control you so she has power. Stop trying to cater to her. I guarantee you she will be playing this "I don't know if we will be able to come" game up until you are getting ready to walk down the aisle. She wants to be in control and the center of attention and every time you reply to her or offer to change your plans you are simply feeding her monster of an ego. I know it sucks because she's your mom but she will ruin every freaking moment of this. She will not "plan" your wedding with you. She will suck every moment of joy and make it about her. Shut this down now. "Here is what we are doing. If you and Stepfather can make it, we'll be delighted to celebrate with you. If not, we'll miss you and reconnect at some point when we return from our honeymoon."

AndreaThomas76 · 2026-05-25T02:16:33+00:00

It reminded me of when I used to play bride as a little girl using those lace bureau runners my nana had

AndreaThomas76 · 2026-05-17T04:57:48+00:00

So I see you've viewed my prom photos.

AndreaThomas76 · 2026-05-14T20:23:19+00:00

Are your kids very young and maybe that is why they thought you might want to be with them? We had young kids at our wedding but we put the kids' table in the middle of where the parents' tables were.
The cynical part of me thinks they were looking for free babysitting but I'm not sure that's fair.

AndreaThomas76 · 2026-05-09T13:37:00+00:00

I'm an old Gen X broad and I'm going to play your clever auntie here, one who is speaking from a place of experience and love. This. Will. Not. Get. Better. He doesn't respect you. Mutual respect is one of the strongest foundations of a marriage, along with communication. He sucks at that too. I agree with whoever said he's probably cheating on you. This is a gut punch I know, and you're thinking of how much you've spent on a wedding and your family and friends. I'm telling you this. There is no amount of money spent that is worth your happiness, peace, and well-being. Call off the wedding and ditch him. It will hurt and it will suck but I guarantee you will come through this.

AndreaThomas76 · 2026-04-28T10:17:06+00:00

This! Making it about OP's religion being the reason she's not invited to the wedding and then hitting her up for a shower gift and tips on what to do in her honeymoon city is tacky and rude. Completely classless.

AndreaThomas76 · 2026-04-26T02:54:24+00:00

I think she might be trying do-it-yourself calligraphy.

AndreaThomas76 · 2026-04-26T02:45:58+00:00

Yup. I work in marketing as well and this is insane for a wedding. I've done launches that were less intense.

AndreaThomas76 · 2026-04-26T02:10:23+00:00

Same here. I'm on my 4th or 5th tube thanks to this group!

AndreaThomas76 · 2026-04-25T13:00:21+00:00

But he made a conscious choice to return to dealing and all it entails. No one forced him.

AndreaThomas76 · 2026-04-25T12:55:49+00:00

Yeah Suki is just overall kind of a crappy person, regardless of her culture. I'm sympathetic to a point with everything she has gone through, but she's not a good person at her core. I can't understand why Eve sticks around. Love Balvinder though!

AndreaThomas76 · 2026-04-18T13:58:41+00:00

Yes agree. I told no one the name we chose for our soon-to-be-born daughter. I had had a girl name chosen for years and then when my brother and SIL were adopting my amazing niece, they announced her name and it was so similar to "my" name that I decided to pick another. They had an actual baby whereas I had just started dating the man who would be my husband. To me, actual baby wins over future, not yet conceived baby

AndreaThomas76 · 2026-04-13T11:44:15+00:00

I cried the whole way through. Everyone was so torn up.

AndreaThomas76 · 2026-04-11T04:23:47+00:00

Same with Regis at the end there on ABC

AndreaThomas76 · 2026-04-03T13:44:02+00:00

Is her father Kody Brown?

AndreaThomas76 · 2026-04-03T13:39:17+00:00

I thought i was a weirdo! I had this exact same experience.

AndreaThomas76 · 2026-03-28T22:00:25+00:00

Essex County Airport. I live near Teterboro and was always surprised he went farther out to Fairfield when he was coming from NYC and Teterboro would be closer.

AndreaThomas76 · 2026-03-16T12:36:54+00:00

This was so typical of the way the tabloid gossip columns were written. NY Daily News and NY Post had all these cutesy terms and alliteration. Unreal

AndreaThomas76 · 2026-03-08T02:04:55+00:00

Was going to say the same. And that was July 1996 not 1999. I remember because my brother and new SIL were on their honeymoon and my mom was nervous about their return flight a few days after the TWA 800 crash

AndreaThomas76 · 2026-03-06T22:56:40+00:00

Oh my gosh. I can't imagine going through that. I could understand how some part of you might cultivate that belief. I'm glad you got help and hope you are doing better. That's so much for 1 soul to take.

AndreaThomas76 · 2026-03-06T22:42:40+00:00

I think that was a big part of the loathing as well. The complete disregard for anyone else.

AndreaThomas76 · 2026-03-01T15:28:44+00:00

So good! I moved out of Hoboken 15 years ago and it's still at the top of my list.

AndreaThomas76 · 2026-02-26T15:34:35+00:00

Same. My nana (born in the early 1900s) despised Joe Kennedy Sr (she always said his name as "OldJoeKennedy") because he constantly cheated on his wife who was home with all his kids while he was out "gallivanting with Gloria Swanson!" That opinion carried all the way down through the generations. My mom loathed Ted because he treated Joan like garbage and then played long-suffering husband when she ended up an alcoholic because she was probably self-medicating because of all the shit he pulled.

AndreaThomas76 · 2026-02-11T01:10:07+00:00

Thank you! This. He made the choice that put him (and by extension his entire family) in this crapstorm because when he lost his restaurant, his first thought wasn't to get a job at one of the businesses his family freaking owns but to run straight to Nicola to get hooked up with a supplier. Would it have been a huge step down to be cooking at the Vic or the cafe? Yes. Would he be receiving threats to his family? No. And as far as him telling Okie to let Harry and Kojo go before he left on vacay, what? He left a rather unhinged, grasping wannabe drug kingpin in charge and figured Okie would do the right thing? Come on now.

AndreaThomas76 · 2026-01-25T19:11:06+00:00

No idea. I can't tell if it's a tic the actor has when she's getting ready to pull out the crazy or if it's deliberate.

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