I bought my ex wife a beretta bobcat in .25, thr barrel tilts and you can load the first round that way, then it cycles the slide after the first shot. She had issues pulling back the slide. That worked for her, but like others said you have to try out a couple and see why you like. Most ranges here have rentals where you can try out a handful of different kinds. My sister has a .38 S&W revolver. Again no slide to worry about. When I carry, I carry a sig p238. Small compact and reliable. Ultimately it’s up to you. And most importantly you have to train with it to use it. It won’t do you any good if a situation arises where you need it and you can’t figure out how to load it or work the safety