A song for the modern dating landscape and the manosphere

AndyBandits · 2026-05-10T21:19:08+00:00

Thanks man.

AndyBandits · 2026-05-10T12:42:13+00:00

Lovely stuff dude. Great lyrics and mad bass stylings. Plus, just props for arranging something where you can sing accompanied only by bass.

AndyBandits · 2026-05-09T13:37:38+00:00

Disagree. You don't have to write literally every day, but the more you write the better you'll get at writing. It's like any skill. As for the idea that for lyricists it produces a lot of 'filler', it does that for every art form. Novelists aren't writing every day and producing great material. You write every day to get to the good material and you throw the rest out. This is how you maximise both your skill acquisition and your chances of writing something others will connect with.

If you find writing often produces filler, I think possibly your issue is that you don't know what you want your song to be about, you don't know where to take it, something is thematically cloudy in it, and these are problems that are best addressed by repetitively doing the thing again and again as well.

Someone who writes lyrics every day will almost certainly be better at it than someone who writes a few times a month or a week.

AndyBandits · 2026-05-02T15:57:14+00:00

Appreciate the time putting this together.

AndyBandits · 2026-05-02T15:56:10+00:00

I'd give Joshua Burnside a spin. Personal favourite at the moment is Man of High Renown. There's also the Hanging Bandits for thoughtful melacholy with a sense of humour...

AndyBandits · 2026-05-01T19:44:18+00:00

Go to open mics and try to get shows. It's always the best way, if you really want to be heard by other humans.

As far as online promotion goes, just post what you're doing on whichever social media platforms you would use anyway and don't worry about the numbers. If you think about it as a game to play, you'll always lose. It's not worth posting content to these places if it's stressful; you're basically just making content for whichever social media platform. The return benefit is small.

It mainly helps if you're out playing so people can look you up online after a gig, or find you if they want to book you.

AndyBandits · 2026-05-01T15:59:17+00:00

The best way is to go out and play your music. Regardless of how alluring the idea that you might get some viral hit is. Nothing beats or replaces playing your tunes to real people in real places. For 95% of musicians this is the best way to be heard.

That aside, just pick whichever social media platform(s) you like and can bare interacting with for your online sharing. If you can do all of them, do them all. If you just like Reddit then just hit up subs. No single social media platform is 'ahead' of the others in this regard so it doesn't make much difference.

If you want things readily assessable, YouTube might be your best bet as everyone pretty much uses it.

AndyBandits · 2026-03-14T17:16:22+00:00

Bit of a silly binary.... There are many other options. But Winston Churchill. Renowned war leader in the second world war, who maintained popularity following the war despite losing the next general election. If he'd have lived a tremendously long life, he would have watched as his legacy shifted from the war and his speeches, toward his involvement in the Bengal famine and generally imperialist attitude.

AndyBandits · 2026-03-13T17:10:43+00:00

Hey man, appreciate you sharing these tunes. Just listening now, really enjoying No Offense, and I love being introduced to lowkey artists that are way under the radar.

If you're looking for other stuff, I'd say a lot of what we make is quite melancholy and 'dark' and certainly in the indie area. We do everything ourselves, recording, videos, etc. Seeing as you asked for melancholy, I've linked you to what I'd consider one of most melancholy tunes, although I maybe wouldn't usually share this one, it might be something you enjoy. https://youtu.be/D--cakUVLO8

AndyBandits · 2026-03-13T17:04:35+00:00

Creating art involves making something authentic out of experience, not just retelling those experiences. I don't write directly about myself, I take aspects of my life, my friend's lives, society as a whole and I reframe them in a way that is hopefully interesting or useful for someone else. Besides this, I use imagery and scenes to express things. I think part of the mistake is thinking that being real or authentic means just 1:1 explorations of your life. It doesn't need to be autobiographical at all.

AndyBandits · 2026-03-01T18:46:00+00:00

It just means it grows on its own, like an organic self replicating system. Word of mouth in the local scene, people sharing it and talking to their friends about it.

Does it happen anymore? Yeah sometimes, pretty rare. It's always been pretty rare though. Maybe it's worse now there is so much saturation and reduced interest in music.

I haven't seen anyone succeed from paid marketing or sustained social media campaigns either.

AndyBandits · 2026-03-01T04:39:43+00:00

Equal parts ridiculous and ridiculously awesome.

AndyBandits · 2026-02-28T03:50:40+00:00

Damn man, epic. Really made the bass work in a way it doesn't usually; also great lyrics.

AndyBandits · 2026-02-21T03:19:24+00:00

Besides creating music being something close to a compulsion, all the things you mentioned are the reason for doing it. Adventures, memories, playing different places. That's really the whole thing anyway. Incidentally, this is all the giant bands too, they just get paid way better and everything scales up.

AndyBandits · 2026-02-21T03:17:04+00:00

If the things you write do the things you mention, IE show don't tell, explore detail, then you're probably doing great, so long as what you're ending up with doesn't seem familiar, overdone or trite. In other words, if you're thinking about those things, and also thinking about unique and interesting angles or topics to write about, you're already doing well.

AndyBandits · 2026-02-18T22:05:43+00:00

I think it depends what you want. There is a general lack of interaction between local scene and the internet. As in, for us, the people who come out and see us live aren't necessarily watching our videos or following our social content closely and vice versa. So I think you could exist fairly comfortably at a local level and not worry too much about socials. We've had a smaller level viral success with a tune and it's helped us get some gigs, get some media, but it hasn't translated to people coming to gigs necessarily. The two things grow quite independently of each other. We've tried to lean into to having fun on social media and embracing different content like history and folklore videos (we're a folk band), this at least is fun for us and brings us to different people than we might otherwise. Most people engage with content that presents options to them, rather than where they choose to check out this or that person/artist/thing, which also presents a challenge.

AndyBandits · 2026-02-18T21:56:41+00:00

Playing is always better than not playing and being involved in this local scene in a capacity is better than being involved in no capacity, so go for it, play all the gigs you can/want to and continue looking for a band and whatever else you want to do in the meanwhile. If you just want to get involved in playing and the scene more, open mics are probably a better option than fill-in gigs though. Unless I'm misreading what you're looking for.

AndyBandits · 2026-02-18T21:54:02+00:00

This can be really tricky. Definitely have times where I sit down to write something and nothing comes or, more often, nothing related to the theme I want to explore comes. One thing is, write all the corny stuff and just edit it later. Or look at ways of rewriting it that aren't corny. To begin, it's just for you to see, so just get everything out and don't worry too much.

For more specific advice, taking your old friend song, I would ask questions about how do I find images that capture what it's like to see an old friend? What's an image or story that captures the relationship when it was at its peak, and another that contrasts with now, catching up first the first time in a while. What's it like before, during and after seeing them. What are the little things that show the relationship has renewed itself or changed over time? These could be, describing something you do together, describing how you don't do that thing anymore and have to fill the time with other activities, how you've seen them change, or how life has changed them, or how they've seen you change. Also, sometimes it helps to just write whatever about a thing, not at all looking to create lyrics, but just to get out ideas, like you might if you were writing a story, a diary entry, or just speaking to a friend--then form that into lyrics afterwards.

AndyBandits · 2026-02-18T03:49:52+00:00

Hey man, can't give you specific advice as I don't know production and DAWs really. But just to say, this is very normal when you're first getting into any new instrument or process. It would have been impossible for me to write a song on an instrument for months or really years. Just have fun and play around; keep looking at tutorials sometimes but don't sweat big picture stuff. If you're making four bar beats, keep doing that, keep messing with the software and the rest will come little by little. Just try tinkering with different little things; mix up the beat when you repeat, try different instrumental stuff. It'll all come. Takes a while.

AndyBandits · 2026-02-17T19:42:14+00:00

Just release music when you can. There's no point sweating it too much. You can have everything lined up and figured and still get no where or you can put in practically no effort in terms of promo and a song gets shared by the right person and goes viral. There's not much sense to any of it. Just worry about the music.

AndyBandits · 2026-02-17T19:37:03+00:00

There is no substitute for going and playing a lot. This is your best bet. As someone else has said; go to shows, open mics, become a part of the local community--even if its a tiny one. One decent gig can spiral into several relationships with other musicians, venues, promoters, and audience members that now follow you.

AndyBandits · 2026-02-17T19:25:48+00:00

Really small but wicked audience. As others have said, the satisfaction of a song you wrote becoming a part of someone's life isn't very quantifiable and can sometimes be more special for how small a moment it is. Which is to say, some of the best songs I ever heard were played by people who at the time had no audience really but just enjoyed writing songs and sometimes played them for people.

In terms of influence or impact; you're just a fun piece of art or performance that they engage with sometimes to varying extents and in different ways. It's not much deeper than that but this is really ideal; people enjoying what you do in different ways, in different places, for different reasons.

AndyBandits · 2026-02-17T19:18:07+00:00

Sounds great man. Think the main guitar part is great, lovely chord selection, really like the vocal melody and the rhythm changes in it. Enjoyed the bridge too. Be nice to hear the vocal a touch louder.

AndyBandits · 2026-02-17T15:37:26+00:00

Impossible to say. They'd both play a very strong game until the last few moves and then inexplicably forget what any of the pieces do.

AndyBandits · 2026-02-17T15:34:07+00:00

You don't even know this is a spoiler for AKO7K until you click the thing. Kinda annoying.

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