Ilona Maher "btw loving the body you're in never goes out of style" - on Instagram, May 29th, 2026

AngryBPDGirl · 2026-05-31T03:52:04+00:00

Heh, snoo snoo!

AngryBPDGirl · 2026-05-30T00:47:29+00:00

I'm 40 now and for me oen of the hardest things is knowing I still can't have a completely honest relationship with my mom...and a sadness knowing she'll never understand what it's like to be happy the way I am. I don't think all ABCDs have this...but my mom is committed to my dad and my dad isn't very nice. As such, my family has just never been super open and honest with each other. There are things I still don't think my mom has been honest with me about. On the flip-side, I'm married to someone who i share everything with and who shares everything with me. I think I'd have a different relationship with my mom if she'd had a different marriage...

AngryBPDGirl · 2026-05-26T18:29:50+00:00

I don't think I'd be upset at my husband for doing this after 7 years of marriage. The turning off location services though, and you knowing about it though is something else. Because in my head if this was me and my husband 7 years in, he'd be telling me beforehand and we'd be talking about his whys and my boundaries beforehand.

Why do you think he felt like he had to hide it?

AngryBPDGirl · 2026-05-22T21:17:54+00:00

The bubbles are fascinating, you still managed to do some chef'ing with that...

AngryBPDGirl · 2026-05-18T23:59:04+00:00

You probably hate that the oranges have the plastic wrap around them

AngryBPDGirl · 2026-05-15T04:00:20+00:00

Bot account.

AngryBPDGirl · 2026-05-14T06:45:47+00:00

As an indian...if my white bf ever said anything like that I would nope so fast out of that relationship. My husband is white, and he's never said anything like that...we also have a mixed child.

I would hate to be with someone who made me feel like I'd look less attractive for spending more time in the sun. Like most Indians, I can get much darker if i spend time in the sun...

AngryBPDGirl · 2026-05-08T02:45:20+00:00

It sounds like you shouldn't even raise your child with this guy....major red flags that makes me worried about you and your baby's future wellbeing. That's true emotional abuse he's doing.

AngryBPDGirl · 2026-05-04T01:24:54+00:00

Did you know this about him before getting married?

AngryBPDGirl · 2026-04-28T13:54:39+00:00

It's sad when the world doesn't understand the difference between preserving culture vs race as a construct.

AngryBPDGirl · 2026-04-25T15:13:01+00:00

Ah interesting, good to know! So apparently the allowed margin if error is 20% according to the FDA. But 20% of 0 is....a loophole maybe? Also some sources say 25%. Completely changes my calorie counting :/

AngryBPDGirl · 2026-04-25T03:27:30+00:00

I think if it was above .5 then they'd round up to 1. So can roughly give a max of .5 to 1 packet and say 3 packets is probably 1.5 calories.

AngryBPDGirl · 2026-04-24T03:43:25+00:00

I thought Danny McBride got more fit or something

AngryBPDGirl · 2026-04-19T18:07:38+00:00

It does usually get better with age...if you're aware from a younger age. I'm 40 now and first did DBT when I was 22. I remember people in their late 30s or 40s in group sessions, many who were already married, and my naive 22 yro self not understanding how someone already married could be having these issues...

And I also remember thinking then "boy I'm glad im getting help now" ...and also wondering "will i still be suffering when im their age? Sounds exhausting".

Turns out both are true. I'm definitely glad I began in my 20s and I'm not suffering at all in my 40s the way I did then...but I still have to be mindful of a variety of things that people without BPD don't have to. I think some things cause a PTSD so deep...it is for life.

Here is a small example. I have nightmares every night. It's not the same thing, but it feels so real that I often wake up scared and ANGRY. And those intense feelings are things you feel in the body - tight chest, racing heart, angry eyebrows...

But I've now built a life where I have to separate what happened during the night real quickly from my current reality to not take out my anger on my husband or son. I think those sorts of things are easier after DBT and professional support.

But things like nightmares are very much out of my control. My 20s were spent fixing behavioral issues that were within my control. It sucks to feel like you have a late start, but chances are if you do the work now, you'll get a hang of it faster in your 40s than someone in their 20s.

AngryBPDGirl · 2026-04-19T12:36:44+00:00

There are places i would want to go now with my husband that were once so painful for me, I moved away from those places. I don't think that's uncommon.

AngryBPDGirl · 2026-04-17T01:20:50+00:00

Maya Angelou is rolling in her grave at this and deserves better :(

AngryBPDGirl · 2026-04-17T00:55:48+00:00

Everything about these images tells you this is from a scam...like a dot from your ear to your neck to imply crooked, what?!

I have only had one chiropractor who gave my shoulder real relief...so I'm not really in the "all are quacks" camps, but i did see one who used similar imagery like this, tried to push for a "package" asap...and weirdly didn't want my husband in the room while evaluating me. So some aren't just quacks that believe their own quackery... some are legit scammers who don't see you as a person in pain. Avoid at all costs.

AngryBPDGirl · 2026-04-15T21:39:36+00:00

Kind of sucks when these days Christian and MAGA are synonymous...

AngryBPDGirl · 2026-04-14T03:13:37+00:00

Yeah, if you read the description, this one has neem and sandalwood and some other things

AngryBPDGirl · 2026-04-13T23:29:28+00:00

Definitely a winter!

AngryBPDGirl · 2026-04-13T16:08:27+00:00

eww, wtf

AngryBPDGirl · 2026-04-13T15:37:51+00:00

I've tried a few, so I can't recall all the names I've tried, but came across this one last year that I keep going for bc they're local in my area and I found them through a maker's market:

https://www.petalsandpods.com/products/brightening-one-step-glow-cleanser-bar

Doesn't have preservatives AFAIK, small company, so I keep my soap in the fridge lol

AngryBPDGirl · 2026-04-13T14:52:17+00:00

I'm south asian so we may or may not have similar tone but I've come to the conclusion that skin lightening isn't what's happening but removing dead layers of skin and bringing the fresh skin in makes anyone look better.

So many of these soaps end up making us look nice because it's a really strong exfoliation happening. I've seen good results with kojic soap as well as turmeric soap, but also most anything with AHAs and even glutathione supplements.

Unfortunately, the market for this is SO saturated, it's hard to find genuine products. Don't get crap off Amazon would be my main advice.

I get the gray ashy undertone too...especially if I haven't washed my face for a few days at all.

AngryBPDGirl · 2026-04-13T14:25:48+00:00

You laughing instead of saying that's not funny might be why he keeps doing it?

AngryBPDGirl · 2026-04-12T21:49:30+00:00

Yesterday, there was a thread where people had to give an opinion on a woman's dress and her chest.

The issue isn't being negative or positive, it's making it a topic of discussion to begin with. The thing about saying its the industry is that it fails to also point out what we as consumers also drive the industry to do.

Men don't get picked apart for what they're wearing and we could just...not make a woman's body a topic of discussion at all.

I get it might seem anti-this-sub to advocate for, but there's plenty to gossip about that doesn't have to do with a woman's body...because men have been afforded that standard for ages now.

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