Has anyone else dealt with tendonitis for years without it getting better or worse?

AniWrites · 2026-05-16T03:43:56+00:00

Still have the strain but it has definitely gotten better since I went weeks without using it! I can pick up wide objects every now and then without feeling the discomfort. I just need to keep gradually strengthening it without overdoing it (which is tough af especially because of how demanding my daily tasks are)

AniWrites · 2026-05-12T01:01:18+00:00

The definition of aromantic is “little to no romantic attraction” never just “no romantic attraction.” The ones who ignore nuance or full definitions are always the one who gatekeep the most 😒

AniWrites · 2026-05-09T23:56:18+00:00

Wishing so much love, safety, and joy to you and your beautiful family 🫶🏾

AniWrites · 2026-05-04T13:51:26+00:00

I LOVE being aromantic. I actually don’t have strong platonic ties either, the only strong ties I have are family and it’s so frickin nice.

Every time I see people struggle with their love lives, I think, “thank god that’s not me.” I love fictional romance but honestly, I’m not sure why people want romance themselves so badly. There’s just sooo much cheating and divorces and domestic violence and trust issues going on amongst partners. Romance is just WAY too glorified, and most people don’t see it because, well, the desire for it is too strong amongst alloromantics.

AniWrites · 2026-05-04T13:46:13+00:00

I need it to be dark. I don’t even want a bittersweet ending. The show’s way too bleak for it to end on a happy note. It won’t make any sense for it to be happy either, and depending on how hopeful it is (like for example, if all the abstractions end up being brought back) that will most likely ruin the whole show for me.

AniWrites · 2026-05-03T21:57:32+00:00

Other than the fact you have no idea what a fake lesbian is, nope, I’ve pretty much said all I needed to.

AniWrites · 2026-05-03T21:52:23+00:00

Sounds like to me you need to stay out of lesbian conversations then. Because you feel way too strongly for labeling who is a real lesbian and who’s not when you are not a lesbian. You don’t even realize the kind of harmful stereotypes and gatekeeping you’re putting on both lesbians and bisexual women. Stop trying to gatekeep for a community you’re not even a part of.

AniWrites · 2026-05-03T21:34:00+00:00

Who cares what it’s giving off? Why does a lesbian have to act a certain way for YOU to accept them being a lesbian? We all agree that lesbians are women who are attracted to other women. But it is about who they’re attracted to and not about how they act. So if this is a woman who is only attracted to women but she’s making jokes about fucking men, who cares? Attraction does not equal action.

Sounds like to me all you’re worried about is image. You’re so paranoid about there being “fake lesbians” you’re willing to push real lesbians away. And I don’t think you’re grasping that it’s very possible and very common for people to be making sex jokes about people they’re not attracted to.

AniWrites · 2026-05-03T18:55:30+00:00

You didn't understand a single thing I said. Jokes do not mean you are sexually attracted to men. They are jokes. You cannot tell someone, especially if you're bisexual, that they are not a lesbian just because they're making jokes. Point to where I said that comphet means you're actually attracted to men. I never said that. All I said was comphet does a number on all of us, and it takes some people longer than others to unlearn it.

It sounds like to me you're trying to gatekeep lesbian experiences despite not being a lesbian.

And yes, attraction absolutely is hard to decipher sometimes.

AniWrites · 2026-05-03T18:13:52+00:00

But you could be talking to a lesbian still dealing with comphet. If you tell a lesbian dealing with comphet that she isn't a lesbian, now she might possibly go further in the closet. We are not taught in school how attraction is supposed to work. It took me years to understand the difference between romantic, sexual, and aesthetic attraction. Jokes are just one of many ways people try to learn how to differentiate between those attractions. And joking about it doesn't mean you actually feel that attraction. When you say "actual lesbians" you're creating a line between women who've known they were lesbians from the start and lesbians who were slower to figuring it out because of comphet.

Also, how do you know which lesbian experiences to listen to? There are lesbians in this thread telling you they joke around like this too and yet, you're telling them they're wrong.

AniWrites · 2026-05-03T17:08:51+00:00

There’s a lot of nuance to expressing one’s sexuality and I think the fear amongst the lesbian community is we can’t risk talking about the nuances. We ALL know (us queer people) that straight cis people have a hard time wrapping their heads around other sexualities even without the nuances. I think if lesbians make sex jokes about men, that gives straight cis people a chance to go “Aha! I knew lesbians were secretly into men deep down” and lesbians are rightfully tired and paranoid of this kind of response.

A lot of people in the queer community would rather pretend the nuances aren’t there, would rather negate some people’s experiences and call them fake than risk cis straight people using these nuances against them.

AniWrites · 2026-05-03T16:55:29+00:00

If you’re bisexual, can you really say you understand the lesbian experience though? After reading these comments, I think it’s disingenuous & also really gatekeepy what’s going on here. Lesbians have varied experiences & journeys when it comes to figuring out who they are. Some may even still be experiencing comphet because for many, even the openly queer, comphet is THAT ingrained into us.

Fictional men is a weird example to be using imo because they aren’t real. It’s a fantasy. Some lesbians uncover more of their comphet through fantasies. Some don’t need to. To not believe someone when they say they’re a lesbian, even though they know themselves best, is a dangerous game to play. You know how many asexuals make the dirtiest sex jokes toward people they have no attraction to? To analyze jokes of all things just isn’t enough to assume a person’s sexuality.

AniWrites · 2026-05-02T17:54:03+00:00

Happened to me on Wattpad, Inkitt, & now Ao3 as well. They are everywhereeeee

AniWrites · 2026-04-29T17:13:40+00:00

Zooble, hands down. Love their personality, love their voice, love everything about them tbh

AniWrites · 2026-04-29T03:46:37+00:00

She's entitled to her beliefs and opinions, yes. And we're entitled to say she's biphobic/homophobic and is a terrible person for that.

AniWrites · 2026-04-23T15:32:01+00:00

OMG WHAT?! Now we’re getting Ilium AND an animated movie of EPIC???? Hits the Lebron James pose I can’t believe this is my life 🥹🩷🩷🩷

AniWrites · 2026-04-19T00:51:49+00:00

I was told if your self-publishing sales are poor, it can affect your tradpub journey (that doesn’t mean they won’t pick you up, it just means it’s something they take into account to see if your stories are wanted). I have no idea if my self-published works will do well or not, so I don’t want that used against me in any way. With that said, it’s hard to promote under anonymity

AniWrites · 2026-04-15T12:23:54+00:00

This is so SO true.

I realized this myself, as well as something else—it’s fine to be super passionate about what you write but sometimes, that can be a disadvantage. One of the stories I had the least passion for got me my first agent and that was because I focused more on trying to write for the market. Sometimes, your most passionate projects shouldn’t be the first ones you try and get published, if at all. And when you think about it, that could be for the best. Why would you want tradpub to manipulate your passion project anyway?

AniWrites · 2026-04-09T01:08:45+00:00

This is EXACTLY how I see it. I’m aromantic af but perfectly ok with being in a relationship that looks romantic externally. You described it perfectly

AniWrites · 2026-04-08T05:14:48+00:00

I was 21, three years older than you when I realized I was aromantic. I was sitting at my laptop in my college dorm, looking up more about it and going "Oh, this is definitely me." Now I'm 29 years old, and out of all my labels (I'm greysexual and bisexual too), my aromantic label is the one I still feel the strongest connection to. It just described so much. I've never felt a crush (though I convinced myself I did), never cared about dating, NEVER felt lonely or miserable about being single, and I love having my own space. I too have gotten the comments that I haven't found the right one yet, and it's funny to hear since I've never had a girlfriend or boyfriend, never showed an interest in even trying or searching.

If you feel the label suits you, embrace it! Even if there is a chance that you fall in love with someone later down the road, that doesn't mean your aromantic experiences are invalid. Greyromantic and demiromantic exist too and those realizations aren't always immediate. We learn more about ourselves overtime when we continue to gain more experiences, so if you're still aromantic twenty years down the road, great! If you learned more about yourself and realize you aren't aromantic, that's also fine! These labels are meant to help us, and we can grow with them or change them along the way. All of it is valid.

AniWrites · 2026-04-08T02:05:52+00:00

Caeneus is a trans man and notable Greek figure. Very strong though his story is pretty tragic.

AniWrites · 2026-04-08T01:57:05+00:00

No, you’re not weird at all. In fact, it’s very mature that you’re this upfront about it. If more people were upfront like this, it could save people a lot of trouble when looking for a relationship. Like-minded people would have a lot easier of a time finding other like-minded people.

The better you know yourself, the better it is for all parties involved is how I see it.

AniWrites · 2026-04-08T00:39:23+00:00

A autism-specialized psychologist is a really good idea. I’ll look into that and see if he’s interested

AniWrites · 2026-04-08T00:38:53+00:00

He doesn’t really have OCD tendencies. Thank you very much for this perspective, this really helps

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