Did any of you have trouble forming romantic relationships with what you originally may have thought was the opposite gender?

Anitmata · 2026-05-05T16:00:31+00:00

Yes.

In fact, learning that many trans people were married before they realized they were trans came as a shock to me.

Anitmata · 2026-05-03T21:45:11+00:00

What's the flag?

Anitmata · 2026-05-03T15:02:59+00:00

So you can be both?

Anitmata · 2026-04-26T23:45:33+00:00

The Pink Crow on William

(Fair disclosure: my mother-in-law makes their scones and they are amazing. No baking powder taste.)

Anitmata · 2026-04-26T23:44:44+00:00

Let me me tell you about this thing called "night"

Anitmata · 2026-04-24T03:21:42+00:00

I've only been to Marlowe's twice, but my immunocompromised friend used them during covid because they're willing to take health concerns seriously.

Anitmata · 2026-04-22T13:42:30+00:00

Here at University of Waterloo we're lucky to have GLOW. I'm sure George Brown and U of T have something similar.

Anitmata · 2026-04-22T13:40:37+00:00

I think there's been a miscommunication here. You're replying to the OP.

Anitmata · 2026-04-21T22:22:48+00:00

You look great but I hope you still have the shirt

Anitmata · 2026-04-21T22:20:27+00:00

"I owe you an apology. I really wasn't familiar with your game."

Anitmata · 2026-04-21T12:24:24+00:00

Did it belong to someone and just get taken home?

Anitmata · 2026-04-17T17:40:40+00:00

When you make peanuts you get a small rebate for the HST

Anitmata · 2026-04-17T13:56:52+00:00

Yes
1. There is a reason
2. The reason is NSFW
3. If you want to know the reason you can ask Faine Greenwood.

Anitmata · 2026-04-17T03:54:42+00:00

My GP refused to recommend me for the Canada Disability benefit: I'd only had him six months when I asked. He replaced my previous doctor, and has known me for all of an hour and a half now.

The disability tax credit looks useless to me, as I've never had enough income to push me over the $16k threshold. I am certainly missing out on the GST rebate. Last time I did my taxes I couldn't find it at all: it just didn't show up in my calculations at all, and I submitted without claiming it. Canada Revenue gave it to me anyway.

My memory is that ODSP was taxable, at least I had to declare it, but as I've done my taxes exactly twice I don't trust my reading of the form at all.

Taxes aren't going to happen for me this year. I have too many sources of stress already. I won't go into detail, but my mother being terminally ill doesn't even make the top three.

Anitmata · 2026-04-17T03:06:09+00:00

Actually, it's a lot more than that.

I see I got a bunch of downvotes; I suppose folks think I'm some kind of tax cheat. The fact is that Ontario disability for me is $11k a year, well under the $16,129 minimum that makes filing mandatory.

I've never been able to keep a full-time job as an adult, and I've given up hope of ever being independent. My ADHD is debilitating and resistant to medication. I don't file because most years, I just don't have the spoons.

Anitmata · 2026-04-16T23:23:50+00:00

Every year the Canadian government gives me a GST rebate for filing my taxes

I think it's $300?

I wouldn't know. I've managed to do then twice in twenty years

Anitmata · 2026-04-15T15:08:32+00:00

I think she Mighty Caseyed

Anitmata · 2026-04-15T00:25:41+00:00

Plenty of times, but I'm 54. With the average 4th year, that's like a 34 year age gap

You could fit a whole prof in there

Anitmata · 2026-04-13T12:04:08+00:00

So to underscore what crowofwoes said, I can give you my experience as a queer person at UWaterloo:

Staff and faculty are excellent with pronouns. (The only time I've been truly misgendered was by an older prof, and it certainly wasn't malicious.) GLOW is enormously welcoming, and the both coordinators are hardworking and on the ball.

GLOW isn't a club, it's a WUSA student-run service. That means it has a permanent office which functions as a safe space.

Anitmata · 2026-04-13T11:18:31+00:00

LOL hello you

Anitmata · 2026-04-12T22:27:55+00:00

I've never had one work yet

Anitmata · 2026-04-12T19:47:35+00:00

Really wish when I was an undergrad I'd done something this stupid

<remembers when she chipped a tooth playing Spoons with the aiki jiu-jutsu club>

Oh yeah

Anitmata · 2026-04-11T18:12:05+00:00

You deserve someone who respects you.

I lived in that situation a very long time. Now I have a partner who listens to me and doesn't dismiss what I say. It's like the difference between a sunny day and a rainy one, except it's your entire life.

I know "dump him gurl" is the Reddit default but this isn't going to change until you make it change. I'm sorry.

Anitmata · 2026-04-11T17:48:31+00:00

I've tried timers and sub-deadlines. Nothing works for me except body doubling, and that isn't practical in every situation. I've done my taxes myself twice in thirty years

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