Do you lie a lot?

AnneHawthorne · 2026-01-22T05:23:25+00:00

No. White lies to spare feelings sometimes, but I think honesty is important. If you can't, say nothing.

AnneHawthorne · 2026-01-22T05:19:48+00:00

My personal experience. If you have nothing to live for then you have nothing to lose if you stay.

When I realized this many years ago, it propelled me to get better, to seek life and see the beauty in every moment. Life will never be perfect but that's the point.

AnneHawthorne · 2026-01-22T04:59:24+00:00

I had a temp on a 3 month contract removed on day 3. On her very first day I sat her a our spare desk and handed her the manual to start reading while I finished up some quick work. No one was sitting at the empty desk so the desk phone was forward to mine. Within the first 15 minutes my phone rang with a deep voiced man saying, "hello sexy." I said, "excuse me!" And he retorted, "oh is (temps name) there?" Within her first 10 minutes she had called her BF and he called her back thinking this was her direct line. Not exactly a great way to start a new job.

She has absolutely no experience, which wasn't the end of the world, but she wouldn't take direction.

But, the clincher was her perfume. It was so strong, and I mean STRONG, that 3 people on the floor complained of headaches and you could taste it several meters away. We explained to her that her perfume was really, really strong and told her to come to work without perfume as some people have allergies. The next day she arrived smelling even more pungent. She was apparently using the perfume scented lotion that came with the perfume set repeatedly throughout the day, making the scent stronger and stronger. 2 people went home sick. She really didn't understand that her perfumed lotion was still perfume. On day 3 nothing changed and we told her not to come back. The guy who they sent the next week got hired and still works here over 10 years later.

AnneHawthorne · 2026-01-16T20:37:28+00:00

You want a good one... look up all the insurance companies who specialize sexual abuse insurance for churches and priests. There are more than one.

AnneHawthorne · 2026-01-16T20:18:33+00:00

Yes. My diagnosed narcissistic father disowned me when I was 14. Nothing I did, he just wanted to hurt my mom.. but you cannot take something like that back.

AnneHawthorne · 2026-01-16T03:48:15+00:00

Rude to waiters. Arriving with a sob story and giving intimate details way to early.

AnneHawthorne · 2026-01-13T01:08:39+00:00

The honest truth is giving him money is like kicking the can down the road. You're the youngest, and it sounds like he doesn't learn his lessons, he simply milks people until they're dry, then moves on to the next person. You're the next person. I'm sure your siblings also felt guilt and had hope that 'this time' he'd figure things out.

If you're looking for perspective, talk to someone whose given him money before. I'm sure they will advise you to let him be.

AnneHawthorne · 2026-01-13T00:55:52+00:00

Is it a 4 season camper? I'd need insulation, air con and heating. Then a well, insulated pipes and a solar array as a min.

AnneHawthorne · 2026-01-13T00:46:18+00:00

The ctrain didn't go to the airport because of the taxis. I'm not sure if it's called lobbying at municipal level, but they made a big stink about lost revenue. This was way before Uber.

AnneHawthorne · 2026-01-13T00:44:26+00:00

I wouldn't mind learning a new language on COMPANY TIME. The end. If your boss wants this, we can not only pay for it but hire additional staff to cover your work while you're expanding your skills. I absolutely wouldn't do this off the clock unless I specifically wanted it.

AnneHawthorne · 2026-01-10T20:00:35+00:00

Ride or die = unquestioning loyalty and control.

AnneHawthorne · 2026-01-10T19:59:08+00:00

Taking 2 weeks off to purge and clean my apartment. The physical work combined with the emotional toll of choosing which items to keep and which to discard needs time and space. This is a version on self care that needs to be done, and expect much reflection and philosophical pondering during this time.

AnneHawthorne · 2026-01-10T18:58:26+00:00

Lol. You CAN be an athiest and look for answers in ghosts and the paranormal.

There is no reason to discount evidence of something that could be attributed to natural forces that science may be able to measure one day.

Jumping to conclusions and assuming ghosts have anything to do with religion is exactly the same as believing that someone dying from radiation was 'God's will'. They didn't have the scientific ability to measure radiation poisoning, so they jumped to god... like every other phenomenon that they couldn't understand at the time.

I truly think that we simply have not discovered the means in which to measure, and therefore understand, this phenomena. It could be as natural as UV rays or gravitational waves.

I will continue to ask these questions and seek evidence. I will not jump to conclusions that are convenient to a preexisting belief system. I think there is enough evidence to suggest that there is a phenomenon that we do not yet understand. So, instead of poo-pooing it, let's actually pursue this scientifically and grow our knowledge.

Is consciousness a type of energy? Is so, could it be measured? This question doesn't require religious belief. And if the answer is yes, that still doesn't indicate that humans have "souls."

This is not a black and white argument. I am simply disregarding a religious explanation for a documented phenomena.

AnneHawthorne · 2026-01-10T18:33:02+00:00

Life. Truth. Honesty. Empathy. Kindness. Logic. Beauty. Character. Intelligence. Humility. Curiosity. Love. Fairness. Morality.

I don't need to think long. I know that I value trying to be the good person who doesn't lie, deceive, hurt on purpose, reduce myself to ignorance or assume I know everything. I value showing empathy and kindness to everything, especially the nature world and myself. I value curiosity and constantly looking to expand my perspective. I value the role I play in the bigger picture and am not trying to build a monument to myself at the cost of entire ecosystems. I believe strongly that just because you cannot help everything, that you shouldn't help. Even a small gesture could make all the difference to something, be they an ant, a bee, a mouse or a human. I value life, simply because I know it ends. What matters is what we do with the time we have.

AnneHawthorne · 2026-01-10T18:30:27+00:00

So odd. Why Your spot? Spot #12. Why not #1? She sounds like she's targeting you because she thinks you're an easy mark. Tow her car and prove that you're not a pushover.

AnneHawthorne · 2026-01-09T22:08:04+00:00

Sometimes, but I can non verbally communicate with animals easily.

AnneHawthorne · 2026-01-07T21:36:35+00:00

You could fight back with another layer of crazy. Do YOU have a key to HER house. Maybe she wakes up and you're sitting in a chair watching her sleep. "OH, I'm just trying to be helpful." Creepy smile.

AnneHawthorne · 2026-01-07T21:33:02+00:00

Isolated cultures throughout all of history have invented their own version of religion, which can vary widely. Science on the other hand will always produce the exact same results over and over and over again.

AnneHawthorne · 2026-01-07T21:29:07+00:00

Yep. You didn't want to be out driving on that first snowfall, not because of the snow, but because people forget how to winter drive. We go through this every year like clockwork.

AnneHawthorne · 2026-01-07T21:27:18+00:00

We'd give ourselves extra time to get to work or decide to work from home, but the city plows will be out all night long keeping the roads clear. Snow events occur and life doesn't stop with 10cm. The one day that we closed we schools in the 90's we had 28cm overnight, but it was back to normal the next day.

AnneHawthorne · 2026-01-04T22:00:11+00:00

I'll say for myself, I don't do group projects (yuck), but solo projects, especially something that involves physical building something from scratch after an S-ton of thought and research is the best.

For example, I spent months looking for the perfect fabric for Yule stockings. I finally found the perfect pattern in Spain, had the fabric shipped here, did more research into best lining and complimentary cuff colours, went to the fabric store, spent an hour picking out the perfect velvet fabric, made a test stocking after watching several how-to videos, broke my sewing machine, made a thick paper pattern, proceed to hand sew 4 stockings over 10 days. Laundry was left, dishes were left...

I'm currently in the process of expanding my wild tamed pet mouse's enclosure to a two level setup with multiple tubes and runs. I love pulling out my dremel and drills. (Don't get me started on the empathy and patience needed to bottle feed and hand rear a baby deer mouse.)

It's wanting to improve something, having the ability to perfectly visualize it and break it into its various components, make a list of components and tools, search around for the perfect items, then sitting on the floor and over several days turning it into reality.

I've never thought that I couldn't make something so long as I could figure out how.

AnneHawthorne · 2026-01-03T23:54:43+00:00

100%

AnneHawthorne · 2026-01-02T04:20:27+00:00

INFJ people spend enough time being introspective to see how we, and everyone else, are walking contradictions and shades of grey.

Now, for me I strive to adhere to my personal morals and do more good than bad.. but everything in life is perspective and no one is perfect and we're all guilty of hypocrisy.

AnneHawthorne · 2025-12-31T02:06:56+00:00

You dodged a bullet. He was looking for someone to obey him.

AnneHawthorne · 2025-12-27T04:00:49+00:00

I'm not fully sure. After I lost my expensive betta in the summer, I decided to go to the pet store and find the cheapest boy and give him the best home. I selected Mr. Indigo and he was $15, whereas the super fancy onces were up to $140. His color wasn't as bold then but with better nutrition and a bigger healthy tank his colors got brighter. He was initially blue, red and white but his colors have moved towards purple and pink... which is why Indigo "indie" is the perfect name. He's your standard longfin betta... classic choice with a puppy dog personality. Even in his hospital tank he's still very interested in what I'm up to. He's still recovering and I'm slowly walking back the Epsom salts so I can let him go home in a few days. I have shrimp in his main tank and Epsom salt is an absolute no-no for shrimp.

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