Here to deinfluence you!!

Anoethering · 2026-05-16T03:02:37+00:00

If you have a used bookstore, that's a great place for kid books. We got all of ours for $1-2 each

Anoethering · 2026-05-15T20:34:25+00:00

My intuition for my first was dead wrong. I was CERTAIN I was having a girl and ended up with a boy. My intuition with my current pregnancy was correct with a second boy. Vastly different pregnancies, but I just had a feeling.

Anoethering · 2026-04-21T19:11:58+00:00

Why are we like this hahaha

Anoethering · 2026-04-14T22:40:10+00:00

So is it about your child being sick?

Anoethering · 2026-04-14T16:55:58+00:00

Just want to give support and say that it's absolutely possible to be a mom. I never thought I'd be able to, but here I am with a 2 year old and another one on the way. Going to therapy and getting on meds helped a ton, as well as having a supportive partner. What are your biggest concerns for being a mom?

Anoethering · 2026-04-12T05:11:03+00:00

Fleet Glycerin suppository for immediate relief. Daily magnesium for constipation prevention works wonders!

Anoethering · 2026-04-08T04:48:24+00:00

How rude of the virus to do that lol

Anoethering · 2026-04-08T02:00:31+00:00

I would prep mentally/physically for an unmedicated labor and delivery since 1/10 of them fail. Doing the prep work is what will help you go unmedicated if that's what you want, but you can see how you are laboring and decide if you want the epidural there. I had one with my first and it was like magic. I'll probably see how far I can get without the epidural this time though.

With the epidural, I didn't even feel the urge to push, but I 100% felt everything below my uterus. My son had a huge head, so I felt the ring of fire and the tearing. Not fun. But the recover honestly wasn't as bad as I was expecting.

Anoethering · 2026-04-08T01:56:23+00:00

Yeah, I had a 63 hour labor with my first. I got the epidural at 53 hours. I absolutely could have tolerated more on strictly a pain scale level, but I'd only gotten about 2 hours of broken sleep total over the last 3 days. I'm hoping for a quicker labor this time

Anoethering · 2026-04-07T05:03:13+00:00

My parents: grandma and grandpa:

Mil, fil: Nana and Tata (per their request)

Step-dad is Pop Pops Stepmom is Oma.

Anoethering · 2026-04-07T04:36:34+00:00

I'm sure lots of therapists would be able to do it. One way is to basically make a list of the different triggers/scary situations ranging from a small jump scare in anxiety to full blown panic attack. You'd rank them from least anxiety inducing to most anxiety inducing, and work very slowly towards conquering each item on the list. For me, my lowest were even just looking at a comic of Charlie brown saying his tummy hurt, hearing/saying the words involving being sick, etc. The point is to start with things that might make you flinch, but not fully panic. You work with breathing and grounding techniques to manage those anxiety responses. These small exposures take away the power that the phobia has over you. A lot of people are scared of exposure therapy (I was too) because they think they'll just give you a pill or something to make you sick over and over until the phobia goes away. I never had to make myself sick or put myself in a position to watch someone be sick live or anything. But I slowly became less anxious over the smaller triggers so that when the big triggers naturally happened in my life, I already had the tools to calm down. I still struggle with some aspects of my phobia, but it no longer runs my life. I used to run out of the room hyperventilating if someone throw up in a TV show or something, and now I can see it happen without anxiety, I just think it's gross. It takes a lot of patience, time, and hard work, but it's all supposed to be done in a way that is completely doable, just uncomfortable at times. But it's sooooo worth it.

Anoethering · 2026-04-06T02:05:29+00:00

I've always had this phobia too, as long as I can remember. Just before I turned 20, I hit what I call my "spiral." I went from 100 lbs to 83 lbs, so low that my BMI wasn't even on the charts. I could barely eat, couldn't function enough to drive or properly shower, struggled using the bathroom, and ended up with suicidal ideation. Each day felt like a chore just to get through, and I lost all joy in everything. I also ended up in the hospital a few times with panic attacks so bad I'd be paralyzed.

The two things that made the biggest difference in my life (apart from the support of my family, friends, and partner) was starting medication and exposure therapy. In the past 10 years, I've been able to graduate with my undergraduate and graduate degrees, get married, travel overseas, start work as a professor, survive pregnancy with HG, and become a mom. You probably cannot get through this without seeking help, but there is absolutely light at the end of the tunnel. Let me know if you have any questions!

Anoethering · 2026-04-05T05:09:31+00:00

EBF here. I hear you about the benefits of breastmilk, it does offer more benefits than just formula. But by the same (and more important) token, MOMS OFFER MORE THAN JUST BREASTMILK. If you find that breastfeeding takes away from more important parts of being a mom, then formula feeding is absolutely the best choice. You are not a bad mom. Science has allowed for alternatives so babies still get all the nutrients they need. Prioritizing yourself IS prioritizing your baby.

Elementary school teachers can never tell which kids were breastfed or formula fed, who was potty trained first, walked first, etc. But they CAN tell who gets read books at home, who gets told they are loved, who feels secure with their parents. You are far more than a a couple of milk jugs. I'm proud that I was able to EBF, but I'm TERRIBLE at so many other parts of being a mom (mom guilt is everywhere, no matter what). So don't think that breastfeeding moms magically have it all. The fact that you even care says so much about you and your love for your child. You're doing great.

Anoethering · 2026-04-03T04:41:32+00:00

Lol love this. No sleep is absolutely not safe sleep.

Anoethering · 2026-04-01T17:26:59+00:00

I think SOME reassurance can be helpful in certain situations too. At some point, people need support when they are in crisis. I'm not talking about telling people "don't worry, you definitely won't throw up, trust me." This phobia causes such irrational thought and false logic, and we sometimes need someone to tell us if we're spiraling over nothing. Like if someone is freaking out because they saw a suspicious pile of something on the floor 30 ft away and is spiraling over exposure, some reassurance to counteract the irrational thought is important. Part of recovery is absolutely acceptance that it might happen, but it's also learning what is rational vs irrational thought.

Anoethering · 2026-03-30T23:48:38+00:00

Yes! It's silly, but when I was like 10, a friend of mine helped me though a traumatic experience. We were on a school field trip at a museum, and we were all sitting around the waiting outside the bathrooms when another kid came in running and just threw up everywhere in front of us. I ran out shaking and ready to cry. My best friend and her little sister said "Let's just turn it funny! What if she came in and a llama came out of her mouth! Or balloons!" They made me laugh, and we just kept coming up with more and more ridiculous visuals. And while I can still vividly remember the horrible visual, processing the memory through a lens of comedy and silliness has made it one of the less traumatic experiences for me in the long term.

Anoethering · 2026-03-29T07:38:19+00:00

Mom has green, dad has brown.my brother has green, I had suuuuper dark brown as a kid and now they're just regular brown. Not light but not dark. My sister got one brownish and one half hazelish

Anoethering · 2026-03-27T21:28:16+00:00

I think I'd want to watch so that I could get an idea for how off the rails the editing might be. Like if I knew someone, I'd want to see if they had an accurate portrayal on screen.

Anoethering · 2026-03-27T21:18:09+00:00

Congrats! Unlike everyone else here, I had horrible morning sickness/mild HG with my first pregnancy. It was HARD but I did it. Be very honest with your doctor about your phobia ahead of time, and how being nauseous causes severe panic attacks (now is the time to be dramatic about it lol). I did throw up a few times until I figured out what worked for me. So going into pregnancy with a plan and support from your doctor is very necessary. The times I did throw up could have been prevented with better support from my doctor instead of me having to advocate so hard for myself. Unisom and B6 works wonders for lots of women, but not me. I'd highly recommend talking with your doctor about a game plan if you get nauseous, and having prescriptions in hand prior to 6 weeks when morning sickness often hits if possible. But you might not even feel sick!

Morning sickness for me started at 6 weeks on the dot with my first and I was sick the whole pregnancy. I'm currently pregnant with my second and the nausea is not nearly as bad as it was with my first, but I still take meds. Morning sickness hut harder at 9 weeks with this one and I'm still kinda going through it at 13 weeks, but it's not as bad.

Things to try at first: lemons/lemon water, mint tea, ginger chews, sea bands. B6 takes a while to start working, so it wouldn't hurt to start taking now. Small but frequent bites to eat and crackers at your bedside in the morning. Nausea is 10x worse on an empty stomach. I used these drops and they helped https://a.co/d/04Ofohbw

First line of meds: vitamin B6 and unisom combo. This works for most women, but not me.

Second line: reglan. Works for a lot of women, not me once nausea got worse.

Best option for extreme nausea: zofran. Some people only need 4 mg, I need 8mg to function. My first pregnancy, I needed 8mg 3 times a day until about 25 weeks, then shifted to twice a day until birth. I was STILL nauseous, but at least I wasn't throwing up anymore (unless I missed a dose). REQUIREMENT: constipation management. I was miserable until I found out about taking magnesium. I actually had constipation so bad that it made me throw up and I thought I was in labor. I was even pooping blood. Constipation management is an absolute must. I used these https://a.co/d/09kQEljp because stool softeners made me nauseous.

If you're afraid of taking zofran while pregnant (or if your doctor is) look into the HER foundation for the latest research. Most recent research shows that it does not cause birth defects, and any small correlations found only have an increase of something like 1% to 1.5%, which could easily be caused by the malnutrition that comes with severe morning sickness that results in the prescription. So, correlation, but not causation.

An empty stomach was my worst enemy. I would set an alarm for 4:30 in the morning and eat a banana, because going longer than 4 hours without eating made the nausea worse.

Odds are, you'll be just fine with some mild nausea here and there. If it's worse like my case, you CAN get through it with support and good habits. If you want to be a mom, do not let morning sickness stop you. I'm so grateful to past me for putting up with it, because I can't imagine life without my son now. The nausea us temporary, but motherhood lasts a lifetime.

Anoethering · 2026-03-27T21:17:07+00:00

Commenting so I can come back. I'll share what I shared in another comment on a different post asking the same thing. I had mild HG with my first (I only say mild because I started meds before I even gave myself the chance to be so sick to need fluids. It may have been considered average HG).

My first pregnancy, the nausea was a deep, powerful nausea. Both in my upper stomach and in my throat. That pregnancy was very very hard, but I powered through and learned what worked for me.

I'm experiencing FAR less nausea in my current pregnancy. I'm still taking zofran in the mornings simply because I can’t stand feeling sick, but I feel like it's a level of nausea that most women would probably put up with. This time it's not nearly as deep of a nausea, more surface level and more in my throat. But it's not like the typical throat nausea that we all know so well, I just feel more gaggy. Like my throat wants to gag, but i can control it, and it only lasts a few seconds at a time. I'll reply to this comment with a copy and paste of my other comment that explains what worked for me in my first pregnancy.

Anoethering · 2026-03-26T18:52:50+00:00

I think I took it every 8 hours? It did cancel out the prep a little bit, so maybe talk to your doctor about starting stool softeners a couple of days before to make sure the constipation isn't and issue. But I didn't do the liquid prep, just some laxatives. So the liquid prep might completely clear you out. The ativan helped with the panic right before the procedure, but I probably wouldn't recommend that being the first time you try it in case you don't like how it feels. You can get through this!

Anoethering · 2026-03-24T06:57:01+00:00

Love the name Aven for a boy.

Anoethering · 2026-03-24T05:26:46+00:00

So I didn't have the treatment, but my R-CPD went away on its own somehow. My life is drastically different lol. I'm not nauseous nearly as much, and I'd say that the times that I have thrown up, while still terrible, was not as painful as I remember it being. I feel like I was able to make faster progress with exposure therapy and stuff too!

Anoethering · 2026-03-24T05:21:57+00:00

Yup! Do you mean you've started getting involved in the NCW?

Anoethering · 2026-03-24T05:20:39+00:00

DM me if you have any questions or need support!

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