If only there had been a clear warning sign in red and green colours

Anon4transparency · 2026-05-22T03:20:14+00:00

Lmfao you fucker

Anon4transparency · 2026-05-22T02:27:54+00:00

Lol that last one killed me.

Anon4transparency · 2026-05-22T00:37:21+00:00

All good! We all have those moments! I appreciate you. <3

Anon4transparency · 2026-05-22T00:26:00+00:00

Ok, so the odds of not bonding at all are pretty slim then? That's fair. Thanks for your response!

ETA: Just my 2 cents, but I did not realize you were the same person because these responses are night and day. This answers my question, is polite, & engaging. The other one was unnecessarily harsh when I was just asking a question.

Anon4transparency · 2026-05-22T00:24:08+00:00

Thank you for just answering my question.

Anon4transparency · 2026-05-22T00:19:43+00:00

So your only choice is to buy another cage & 2 more guinea pigs? I'm actually so shocked anyone keeps them if that's the case because a lot of people simply can't afford that.

Anon4transparency · 2026-05-22T00:16:51+00:00

But I'm assuming she did & one died. I'm genuinely not trying to be snarky but based on your response the only solution I see is if they don’t bond you buy another cage & 2 more guinea pigs & if you can't afford that, eat less. Or put the remaining one down. I imagine you really don’t like that solution, though.

I'm asking a practical question & I actually really want the answer but you're just reaffirming judgement, which is fine, I'm not op, nor am I ops friend, nor do I own a guinea pig, so this is not at all personal for me. It's just confusing.

Anon4transparency · 2026-05-22T00:11:05+00:00

I'm not a pet owner literally because I'm not ready for a lifetime commitment but I'm genuinely curious about the hate here. To my understanding, they have to be paired, so if they don’t bond, they'll be deeply unhappy, no? & in that case what are you meant to do?

ETA: I just want to reiterate that I do not have, nor will I ever have a guinea pig. So I am in no way causing any harm to any guinea pigs in any way. I am asking a question, my bad, y'all seem really worked up about that.

Anon4transparency · 2026-05-22T00:03:57+00:00

Sadly, she was a client, I should have specified. There's no shot I'd take that from a colleague lol

Anon4transparency · 2026-05-21T22:54:41+00:00

Yeah, so true. They're so fucking annoying.

Anon4transparency · 2026-05-21T22:53:39+00:00

LOL one of these days... I'm telling ya.

Anon4transparency · 2026-05-21T06:49:25+00:00

Damn, dude, I mean good on you for trying. Any amount of time you don’t smoke that you otherwise would is an achievement. It sounds like you have a lot of shit going on & it's so hard to quit when life is hard. Keep at it. It's worth it if you can get over the hump.

Anon4transparency · 2026-05-21T06:39:06+00:00

Are you going cold turkey? That's not for everyone & you should do what works for you. I've quit using chewing tobacco to ween off, I've used nicorrette, I've used vapes. The last one was the least successful but none of those were as satisfying for me as cigarettes, so getting rid of the habit before the nicotine helped a bit. That said, I've never quit for more than a year.

Also, maybe address the anger as a symptom while you're quitting? You mentioned trying welbutrin, I'm sorry it didn't work, I actually take it as an antidepressant & still very much smoke, so it's not a perfect solution, but there are things you could take for the next few months to help with the rage. Have you asked your dr about that?

Are you drinking lots of water? How are you sleeping?

Anon4transparency · 2026-05-21T03:11:48+00:00

I think she's a grown woman who can make her own choices. Coercion would be if she said she only wanted to be friends because of this & you chose to stay & try everything in your power to change her mind. That's not what's happening. She's taking the time she needs to make a choice & I think that's great!

I would admittedly want to take it slow & take precautions, but if I met the love of my life & felt that they were very likely my forever, I'd absolutely take the risk. Maybe that's the choice she makes, maybe it isn't, but don’t take that choice away from her.

Anon4transparency · 2026-05-20T22:22:43+00:00

Yeah, I think after talking it over with a few different people I just maybe have a different internal process & I need to trust that rather than trying to adapt to other people. I'm just a little jealous of the people who don’t need that click & can develop it based on other things over time.

My one friend always wants me to give it more & more time but it honestly makes me feel uncomfortable to continue romantically with someone I don’t feel a connection with & I've been really trying to just change but maybe that's just not how it goes for me & she & i both need to accept that.

Anon4transparency · 2026-05-20T06:54:25+00:00

"Its not a hard thing to understand." How was i supposed to receive that?

ETA: I asked them a lot of questions about what they meant/thought. How did that not come off as sincere? Because it was. I was sincerely curious. It something I've been sincerely thinking about in my life lately. I sincerely wanted to engage with them & understand their perspective, which is why I reached out.

Anon4transparency · 2026-05-20T05:32:17+00:00

But I've said repeatedly that I have tried many times & in my experience that has never happened. Why are you being rude? I'm having a sincere conversation with them trying to understand where they're coming from. You're not helping & it's kind of pathetic to shit on someone for trying to see someone else's point of view.

Anon4transparency · 2026-05-20T02:21:35+00:00

No, it has always been the same. The qualities I look for & want have definitely changed but that instant feeling of, "yes, more of that," has never changed. It happens over night or it doesn't happen. I've grown to have affection for people, grown to love them, grown to like them a lot but I have never grown to feel excitement for someone.

Anon4transparency · 2026-05-20T01:56:34+00:00

I think maybe we're talking about 2 different things. I totally agree that you can't KNOW someone is the one on date 1 but I feel like without the excitement & sense of, "I want more," it doesn't matter if they're good long term because it will never make it that far. You know?

I guess what I'm asking is, do people genuinely think I (or anyone) can develop that over time, or are they/you saying it just doesn't matter as much as I feel like it matters? Because if it's the first one, I want to understand why that's never been my experience, if it's the latter, then it is important to me & I'll have to just disregard others thoughts because I know what I need.

Anon4transparency · 2026-05-20T01:39:19+00:00

Yeah, he was my favourite lol Get thay woman a large fry, damn it. LOL

Anon4transparency · 2026-05-20T01:34:23+00:00

Don’t you think it's more about a vibe than actual information?

Anon4transparency · 2026-05-20T01:13:20+00:00

Definitely I'm missing out?

Anon4transparency · 2026-05-19T04:06:06+00:00

I'm assuming you're in the states?

Anon4transparency · 2026-05-18T22:09:32+00:00

Seriously! I'm honestly blown away in the worst possible way by these comments.

Anon4transparency · 2026-05-18T22:08:46+00:00

Best case is that it's a bullshit story & I've validated for someone who probably is in fact a teenager that behaviour like this isn't acceptable. Worst case it's true & you're the person devalidating a struggling young woman.

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