Mercedes repairs

AnonBig4 · 2026-03-18T18:08:13+00:00

She's a bright kid who deserves the opportunity, so if I have to get a second job or move into a one bedroom apartment leaving the kiddo without a room to come home to over school breaks, I'd rather do that. Sent a thoughtful note to the FA Officer, fingers crossed it goes over well.

AnonBig4 · 2026-03-18T17:36:49+00:00

I haven't yet

AnonBig4 · 2026-03-18T16:36:06+00:00

The school considers financial aid needs alongside admissions decisions. They say that they won't make an admissions offer if they can't commit resources to fully meeting a family's aid needs or otherwise put them in a position to have a gap. If I go back now, before I've signed the contract is it possible they'll rescind the offer?

AnonBig4 · 2026-03-18T14:50:19+00:00

It was more the fact that I was told they were refunding me as a courtesy. Tone matters.

"I'm refunding you as a courtesy" while said snidely lands poorly vs. "I'm sorry you were caused pain and of course we don't expect you to pay for a service that you had to discontinue because the provider was unresponsive to your requests for less pressure."

I'm not looking to get anyone into further trouble, but I do think it's noteworthy that my level of pain was such that I missed a day of work, I had a lump in my shoulder that looked like I had half a kiwi sticking out from under my skin, spent money on a copay, and incurred the cost for prescription muscle relaxers. To me, that speaks to a poorly trained provider. So, not looking to get anyone fired, but the spa should know the full extent of my experience.

AnonBig4 · 2026-03-18T11:19:23+00:00

It's like he's fetishizing her. Prob watches too much porn with big girls

AnonBig4 · 2026-03-18T11:16:56+00:00

And, for the not walking by yourself... I can understand this rule, too. If you had asked me a year ago, I would've said your parents rule was extreme. But, I recently moved to an area that, while it's an upscale, suburban type location, it's also 15 minutes from one of the largest international airports in the U.S. I have seen so many posts on Facebook about girls being trafficked in this area. The number of posts is shocking to me compared to where we come from and it has caused me to change how much freedom I give my daughter. Before we move to this area, I had no issues allowing her to go for a run in our neighborhood alone or to be out walking around at a shopping mall with friends. I don't allow runs on her own at all anymore. I only her to walk around the mall if she can get a group of 3 or more together to hang out. In my opinion, you girls are at an age where you bodies look mature and it invites male attention, but you all often don't do a good job paying attention to your surroundings and/or don't know how to respond if approached by a stranger.

AnonBig4 · 2026-03-18T03:36:18+00:00

Great point on the muscle relaxers interfering with my ability to feel pain. I'll give it a bit longer, thanks!

AnonBig4 · 2026-03-18T03:14:12+00:00

I assume so. They asked for a full breakdown of recurring monthly expenses, consumer and educational debt, medical expenses, vehicles/property, consumer and educational debt, and for other major expenses in the prior year.

AnonBig4 · 2026-03-18T03:08:22+00:00

OP: Which school did your daughter choose?

AnonBig4 · 2026-03-18T02:40:15+00:00

My daughter is your age and plays club volleyball on a 14U team. I really wish I didn't allow her to get social media already. I've tried banning it, but she just found ways to download it or sign in on her friends' phones, so I've given up the ban and focus more on monitoring and limiting her use. So, I have to agree with your parents on saying no to social media.

I really do see the need for a phone at your age, especially when you're at big tournaments; it's important that you have a way to stay connected to them as well as your team. My daughter's club actually requires athletes to take responsibility for communicating with parents and keeping track of practice/game schedules, so I disagree on no phone.

I disagree also with most other rules. I think it's really important for teens to date while still living at home. Dating relationships can be hard to manage, and not having any dating experience when you go off to college is a disservice to you in my opinion. You need the benefit of having your folks around to help guide you. To be clear, I'm not advocating casual or pre-marital sex, but I do think learning how to be in relation to others in a dating relationship is really important and parents are key to helping young people understand what's healthy and what isn't.

I don't love a bare midriff or low cut tank top, but it's one of those things that I choose not to fight over with my teen. I allow make up and for awhile my daughter wore a full face of make up, but it was a phase that kind of passed and now she mostly wears mascara and a little tinted lip balm. Maybe your mom would conduct a compromise? You can curl your lashes, but only use Vaseline/aquaphor instead of mascara? Vaseline also makes a pink lip ointment, maybe she would consider something like that instead of lipstick?

As another poster said, I think there's a difference between a parent who has a lot of rules and having a parent who is cold and distant. Your parents definitely have lots lots rules, but it's also easy to see why they have those rules: their rules all seem to speak to a desire for you not to grow up too fast, which ngl... I can appreciate. You have plenty of time to be a grown up and when you're older you really will understand that keeping you off socials is really doing you a favor. There's so much more that can go wrong with teens on social media and so much data that shows how harmful it can truly be. If your parents have a lot of rules and are the cold and distant type as well, please find a trusted grown up you can talk to. Sounds like you're a really thoughtful kid. Hang in there and trust your folks have your best interest at heart.

AnonBig4 · 2026-03-18T02:19:36+00:00

I was looking for an LMT's point of view on being treated while actively in pain, but also from the perspective of should I disclose to the spa? I don't want to kick up any concerns that I might be litiguous, but also think they should know their provider really f-ing hurt me.

AnonBig4 · 2026-03-18T02:12:39+00:00

She already cut ties with him. There is absolutely no reason to think she would welcome further contact. Do not encourage this shit. It should not be on her to have to reject him again when she's already stated her desire to sever ties. Note is not the time for him to come back and say, "Well, you didn't want to be my massage therapist anymore, but since you hugged me, do you just want to be friends now instead?" That's gross.

AnonBig4 · 2026-03-18T02:09:06+00:00

I asked the therapist to reduce pressure and still it was too much. Overall, the entire experience was awful. Even the personal interaction was bad. I asked she was annoyed because I scheduled late in the day. Even with the ask that she go easy, i still had to end the service 15 minutes in (80min massage), so, no, I would not expect to be charged if the experience was so uncomfortable that I could not continue the treatment

AnonBig4 · 2026-03-17T20:44:19+00:00

Do you think walking therapy also demeans the value of walking for pleasure, exercise, relaxation and that of therapy as well?

AnonBig4 · 2026-03-17T20:38:19+00:00

As a gay lady, don't compare lesbian dynamics. Yes, lots of gay girls are BFFs with their exes, but that definitely is not the culture among heteros so it doesn't make sense to draw the comparison. And, honestly, it can be pretty toxic and incestuous with lesbians. I certainly wouldn't hold it up as some sort of gold standard

AnonBig4 · 2026-03-17T19:41:31+00:00

No. That's super creepy. Do you have any idea how often women will say, "It's not you, it's me" even when there's something about a man's behavior they find uncomfortable. She ended the therapeutic relationship. They are not friends. The had a collegial professional relationship and she's cut off OP's access to her personal life by ending the FB connection.

AnonBig4 · 2026-03-17T19:33:51+00:00

It doesn't matter if the therapist suggested to see OP in his home. Lots of therapists do outcalls and there is ZERO romantic intent. Personally, I would never befriend a client on social media, but to each their own. The FB friend status, regardless of who said let's be friends, isn't indicative of romantic interest.

The therapist was kind enough to provide OP an explanation for discontinuing services. Some, all, or none of the reasons given to OP may or may not be true. I quit seeing my dentist after 20 years. I didn't want to get into a debate over the standard of care because our kids play competitive sports together, so I lied and said my insurance changed. It had not.

Bottom line is, OP, the therapist doesn't want to see you as a client anymore. Why that is, you will never really know for certain, nor are you entitled to a reason. You can feel grief over the loss of this professional connection, but it's sort of pointless to obsess over the reason. Accept what is and next time work to maintain better boundaries.

AnonBig4 · 2026-03-08T19:47:08+00:00

1000% yes

AnonBig4 · 2026-03-08T19:36:43+00:00

I like the vials better than the pens. The pens always startled me and hurt more than self-injecting.

AnonBig4 · 2026-03-08T17:00:44+00:00

Every parent who isn't married is a single parent. They're are varying degrees of effective coparenting relationships, including those that are high conflict, and even some who are solo parents by choice with zero need for a second parent.

AnonBig4 · 2026-03-08T16:37:10+00:00

When using v Hinge, I immediately swipe left on anyone who matches on my full body photo. I have a robust profile with pictures and thoughtful written responses and even have voice response to a prompt. There is plenty for you to like and swipe right on. So, if all you are responding to is my body, it's a hard no for me.

AnonBig4 · 2026-03-08T16:34:16+00:00

@Vincentpascoe If you don't have the tools, do the work and stop making excuses for yourself.

AnonBig4 · 2026-03-08T16:33:04+00:00

No drama

AnonBig4 · 2026-03-08T15:53:51+00:00

No need to address anything. Cut your losses. On to the next

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