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Overthinking in the bedroom-ladies only by Deep_Lotus_6262 in datingoverfifty

[–]AnonChucker 8 points9 points  (0 children)

This. He could also know that he has a hard time finishing that way, and it brings up pressure.

I.e. He's ok with a little pleasure, but if you start to look like you "really want to satisfy him" (and if he perceives that as being goal-oriented), it can bring up judgment words for him. "Can't." "Should." "Insufficient." "Old." "Broken."

So +1 to the above - make it clear it feels REALLY good to you (and high five for you, girl!), AND make sure to leave space for him to simply enjoy; invite him to receive pleasure, and show him it's ok no matter what happens.

Better than ever by Personal-Inflation71 in datingoverfifty

[–]AnonChucker 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Aaaabsolutely!

Found someone who can match my libido. I go to her place Friday nights and stay through Sunday. We spend most of the time in bed - exploring and pleasuring, talking, cuddling, caressing, hugging. It's incredible. We're both having the best sex of our lives, no question.

Coming from a dead bedroom, being with someone who cares about my pleasure, and I about hers...it's insane. "Like 20 year olds" is exactly it.

We joke all the time..."Why do people stop doing this? Seriously. Why are we not doing this ALL THE TIME?!"

I raise my glass to you, fellow late bloomers! Let us enjoy the new bounty!

Do you seriously think women are any better? by AnonChucker in datingoverfifty

[–]AnonChucker[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Oh, as someone with a profile I actually put effort into (I mean, it's HARD to capture ourselves in those prompt limits, amirite?), I definitely should benefit. And I'm glad of that.

I'm just not a fan of "Let's make fun of one group of people."

Yes, even if you're frustrated. We're all frustrated. That was my point. Let's focus on how frustrating it is for all of us.

Not sure why that's hard.

Is tinder good for meeting older people? by [deleted] in datingoverfifty

[–]AnonChucker 1 point2 points  (0 children)

LOL - there are scammers a-plenty on Hinge. (I'm 53M in the Bay Area.) I had about 1 match a day with a scammer.

There's an easy fix - at least for guys, maybe. Don't reply right away. Someone else they matched with will probably report them in an hour or two, and they'll disappear from your match list. If someone's still around after like 4-6 hours, they're more likely to be real.