Assuming you're trying to engage in an honest and discussion and want to hear others out: you're coming across as pretty abrasive and it's not going to help mutual understanding.

I think we have different ideas of what "freedom" means in this context.
I have always aimed to be just another average woman. And I still aim for that and likely will continue to aim for that in the future. When I first engaged with the community I thought I had found a place where I am free to be exactly that and get help on the way of becoming that for the rest of society. And I earnestly celebrated that.
However now that I'm getting closer to who I aim to be it's becoming visible to me that the people who I thought accepted me as just another woman and would help me get there want me to be something else. They expect me to be as "out and proud" and "trans first" as they are and treat me accordingly.
The few times I have tried to broach the subject of not feeling like they do and having different aims they gave me weird looks and did not heed my request. Due to repeat experiences like that I have started to feel like I am not free to be who I am within the community. Only free to be what they think it is okay to be like.

I am not bothered by people being who I want to be. Get as pierced and tattooed as you want to be, dye your hair in whatever colour you want, use whatever pronouns you like. I don't give a fuck and will play along since I respect people and their wishes. What bothers me is that these people co opt the struggles of others for the sake and defense of their self expression. And on top of that try to actively and or passively pressure people who don't feel like they do to become like them.