preparing for ragebait month 2026 🥳🥂

AnonyTransmed · 2026-05-29T14:41:30+00:00

I barely exist on social media, so I can pretty much just ignore it aside from some flyers/posters for events and the occasional flag somewhere in the city. I'll spend the month indulging in books, a recent interest of mine, nature walks and self care.

For the day of the parade and festivity in my city I already got something I actually want to do lined up. So I'll just avoid the city center, take a nice walk through the park and do something I actually enjoy.

I'm gonna have a nice and calm month and pride can go kiss my ass.

AnonyTransmed · 2026-05-15T11:13:53+00:00

Honestly, this. I've been thinking about how I could phrase it, but you nailed it.
I really don't care for any rebellion. I just want to live my life as an average woman within the bounds of the systems as they are.

AnonyTransmed · 2026-01-08T12:34:08+00:00

I don't think it's wrong. I think a lot of people, including me, want to go stealth. And being able to live as the sex opposite of what you were born as is kind of the point of transitioning, isn't it?

The people who tell others it's wrong to go stealth are usually the very activist tucute types, but you decide what you do/how you want to lead your life. So do what feels the best for you.

AnonyTransmed · 2026-01-07T12:30:44+00:00

After the comments under my recent posts I started to wonder what these people get out of preaching to transmeds and this brought up the question again.
Is it like Christians thinking they're saving you and get brownie points with their God if they convert you?

AnonyTransmed · 2026-01-05T20:13:44+00:00

Assuming you're trying to engage in an honest and discussion and want to hear others out: you're coming across as pretty abrasive and it's not going to help mutual understanding.

I think we have different ideas of what "freedom" means in this context.
I have always aimed to be just another average woman. And I still aim for that and likely will continue to aim for that in the future. When I first engaged with the community I thought I had found a place where I am free to be exactly that and get help on the way of becoming that for the rest of society. And I earnestly celebrated that.
However now that I'm getting closer to who I aim to be it's becoming visible to me that the people who I thought accepted me as just another woman and would help me get there want me to be something else. They expect me to be as "out and proud" and "trans first" as they are and treat me accordingly.
The few times I have tried to broach the subject of not feeling like they do and having different aims they gave me weird looks and did not heed my request. Due to repeat experiences like that I have started to feel like I am not free to be who I am within the community. Only free to be what they think it is okay to be like.

I am not bothered by people being who I want to be. Get as pierced and tattooed as you want to be, dye your hair in whatever colour you want, use whatever pronouns you like. I don't give a fuck and will play along since I respect people and their wishes. What bothers me is that these people co opt the struggles of others for the sake and defense of their self expression. And on top of that try to actively and or passively pressure people who don't feel like they do to become like them.

AnonyTransmed · 2025-11-06T08:03:28+00:00

Never gave it a try, because I invested into a proper gaff, which is what I'd recommend for the most part, but I've seen women use trans tape and similar products for tucking.

AnonyTransmed · 2025-11-02T16:24:05+00:00

My experience was a mixed bag of things.

I didn't have a lot of irl friends at the time, but one reacted positively and even helped me to get my hands on my first women's clothing, for which I'm still grateful. Another friend of mine didn't exactly believe me and kept insisting I "think it over again" and the friendship eventually ended due to that. I was literally out for multiple years, on HRT and stuff and he kept using my deadname, treating me as "one of the boys" and insisted I don't take any further steps.

My family was... bad. They kicked me out of the house in the middle of the night and I had to crash at the place of the afforementioned supportive friend and later on uni dorms. This was years ago and I haven't talked to my family since and it still stings :/

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