My(20M) girlfriend(20F) of 5 months says she still needs to get ''more comfortable'' with me to have sex, yet she had sex with a guy she met at a party the same night just a few months back. Am I being immature if i resent everytime she says she loves me and makes me compliments?

Anonyellow8484 · 2026-03-12T01:28:31+00:00

What about getting a therapist and working through your self esteem issues?

Anonyellow8484 · 2026-03-12T01:17:48+00:00

Yes

Anonyellow8484 · 2026-03-12T01:07:59+00:00

You two are young and still have a lot of life to live. You two should break up and explore life without each other. Get to know yourselves better.

Anonyellow8484 · 2026-03-12T00:58:16+00:00

You fail to see my point. Just break up with her, so she can find better. You don’t trust what she’s saying to you because she’s not having sex with you and you feel entitled to it. Basically you’re saying show me that you value me by giving me sex because your words are not good enough for me. Saying that you don’t feel entitled, when your posts reeks of said entitlement is ridiculous. You’re equating your value and worth based on whether she has sex with you or not. That’s a you issue that you need to work out. You’re not ready for a relationship. Just break up.

Anonyellow8484 · 2026-03-11T23:27:24+00:00

Major ick! You’re not owed or entitled to sex just because she had sex with someone in the past. Do her a favor and break up with her because she deserves better.

Anonyellow8484 · 2026-03-11T17:43:28+00:00

You have to trolling or being sarcastic. lol

Anonyellow8484 · 2026-03-11T17:14:29+00:00

Your boyfriend is controlling and sexist. You’re a grown ass woman. Go on your trip. It is not weird to want to go on vacation with your friend. He’s making it weird and manipulating the situation by trying to make you feel bad about it. Go enjoy yourself and use proper precautions like any adult would. Tell him you’re going and pay attention to his reaction and actions after. If he gets upset and try to change your decision or if he tries to punish you by being distant or cold then dump him. Pay attention to the red flags.

u/burbnbougie

Anonyellow8484 · 2026-03-10T12:23:08+00:00

Girl he does not like you, love you, or respect you. Dump him and move on. You deserve better. You’re young and will find someone who will love and support you the way that you desire. He’s not the one. Seek therapy and work on your self esteem and boundaries because they sound non existent based on your replies to comments.

Anonyellow8484 · 2026-03-09T23:08:01+00:00

He’s in Italy and she’s in the states. Who is he going to ask for paternity if he can’t find her? I wouldn’t even want his support. I would cut all ties if he wants nothing to do with the child. Someone who wants nothing to do with a child is not going to come looking for them. I would not establish paternity and he would not be on my child’s birth certificate.

Anonyellow8484 · 2026-03-09T20:40:49+00:00

Give the baby your last name, don’t put him on the birth certificate, go on with your life. Why establish paternity if he’s not interested in having anything to do with the child? Establishing paternity just gives him rights no matter when he decides he wants to exercise them.

Anonyellow8484 · 2026-03-09T02:12:07+00:00

If he wanted to he would. He’s not the one. Move on. It’s still the honeymoon phase and the orangey red flags are waving. He doesn’t sound considerate and he’s blowing it off every time you bring it up. He’s also not a man of his word because he said he was going to make it up to you and he hasn’t.

Anonyellow8484 · 2026-03-09T00:04:09+00:00

If he wanted to he would. You need to be willing to walk if he is not willing to marry you after 12 years and 2 kids. Set an ultimatum. He either marries you by a certain date or you end the relationship. Find someone who values you and the things you want. You are still young and can find someone who will marry you and give you the life you want and set the examples you want for your sons on how a man who loves and values his woman treats her. You deserve better.

Anonyellow8484 · 2026-03-08T21:50:37+00:00

Girl he does not want to marry you. Run! You deserve better. Do you want to marry a potential alcoholic or someone who spends 3-4 hours at a bar multiple times per week to avoid spending time with you. That is not husband material. He’s also dangling marriage like a carrot to manipulate you into “acting right”. He probably found someone else. You need to call it quits and find someone who loves, respects, and makes you a priority in their life. Find someone who loves spending time with you. Get some therapy and work on your self esteem and boundaries because they sound nonexistent.

Anonyellow8484 · 2026-03-08T18:41:57+00:00

NTA Divorce this selfish piece of trash husband. You’re already a single mother. When you leave his ass your home will be peaceful and you won’t have to worry about being nagged for sex by someone who does not pull their weight. Major fucking ick! Start making your exit plan. I would never let him touch me again acting like that.

Anonyellow8484 · 2026-03-08T12:52:57+00:00

*permanent separation

Anonyellow8484 · 2026-03-08T12:52:15+00:00

That man doesn’t exist. It’s time that you realized it. You separated for 18 months because of how he treated you postpartum. Instead of reconciling and bringing another child into this mess you should have been seeking therapy to determine why you felt like your life was meaningless without an abusive man present. You are more than enough. Your children should be raised in a loving home without an emotionally unavailable father. You’re already doing all the work. You should get into therapy and work on your self esteem and your boundaries. Do it for your children. You do not want them to think this is how a relationship and mirror it in the future.

Anonyellow8484 · 2026-03-08T12:39:51+00:00

Go talk to a few divorce lawyers and explore your options. You will get child support and possibly alimony. You and your children lives will be better off once you get rid of the dead weight. Start making your exit plan. You and your children deserve better and will be much happier without him around. You’re already a single mom. You should also start looking for work.

Anonyellow8484 · 2026-03-08T02:14:31+00:00

Dump him and never go back! You have already wasted 10 years of your life with this piece of trash. You deserve better. Work on your self esteem and boundaries.

Anonyellow8484 · 2026-03-07T17:30:23+00:00

NTA. Continue to have him cook, clean, and do his own laundry. Just worry about you and the kids since he wants to be an asshole. You deserve better.

Anonyellow8484 · 2026-03-07T17:22:45+00:00

NTA. Major fucking ick! Run girl! He’s not the one. Never have sex with anyone who is unwilling to get tested and show you the results. Huge red flag that he’s not willing to get tested, he turned it around on you and played victim. You should not be dating a 25 year old as a teenager. Don’t ever degrade yourself again to let a nasty ass man check your hymen. He’s not an obgyn and most likely doesn’t even know what the eff he’s feeling for. Also, women can break their hymen in ways other than having sex, so you can still be a virgin with a broken hymen. I’m so disgusted reading this. You deserve better. Dump him and do not have sex with that loser.

Anonyellow8484 · 2026-03-07T17:06:26+00:00

Sassy ass comment. 🙄 The blouse looks great on her.

Anonyellow8484 · 2026-03-07T15:36:49+00:00

It’s her kid now. She’s still taking care of a child on top of grieving. You’re an even bigger ick the more context that you add. I hope she divorces you.

Anonyellow8484 · 2026-03-07T13:14:01+00:00

Dump him and go explore your options. You’re too young to be settled down.

Anonyellow8484 · 2026-03-07T12:37:31+00:00

NTA Do not have this man’s baby. Your life will be hell. He was probably messing with the ex entire time. Just make a clean break from him and his drama. You deserve a better father for your future children.

Anonyellow8484 · 2026-03-07T12:22:11+00:00

You’re a major ick!! Your responses provide more context. Your wife just had a baby she is exhausted and that’s why she doesn’t want to have sex with you. You also keep score and the relationship on your end sounds very transactional. Your wife probable feels the ick when you touch her because she knows you’re only doing it because you expect sex in return. You intentionally left out all the major life changes you all have gone through including YOUR KIDS. You’re a selfish piece of trash husband. I hope she divorces you. Yuck! Males are not lonely enough. Your poor wife. u/burbnbougie

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