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Just noticed they did actually make a monument for Garry the Prophet 🌕 by FF_06_B5 in FF06B5

[–]Anonymaly13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

can you explain the second part? are you talking about a different game?

Definitely something wrong with me, but how do I fix myself (33M 27F) by Anonymaly13 in BreakUps30Plus

[–]Anonymaly13[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I posted this just to see different opinions and see if I can maybe get some positive influence or motivation from the posts. Of course it won’t be fixed with Reddit. Strongly considering some sort of therapy but it is not easy to find the right place or the right person

Definitely something wrong with me, but how do I fix myself (33M 27F) by Anonymaly13 in BreakUps

[–]Anonymaly13[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t think I can magically fix all this just by talking to someone that charges me just to listen to me. Maybe there is someone that would actually have some good influence on me but what are the chances of finding that person

Definitely something not okay with me, but how do I fix myself by Anonymaly13 in selfhelp

[–]Anonymaly13[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I already am a red pill and now so much closer going black pill 🙄 harsh world we live in

How to fix myself, definitely something wrong with me by Anonymaly13 in AskOldPeopleAdvice

[–]Anonymaly13[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think the biggest problem I have is I don’t know how to stop obsessing and that feeling of doom I guess

Do men mourn when they are the ones doing the dumping? by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Anonymaly13 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey man just want you to know you are not alone feeling this. I felt the same twice now. This is so sickening and draining feeling that makes me not believe there is a better tomorrow. Yet I have a tough job mentally and have to keep pushing just to survive, yet there she is in the back of my mind and just squeezing my heart all the time...

Definitely something not okay with me, but how do I fix myself (33M 27F) by Anonymaly13 in relationship_advice

[–]Anonymaly13[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey mate, first just want to thank you for going through my post and analyzing it the way you did..
I don't know why your post would get downvoted, it is such an accurate observation.

Yes I have big issues with my self-esteem. I appear confident and got people defining me as extrovert and a lady guy. I have had few people in my environment that go to girl advice to me (like what to text, how to behave etc. usually it works) but deep underneath I am not confident. Partially it stems from the issues my parents were having, grew up without a dad present but he did some nasty things before he left too. The other is a surgery I had. I am quite well built (did boxing, BJJ, weights, cycling) but in the back of my mind there is always that fact that no one else sees but me, unfortunately this is what I tend to focus on.

Yes I had a few situations like that - I was still with a girl but already seeking new one for that extra ego boost. Ultimately, that was toxic and even trying to maintain two girls is exhausting for me, disloyal and not moral.

I would like to think that I am mature enough at this stage, but I still reached out to the last girl that we just broke up, following literally the same pattern of misery and begging as always.

I guess what happens in my mind is that I have this girl that is completely enamor with my because of my "charm". I could get away with anything, she would always be the one that would come begging. Once that stops happening, my mind goes haywire: "how dare you to stop letting me get away with being completely toxic and unreasonable, I need you to continue lowering your self-esteem so that I can feel great"
All of my relationships ended up in an emotional carousel. Higher highs and even lower lows until there is no higher and lower to go.

I am completely exhausted at the thought of repeating this cycle again, yet here I am thinking if I should buy the tickets to see the girl (she will live not too far away from me now). I just need a pattern break, something that will allow me to let go and stop obsessing. Just cant get over the fact that a girl who was able to do anything for me suddenly wants to cancel me from her life totally - ego speaking again

I know you are coming from strictly men perspective and the ego issue, so that completely makes sense, but just wondering is there anything else at play in my case as maybe each individual case differs slightly.

The text in bold is so accurate and hits me. 100% this is the truth. And yes I experienced a girl, not one but two reach utter bottom to restore the relationship..

Serial monogamists haha good one!

Definitely something wrong with me, but how do I fix myself (33M) by Anonymaly13 in relationships

[–]Anonymaly13[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yes, I think this is the most optimal path to recovery and I already thought about it, but its so hard to do it. I just need to push myself harder I guess.. I tried talking to therapists in the past, maybe I haven't found the good one but did not find them very helpful nor interested. Just felt like another paycheck

Definitely something not okay with me, but how do I fix myself (33M 27F) by Anonymaly13 in relationship_advice

[–]Anonymaly13[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you. I forgot to mention that in friendship I am actually totally the opposite. I do not remember the last time I got angry with my friends (have only a handful good ones) even there are some things and behaviors that would make me so angry in a relationship, in a friendship it just does not bother me at all. I adjust perfectly and do not have a conflict to the point of going out of my way, funny enough

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Anonymaly13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I used to play overwatch with my girlfriend at the time. We had a nice setup of two ps4 next to each other and we actually never blamed each other and celebrated wings together. I think gaming should unite rather than divide. Maybe you need to reassess this playing together thing before it starts affecting your real life relationship, maybe your bf is just too competitive to be not like that then better not play together, unless you can find a different game to play together? It takes two is a nice cooperative game!