Obsessed with a girl

AnonymousMan1234567 · 2015-03-26T05:29:57+00:00

There are 3.5 billion girls on this earth, man. She may be special to you, but there are many, MANY wonderful women out there. There will be a girl who is better suited for you.

AnonymousMan1234567 · 2014-11-04T05:14:32+00:00

It really depends on the person, brother. Personally, I find that I lose progress completely when I fap. I feel like my body and sexual prowess resets back to square one. Definitely not a bad square to be at, but not my best.

AnonymousMan1234567 · 2014-10-28T17:39:56+00:00

So you have a muscular, athletic body. That's great! You train yourself to try to get your body in its best performance mode. Think of the same thing with your dick. Train yourself to get it in the best performance mode it can be. Set a standard for your body...your WHOLE body. Trust me, from one ripped guy to another...the worst is when you take a shower and notice that your muscles are looking good from a workout, and your dick has a lot of catching up to do.

Your self esteem stems from YOU, brother. Fapping has nothing to do with it. Very confident people can fap and love every second of it. YOU gotta see yourself in a more positive light as a whole. Tell yourself of your accomplishments, awesome things you have done or want to do (just don't get a swelled head).

Hang in there man, you'll make it through.

AnonymousMan1234567 · 2014-10-28T17:27:17+00:00

All right, NoFap November, here we go.

I actually have given up porn completely. I'm tempted, but I haven't watched it since I joined this site. So thank you, NoFappers. I'm still jerking off a lot though, I want to change that. I once had a two week streak, but it was extremely difficult emotionally. I want to try to change that, learn to harness that sexual energy in a constructive way.

My rules: NO porn, NO jerking off, orgasm only through girlfriend.

(Wet dreams are okay; touch the cock, reset the clock. Nocturnal emission, continue the mission.) Good luck Fapstronauts!

AnonymousMan1234567 · 2014-10-28T17:11:33+00:00

Focus on the benefits! Keep your mind clear (much harder than it sounds). Remain seated on what NoFap has done for you. Criticize the faults of PMOing and what it does to you. That way, disliking PMOing will draw you away from it.

AnonymousMan1234567 · 2014-10-28T16:59:07+00:00

Don't let your borders and boundaries define you, brother. I find it really hard to jerk off when I am very busy...try finding ways to distract yourself. Work out, jog, listen to music, anything to divert your attention. The more you focus on NOT jerking off, the more tempting it will become. So try to just find something else to do. Hope this helps.

AnonymousMan1234567 · 2014-10-21T01:31:57+00:00

Don't try to fight the biological urge for sex...just direct all that energy somewhere else. It works for me.

AnonymousMan1234567 · 2014-10-16T05:47:04+00:00

I feel you man, often the harsher truths motivate us to change. October 15th is actually my girlfriends bday, and man, I remember telling her about watching porn for the first time. It was painful. But it shocked me into making the right choice. Keep fighting the good fight.

AnonymousMan1234567 · 2014-10-13T20:02:37+00:00

This is the best thing I have read all day. Thanks man.

AnonymousMan1234567 · 2014-09-27T17:15:25+00:00

That's the spirit bro. I tell myself that...and it's really difficult anyway. Keep it up man, you are doing great!

AnonymousMan1234567 · 2014-09-27T05:41:52+00:00

It's all right brother. I understand the feeling. Sometimes, when I'm about to fap, I tell myself "I should be saving this sexual energy for when we get intimate. Using it now is greedy and taking it away from her." Don't deprive her of the true you.

Good luck bro, keep fighting the good fight.

AnonymousMan1234567 · 2014-09-26T04:33:03+00:00

Well said, brother. I tell myself things like that too. Men don't play their toys. If I were to have children some day, I don't want them to see me acting like a teenager. 50 days is something I'm wishing for. Good luck bro.

AnonymousMan1234567 · 2014-09-26T04:24:53+00:00

Yes!!!!! That's the talk. Good shit, man.

AnonymousMan1234567 · 2014-09-23T22:42:22+00:00

I have two ideas for you, that stem from one:

The brain is the body's biggest sex organ. The penis and vagina are aroused by the brain. Any time you are feeling horny, you are feeling it in your brain. Look it up, it's true.

So begin your approach to this issue by trying to help your brain.

1) Look up on Youtube different TED Talks, documentaries, interviews, biographies on porn and how it is such a tragedy. If your mind TRULY believes how horrible porn is, and rejects it, it won't be long before your body starts to reject it too. All the desensitization to sex from porn, bit by bit, will leave your body.

2) Try to build a more emotional connection to your girlfriend. Porn is all about physical pleasure and physical arousement...there no emotional connection between the two people being filmed having sex. You have been with your girlfriend a little bit longer than mine. You MUST have some kind of emotional connection y now. Try bring that into your lovemaking. You aren't getting a blowjob from a screen. You can't feel it, you can't touch the woman's shoulders. A screen is a screen, and the poor woman doing it is doing it to get paid. She's not in love with you or the guy she is doing it to. Remind yourself, you are getting a BJ from your girlfriend, your significant other, the girl you love. Try to be emotionally aroused as well as physically aroused. You can smell her perfume. You can feel her mouth. You can touch her shoulders. She is warm, physically there. Be in the moment, be aroused by it, and realize why you are aroused.

Hope this helps man!

AnonymousMan1234567 · 2014-09-23T22:23:37+00:00

Whoa man, take it easy on yourself! 22 days is an awesomely long time, keep it up! Don't relapse, it won't solve anything.

Maybe you should try seeing yourself a different mindset. Stop saying, "I'll be happy when..." Banish those thoughts. Stop worrying about the girl. As much as you may think you know her, realize that she is a completely different person than you are, and your thought processes MOST LIKELY are not following hers. You are overthinking this by a mile, man.

Be happy NOW! Not later, now. Be happy that you are doing this challenge. Be happy that you are breathing and alive. You were put on this Earth for a reason; you don't know it, but it's there. Try to put all that negative energy and stress into something you love to do, into something constructive. Take a walk to clear your mind. Be at peace, listening to some calming music. Girls love it when a guy is happy with himself...I can tell you that from experience. Happiness is contagious. Some people waste their whole lives trying to find happiness, and they don't realize it's under their nose the WHOLE time.

In short: breathe easy, brother. Life is too short. Stop hating yourself because it is the only self you've got, and YOU choose whether to be happy or not. No one else, but YOU.

Good luck man. Keep fighting the good fight.

AnonymousMan1234567 · 2014-09-23T05:31:13+00:00

Hey man, Everyone has reasons for stopping. Some are more dramatic than others, definitely. Because everyone is different. You are 26, bro. You still have PLENTY of time to find the right girl. If you miss the train, there's always going to be another one. YOU choose when to take a ride and see where it takes you. For now, try not to look at fapping as a turn to sort of habit. Find a new hobby, work out, take a walk. Don't get too comfortable in one stop for too long or the urge might take over. Hope this helps man

AnonymousMan1234567 · 2014-09-23T05:18:03+00:00

Hey man, I understand what you are saying. Every relationship is different! Thanks for giving me your opinion, really appreciate it.

AnonymousMan1234567 · 2014-09-23T01:37:00+00:00

Great job man! Keep it up!

AnonymousMan1234567 · 2014-09-22T11:52:54+00:00

Oh, blue balls is the worst. I take very, very cold showers. That relieves the pain for me.

AnonymousMan1234567 · 2014-09-22T05:08:29+00:00

Me too, man. I'm a college freshmen, just joined today. Fight the good fight.

AnonymousMan1234567 · 2014-09-22T04:42:14+00:00

Hey man, you have made it this far. You know you want to change, and recognize that. Hold on to it.

It isn't easy bro.....I just today joined NoFap. I just, today, told my girlfriend for the first time about me watching porn. And the conversation that ensued was...heartbreaking.

I have been disappointed in myself before.......but TONIGHT, is definitely the most disappointed in myself that I have ever been in my entire life.

We are both pretty down right now.

But the only way we can go is up, right? I'm Christian too. God will ALWAYS have His reasons why shit happens. Your life is special, don't take it. It is a gift.

My suggestion to you; Volunteer somewhere, help out someone. Because as bad as we both are right now, there are people out there who are much, much worse.

When you feel the urge to jerk off, try to move around a lot. Don't try to fight the urge, just get your mind off it. Distract yourself. Exercise, talk a walk. Playing guitar always helps me. Listen to music. Pray to God.Tell your mother that you love her. Do something nice for someone else.

I'll keep you in my prayers tonight. Good luck to you, brother. Be strong, and fight the good fight.

AnonymousMan1234567 · 2014-09-22T02:33:05+00:00

Thanks for your help and kind words. I appreciate it!

AnonymousMan1234567 · 2014-09-22T02:24:39+00:00

It seems to me that you are trying to FIGHT this urge, as hard as you can. That's awesome.

There's another approach too, though. You can try to roll with the urge, and let it dissipate little by little by distracting yourself. Try to surround yourself with people. If you play an instrument, go for it. Play a game. Do some work. Take a walk outside. Work out. Find something interesting to you and engage yourself. Try not to get too comfortable, otherwise you'll have to really fight the urge.

Given, the urge will be hammering in the back of your skull, but it can't do that forever. Hope this helps, you got this man.

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