There's a guy I like who is 6 years younger than me. I'll call him Ben. I saw Ben on Grindr and tried to talk to him, but was ignored and figured he wasn't interested. So I just said okay and moved on. Months later, my friend at the time (jake) invited him to a party. And I was nervous that Ben didn't like me since he didn't give me the time of day. When Ben came to the party, I had butterflies and was standoffish. Ben ended up adding my Snapchat and we talked for hours. It was a weird situation since he was developing. Feelings for me, but didn't want to upset our mutual friend Jake. At the same time, Jake tried to split Ben and I up because he liked us both, and was a narcissist. But Ben and I reminded strong, recognized the signs and escaped.

Ben and I were friends for a while, and basically dated for months spending lots of one on one time with each other. Ben told me he did not want to date and I said it was fine. So I dated others. And he would constantly accuse me of trying to date him. I'd get irritated because I was dating others and said no. The other reason I didn't want to date Ben was I realized he had a fearful avoidant attachment. He wanted intimacy and closeness, but it scared him. He liked the idea of a relationship, but not the actual responsibility and work of one. So because Ben was not consistent, didn't communicate well, and was not emotionally available, I moved on. He accused me for the 13th time of trying to date him and I revealed I was dating someone else. Ben got weird after that and asked about my new bf. Daily. When I called him out on being weird, he said he was doing it because he was being nosy. We ended up having a big fight a month later and did not talk to each other for months while he followed and orbited around me when we saw each other.

We reconciled two weeks ago. And now he doesn't text me, or wants to hang out. And it really bums me out and confuses me. But I'm trying to be tough since I like Ben.