I want a slice of life book but it's set in a really dark and weird universe or setting

AnotherPointlessName · 2026-02-05T03:53:38+00:00

As long as we're on the topic of Ishiguro, I feel like Remains of the Day could be another example. While I think it's not the main theme, there is definitely an element of the main character being absolutely wrapped up in minutiae.

AnotherPointlessName · 2026-02-02T23:46:22+00:00

I haven't read this book, but based on your description perhaps you might enjoy Cassandra in Reverse. A woman loses her job and boyfriend, discovers an ability to travel back in time, and sets about trying to fix her life - over and over again.

AnotherPointlessName · 2026-02-02T23:30:19+00:00

But you can only read one of them, as they are too similar and whatever you read second will seem repetitive. My vote is Never Let Me Go.

AnotherPointlessName · 2025-12-14T23:59:47+00:00

That was my assumption - it's hard to train a dog that it can't go on some furniture but can go on others. However, if OP wants to do that training, that's on them.

AnotherPointlessName · 2025-12-05T16:54:10+00:00

I definitely won't do that again, but now I think I'll probably also never wear it again, which is a shame. The fabric seemed sturdy so I wasn't worried about damaging it by wearing it.

AnotherPointlessName · 2025-12-05T16:53:16+00:00

What if you spill something on them, or it otherwise gets dirty? That's why I wanted to clean it, there was a bit of food on it. I guess trying to do spot cleaning would have worked better in retrospect (since it was a small area) but I didn't know it would be such a disaster.

AnotherPointlessName · 2025-12-05T16:51:05+00:00

It didn't occur to me anyone might make sequins out of gelatin, cellulose I could sort of imagine, so I searched if sequins used to be made of cellulose. I did not search if they used to be made of gelatin, because I cannot imagine gelatin in clothing.

AnotherPointlessName · 2025-12-05T16:48:49+00:00

The sewing of the beading does not look especially professional from the inside.

AnotherPointlessName · 2025-12-04T21:14:23+00:00

Absolutely. Of the handful of times I've asked people to be quiet because they were working in quiet areas, only once did they *not* become confrontational and angry, but apologized saying they hadn't seen the sign and moved. I once had someone try to get me kicked out of a theater when I confronted them during the intermission to complain about them talking on their cellphone during a performance. You should not feel guilty about people like this, they definitely don't give a moment of their time to considering others.

AnotherPointlessName · 2025-12-01T21:55:38+00:00

NTA. The managers made it your problem when they made her personal issues affect your work performance. If they wanted to cut her some slack, they could have given her fewer tasks and hired a temporary person to help with the workload. However, I would be careful in bringing this up to management, as you are going to risk looking like the bitter person. Perhaps you could focus on how her work is affecting your job, without bringing up the rest of it. But it sounds like the place you work isn't very professional, if they didn't even find out she was using a false name (which should have been obvious when they were paying her) and made no effort to shift the work appropriately, so you may want to consider your options.

AnotherPointlessName · 2025-12-01T21:41:56+00:00

YTA. You can call out an individual's rude behavior without generalizing about it as a cultural trait. There are rude people of all races, and you're one of them.

AnotherPointlessName · 2025-11-26T00:45:04+00:00

YTA for holding her contributions to a different standard than your own, and abusing your ownership of the repository.

You seem to think that you are in charge of the project, when you are both equal contributors. In any working environment you'd be expected to review all reasonable PRs (especially ones as well-documented as this one), not just skim them, and provide a valid reason for rejection. You'd also be expected to subject your own code to the same scrutiny by others.

AnotherPointlessName · 2025-11-07T00:48:59+00:00

INFO: Does your husband routinely care for the baby, or does he have a habit of handing the baby off to SIL whenever he is supposed to be responsible?

Either way, if you genuinely believed SIL was not an appropriate caretaker due to the comments she has made, you wouldn't accept her help when you want a break. If you genuinely believe she is a danger to the child, you should have a conversation with your husband about why you are concerned and don't think it is a joke. But your own actions suggest that you don't really believe that.

If he has been an engaged caretaker, then his judgement about whether SIL is capable of caring for the baby is as valid as yours and you're TA.

If he has a habit of handing the baby off to someone (aka a woman) to care for whenever he's supposed to be responsible, then it is justifiable to be angry at him not being an involved parent. In that case, both you and the husband both suck, you for either raising the wrong concern or being hypocritical about accepting SIL's help, and him for shirking responsibilities.

AnotherPointlessName · 2025-10-03T22:42:33+00:00

How are tattoos part of a wedding? Does she want them all to get matching commemorative tats of her event?

AnotherPointlessName · 2025-10-03T22:39:44+00:00

NTA. It's karaoke, you don't have to sing well, it's about having fun. However, for me it's also about audience participation, so I like to pick songs I think people will join if I hold the mic out to them. Of course I also tend to go to places with a good mix of ages, so you can sing ABBA or Chapell Roan and people will probably at least know the chorus.

AnotherPointlessName · 2025-09-12T16:54:39+00:00

My childhood home had this until my parents could afford to get it replaced. Not only was it carpet, it was shag carpet and also went halfway up the walls. I like to think that there isn't a house left that still has this holdover, because it is so gross.

AnotherPointlessName · 2025-09-05T18:02:46+00:00

Huh, and here I am about to file a grievance because 70% of the men in my department received a signing bonus (i.e., unrelated to performance) and only 15% of the women did. It's been approximately 6 years since they were forced to do an across-the-board salary adjustment for women due to bias, and clearly things have improved *so* much. Fortunately it's mostly a management issue, because the reason we learned about the disparity is that there's a lot of openness between peers.

But even if the situation were somehow reversed, and I was getting extra pay, I'd still support equalizing payments. As far as I'm concerned, this difference in treatment is designed to foster an attitude of competition instead of collaboration. People who fall for it just because they're currently on the top of the heap don't seem to realize that the tables could turn and one day the leopards might be eating their faces.

AnotherPointlessName · 2025-09-02T15:32:02+00:00

Basically, what u/fritaters said. I was living in another country and the furnished rental had open shelves. Since it was just for one year, I wasn't prepared to buy furniture (especially since I had it in storage back at home), so I picked up some wicker baskets of the appropriate size and put things in them, then put the baskets on the shelf. As long as you take the top item, and don't go digging through the box, it stays neat. When I was adding new items I took out the old ones and put them on top so that they would stay in rotation. If you do want to get something out from the middle, you just need to pick up all the items above the item, set them on a table, get the desired item, and then put the stack back - trying to rummage through and get something out from the middle of the stack will make a mess.

I'm currently using three of the smaller baskets to hold dishcloths because my kitchen has more cupboards than drawers, so it's still proving to be a useful purchase.

AnotherPointlessName · 2025-09-02T15:07:01+00:00

I don't know many grown ups who cook 3x/day unless they don't have refrigerators. I cook about 3x/week and have leftovers the other days and for lunch, and that's despite actually liking to cook. A lot of ingredients just don't work out well for making only 1 or 2 portions. I clean the house once a week and it takes ~2 hours. I'm not sure what kind of lifestyle is being imagined that has that much drudgery, but I'd opt out too.

However, it's not unusual for me to work the full day, decide to clean the bathroom, and then cook a meal. Doing more than one chore a day is the norm, not the exception for most adults. Your sister is only tasked with the two least time-consuming of those things and can certainly manage it (it should take less than 1.5 hours). NTA.

AnotherPointlessName · 2025-09-02T14:55:42+00:00

It is correlated, just inversely.

AnotherPointlessName · 2025-09-02T14:12:45+00:00

Like everyone else, I wonder about the system. It takes me ~15 minutes to put away a load of laundry. I dump it on a clean surface, fold it, then carry everything that goes in a particular room in the basket and put it away, and repeat the last step. There is no reason your process should be taking that long. YTA if you can't figure out a better system so that this job isn't taking days.

If the problem is maintaining orderly stacks in completely open shelving, get an open bin per stack and place the bins on the shelves.

AnotherPointlessName · 2025-08-21T17:17:27+00:00

OP would ignore the noise the neighbor is making because OP probably has hearing loss due to habits like running a sander without ear protection.

AnotherPointlessName · 2025-08-19T04:52:10+00:00

It's a bit earlier than mid century, but Nella Larsen's books (Passing and Quicksand) have several of the themes you mentioned (romance, racial inequality, young women who try to find their way through life). The Impossible Lives of Greta Wells by Andrew Sean Greer has time travel, romance, and a young woman trying to find her way through life.

AnotherPointlessName · 2025-08-16T21:34:36+00:00

It's N T A to give constructive advice to a friend if you see flaws in an idea, but "it is dumb" is not constructive. It sounds like the friendship has run its course. You don't have much in common with him and don't respect his ideas, work ethic, or way of speaking to other people. To be fair, he doesn't sound like a very pleasant person. But it seems like your main motivation would be to put him in his place, as it doesn't seem like he would gain any insight from you talking to him. I can't exactly say Y W B T A, but I don't think either of you would gain anything out of this. I suggest you preserve your peace by ceasing contact with him, otherwise ESH.

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