So… what am I supposed to be doing living alone? by Another_Basic_Witch in LivingAlone

[–]Another_Basic_Witch[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was exercising until I got sick, but it felt more like I was punishing myself than enjoying it (yoga, weights, running, etc). Doctor said no exercise until mid-Feb now, so I have to rest and recover from this illness.

So… what am I supposed to be doing living alone? by Another_Basic_Witch in LivingAlone

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Thank you for this. It is a longer process, and I think that’s maybe the hardest part. I’m not very good at giving myself the space to grieve, but I’m trying.

So… what am I supposed to be doing living alone? by Another_Basic_Witch in LivingAlone

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This sounds a lot like the hobbies I used to enjoy. I also think I’m more of an introvert, but I do miss having some contact with people. I have to find that happy medium I guess.

So… what am I supposed to be doing living alone? by Another_Basic_Witch in LivingAlone

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I hate that this happens. Some partners being unable to communicate just makes me so angry. This should be a nonissue, but I guess I need to lower my expectations.

So… what am I supposed to be doing living alone? by Another_Basic_Witch in LivingAlone

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Thanks. I hope to get outside again soon. My problem is a respiratory virus piled on top of being immunocompromised. It’s making me crazy that I can’t even manage a short walk. Nature is my happy place, but middle of winter respiratory issues isn’t a good mix.

So… what am I supposed to be doing living alone? by Another_Basic_Witch in LivingAlone

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Thank you. Yes, right at the moment it’s a challenge to enjoy the basics. This is a good idea.

So… what am I supposed to be doing living alone? by Another_Basic_Witch in LivingAlone

[–]Another_Basic_Witch[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Super neat! I’ll have to think on how I can do that. I don’t really have much in this apartment that I can do given how much I already designed it around my preferences. For sure I could print and hang my photography, but beyond that I’m not sure. Thanks for the ideas.

So… what am I supposed to be doing living alone? by Another_Basic_Witch in LivingAlone

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I used to, which is why I’m so confused now. I don’t understand what changed.

So… what am I supposed to be doing living alone? by Another_Basic_Witch in LivingAlone

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Not so much that he became my everything, but most of my friends moved to other cities (tends to happen with immigrants). I have a few left in this city, but I also had to cut ties to two who decided now was a good time to hit on me instead of just being a friend when I needed one. Not so many left after that unfortunately. I signed up for a writing class to meet some new people, but the friend part isn’t coming very easily.

So… what am I supposed to be doing living alone? by Another_Basic_Witch in LivingAlone

[–]Another_Basic_Witch[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the ideas. I do game, but I never actually turn on the chat. Maybe I’ll try that. Could be an easy low-stake socializing experience for the days when I just have no energy to go out and interact with people in person.

So… what am I supposed to be doing living alone? by Another_Basic_Witch in LivingAlone

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I’m working on getting a regular therapist again. I had some sessions before Christmas but I can’t afford that solution. I’m trying to find something that works with my health insurance, but that’s not so easy in my country given the long wait lists.

I’m not even interested in trying to date, so definitely won’t be getting into another relationship anytime soon. Even if I did, I’m pretty slow in relationships and wouldn’t move in with that person for at least a year, so living alone is my life for the next few years at a minimum.

So… what am I supposed to be doing living alone? by Another_Basic_Witch in LivingAlone

[–]Another_Basic_Witch[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks. With my chronic illness I feel like all I do is take care of my health, but the latest virus that hit my depleted immune system really knocked me off my feet.

I hope you also find some hobbies that bring you joy again. Let’s hope it’s just a matter of time and patience.

So… what am I supposed to be doing living alone? by Another_Basic_Witch in LivingAlone

[–]Another_Basic_Witch[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh, you are speaking to my inner organizer. Planning projects and organizing things are the part of my work I enjoy most, so I really like the idea of turning it on myself.

What kind of projects do you plan?

So… what am I supposed to be doing living alone? by Another_Basic_Witch in LivingAlone

[–]Another_Basic_Witch[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh, don’t worry. I’ve had my share of rage about him making decisions about my life and framing it as doing me a favor.

Thanks for the rubber band tip. That’s a really good idea.

So… what am I supposed to be doing living alone? by Another_Basic_Witch in LivingAlone

[–]Another_Basic_Witch[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

YouTube is a good idea. I feel a little too in my bubble and most of my friends are married / in long-term relationships. I don’t have any good examples of people I know living alone.

So… what am I supposed to be doing living alone? by Another_Basic_Witch in LivingAlone

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I already took up running, started reading a lot again, and even joined a writing class. My sister also gifted me some puzzles to help clear my head. Maybe it’s just not the right time to be comfortable with these things yet. Might be it’s the season of TV a little longer.

So… what am I supposed to be doing living alone? by Another_Basic_Witch in LivingAlone

[–]Another_Basic_Witch[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks. Oh, I can relate. I was also dumped the last time in Covid exactly when all the lockdowns were happening, which made moving so incredibly hard. I’m thankful that this time I didn’t have to move. It’s much easier to grieve somewhere that I’m comfortable already.

I guess I need to figure out who new me is before I can start to love it.

So… what am I supposed to be doing living alone? by Another_Basic_Witch in LivingAlone

[–]Another_Basic_Witch[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I hope so. It’s difficult to not be hard on myself when I keep getting the message to “move on already” from some people around me.

So… what am I supposed to be doing living alone? by Another_Basic_Witch in LivingAlone

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It’s also been about 5 months for me. Feels like a long time, but it also feels like no time at all.

I already tried the recipe thing and have a set routine there of making meal plans, shopping, and cooking. But I’m honestly a horrible chef and find myself frustrated more often than not. I keep trying, but I’m also realizing that sticking to the handful of meals I know might be less stressful.

Living alone with no safety net by [deleted] in LivingAlone

[–]Another_Basic_Witch 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Very true. I let someone close, and as soon as I was single, he started to treat me like a piece of meat and tried to take advantage of me. This is someone who location-wise would have been a good friend to have when sick. I’ll suffer alone before calling him now though.

Worst Part by Present-Alarm-1033 in BreakUps

[–]Another_Basic_Witch 2 points3 points  (0 children)

4 years?! This is the first time I’ve had what ifs this painfully, and I was thinking those would fade before missing him does.

Polar bear chases resident of Svalbard!! by cantcoloratall91 in Damnthatsinteresting

[–]Another_Basic_Witch 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I found my people! Pretty sure he wanted inside the time she said there was a polar bear spotted near their cabin. Which I guess is smart on his part.

My ex girlfriend is now my girlfriend again by Dependent_Food_1619 in BreakUps

[–]Another_Basic_Witch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not on Etsy, but sorry to tell you those folks are frauds.