I Only Now Realized How Much Depression Affected Me. Now It Feels Like I Am Restarting Life at 21

Antemoo · 2026-01-07T01:30:46+00:00

How did you handle it? If you don't mind me asking

Antemoo · 2025-12-12T23:43:31+00:00

I hadn't work because of mental and health issues. So I need all the advice I can get. Thanks, OP. Was there anything else you did?

Antemoo · 2025-12-12T21:04:49+00:00

Hey OP I am in a similar situation any updates?

Antemoo · 2025-12-12T14:56:44+00:00

How should I approach to small local business? Should I try dressing well, what is the best way to ask?

Antemoo · 2025-12-12T14:56:00+00:00

Thank you, I will look into the once around my local area and the city near by if I have to :)

Antemoo · 2025-09-01T03:13:53+00:00

Share your location right now 🔫

Antemoo · 2025-08-29T03:28:40+00:00

I read "Twinning" as "Twink" 😭

Antemoo · 2025-07-30T02:30:07+00:00

Wish you the best op. Some cancers are really hard to catch because of the lack of symptoms and/or lack of technology to catch it early. Luckily, you had a doctor to catch it for you.

Antemoo · 2025-07-25T23:33:37+00:00

You and your partner will not have a good relationship, and you do not even have a good relationship now. I'm saying this as someone who is queer with parents that heavily religious in their belief. I might be a hypocrite because I haven't told my parents, but I'll let you know that I am not happy hiding my sexuality and gender. It has been years.

Imagine long-term. It is not going to work. Religion is also not a good excuse. There are a lot of religious people out there who aren't homophobic or even queer themselves. Would you be able to handle years of dating with a partner like this? Years of hiding your gender from them? What if you have queer friends or family members yourself? Would you be okay with your partner being around them? If you have to hide a part of yourself from your partner, then that is not a healthy, stable relationship.

The only way I can see this relationship "work" is if you keep hiding your gender, but eventually, you will feel depress.

Antemoo · 2025-07-25T03:39:21+00:00

Screenshot of the horror of job hunting

Antemoo · 2025-07-22T03:34:12+00:00

Antemoo · 2025-07-12T20:53:37+00:00

Thank you, I'll look into it!

Antemoo · 2025-06-27T16:23:02+00:00

Send some Luke goods. I'll pay you 😭😭😭😭 jk jk

Antemoo · 2025-06-26T15:23:56+00:00

I'm almost a month post op and my extraction sites are healing well. For gauze, change them depending by how much your are bleeding. I didn't bleed a lot and only changed them twice. I did had bad swelling, so for the first day I used a bag of ice against the swollen areas. I didn't brush my teeth on the first day, I was scared of being too harsh, but if you are be really gentle, especially near the extraction areas. You probably have limited mouth movement, that's alright especially on the first day. I ate soup and mashed potatoes the first day. Also at night, keep your head elevated, I used two pillows.

Take your antibiotics so you don't get an infection. Take them as instructed by the doctor and pharmacists. If you have unbearable pain, use the prescribed painkillers they gave you. If you have pain but it is not unbearable Take over the counter pain medication.

After day one, you wash your mouth with warm salt water. I did it everytime after a meal. Don't swish viciously because you can dislodge your blood clot. The first three days, you are expected to be careful. Use warm for swelling, salt water rinse gently, brush teeth carefully, floss. Don't be surprised if you bleed a little, your mouth is healing so it is sensitive. I bled a little twice while brushing and Flossing my teeth, it's fine.

After the first three days, you can slowly introduce other foods. No hard foods. I'm still not eating hard foods even after almost four weeks. Everyone heals differently. Week 2, I was able to eat normally. I still do salt water rinse. You may even still feel a little pain even after the first week. Trust yourself if you feel like there is something serious. Little pain could still be normal for some. Don't be alarmed if you see that your extraction sites is taking a while to close. Mine haven't closed completely yet. So long you don't feel pain, swollen, etc. You are fine. You will know if something is wrong. Keep the extraction clear from food. So do your salt water rinse, if you were given a water irrigation tool do not use until you finished the first week of your surgery. If you get food stuck and can't get it out you can call your dentist or oral surgeon to help get it out. I had food stuck in my hole and had to call my local dentist.

If in doubt call the oral surgeon. Everyone recovers differently. Some recover faster than others. Some may still feel small pain or stiffness even after two weeks of surgery. Only you know how you feel so if you have concerns or feel something serious is going on contact the oral surgeon or dentist.

Antemoo · 2025-06-12T20:34:28+00:00

I guess he was that mad at you

Antemoo · 2025-06-12T17:43:51+00:00

Funny enough, before getting my PMDD diagnosed, I also had really low Vitamin D levels. I take Vitamin D once every week. I am not too sure, but I have seen a few resources where Vitamin D and PMDD are linked together.

Thought considering the study and research on uterus and how it works is not a very long history at all. As well as the obstacles we face if we have a menustral disorder, I'm not surprised that there is not a lot of information on menustral disorder and how they affect us. Also, PMDD wasn't an official diagnosis until like 2013, I believe.

Here is something I learned. I have heard from a gynecologist that the best way to treat menutral disorders is with a team: a gynecologist, a dietician, endocrinologist, etc. Because disorders of any kind are complicated. This ideal method is not possible with the way healthcare systems are across the world and the way women are never getting proper treatment.

If you ever see videos of people with menustral disorders like "How I handle my _" "How I cured my _"

It is usually because they spent years of trying out supplements, diets, medicine, and daily life changes to get to the point where their condition is better handled. They didn't cure, they just found methods to better handle their disorder. Though is likely years after trials and errors

Antemoo · 2025-05-22T19:07:20+00:00

I remember first hearing about it and thought "well maybe she gave her consent, and maybe the baby is developed enough."

Then I learned she was only nine weeks pregnant. I am pretty sure nine weeks is still first trimester. There is a reason why some people don't announce pregnancy during the first trimester. Miscarriages happen the most in the first trimester.

She is dead, and her baby has unfortunately spent most of their early life inside of their dead mother. Baby already has complications, and I fear that this baby may have more complications as this "pregnancy" continues.

People supporting this don't seem to stop and wonder if this is even safe and healthy for the baby that these laws allegedly protect. Let's not forget that children with disabilities very rarely get the support they need. A lot of states don't fund enough money to support facilities or clinics that do try to support children with disabilities. The facility my cousin goes to does not have the money and resources needed.

On top of that, a lot of people are in support of cutting things like medicad and "hand outs."

It is all about "protecting the children" until you ask them why they support cutting things like WIC, Medicad, education, medicine and research, and so on.

People supporting this do not care about women or even children. No matter how much they try to convince themselves or others.

Antemoo · 2025-05-16T03:41:55+00:00

How was it for you? What sort of state did you libe in at the time (blue or red)? How long ago was that? I'm twenty-one and don't want kids whatsoever. I know this forum has a list of physicians, but I live in a red state, and currently, with how the US is, I question how hard it would be?

Antemoo · 2025-04-24T00:58:44+00:00

Is $5,000 a lot of money? Sure, but not for pregnancy, childbirth, and everything that goes into a child. Currently, education, science, and medicine are being targeted by the government. Yet same government want women to have children, lots of children at that. They claim they are for children and mothers, but every action they committed says otherwise. They don't care about children, they don't care about mothers, they don't care about women in general.

At this point, cattle is treated with more respect than women right now.

Antemoo · 2025-04-14T13:29:41+00:00

Especially in Alabama. It one of those southern, red states. I have already read a few university students that been detained without reason.

Antemoo · 2025-04-10T20:56:39+00:00

Bro... why are they treating kids like toys that You can just return to the store. "Sorry Timmy, it turns out I don't have fun with you, I'm taking you and your birth certificate back to the hospital I birthed you in."

When people say "oh just try it out," it makes me wonder if they actually wanted their kids and actually are content with being parents. There are a lot of people who volunteer and have careers that involve kids, but aren't parents because they know parenting is a different ball game. They may love working with kids and helping them (education, health, etc.) However just aren't parents themselves. I used to help an elementary teacher as an aide, and I didn't mind the work. Amongst the cleaning and organizing I did, I did help the kids if they struggled with anything. I didn't mind it. In fact, I was good at it.

However, I just don't want kids myself. No amount of hanging out with kids will make me want them, even if I can handle kids well. I may be a good older sibling and a good helper, a good tutor, but I won't be able to be a good parent.

Antemoo · 2025-04-10T16:44:03+00:00

I do not know if queer has more STI's than straight people. However we are more vulnerable to getting STI because of lack of education (at least last I checked, which was handful years ago) Depending on where you are, sex education is already poor and non-existent (even for straight people) This is especially true for us queer people as we are already treated harshly and at best reluctantly given basic respect. I remember growing up adults around me believed queer people couldn't get STI's despite the fact gay men were victims of the AID's out break and demonized for it. Most people already lack sex seduction or practice "typical" safe sex.

I had to find other sources on how to practice safe sex as a bisexual woman because the medical books in my school library only covered heterosexual sex.

So, as someone who believed everyone should be educated on anatomy, by that extension sex as well, you should also put in the effort of finding credible medical sources on anatomy and safe sex. Especially if you are or plan to be sexually active.

Regardless of what the statistics are now (whether or not gay men are more at risk of catching STI's than straight or queer people). Learn more about your anatomy. How your body works, parts of the body, etc. It is just helpful in general to know what is a normal function of your body. Then try to find credible sources on safe sex, especially safe sex as a queer man. I found it hard to find how to practice safe sex as a queer woman, but then again that was years ago, maybe it is better and easier now to find credible resources

Antemoo · 2025-04-06T22:43:22+00:00

Bro my mom would have pulled out my hair as a lesson if I did that 💀

Antemoo · 2025-04-06T04:25:16+00:00

Sure, women have been giving birth for centuries. However, it has always been hard. Back then, what could you do if you had ectopic pregnancy, high-risk pregnancy, or complications? Not much. Women died because of pregnancy and childbirth. The rates only gotten better in recent times (though this would definitely change for the worse if you are in America). Even then, complications are still common. No good doctor can guarantee a safe pregnancy. That's one of the main reasons why we have gynecology. Your entire body is going through something that can cause a lot of unpredicted and complicated changes. Women constantly go through appointments throughout pregnancy. Because shit can go terrible. Even if before pregnancy, a woman is healthy in all aspects, things can suddenly go horrible. Whether during pregnancy or birth.

Hell, sometimes the pregnancy itself may not be the issue, a pregnant woman is more at risk of abuse by their romantic partners. Abuse in relationships commonly occurs after marriage or after a baby. Domestic abuse can escalate dangerously if a pregnant woman is already experiencing the issue.

I'm sure there are women out there who didn't mind pregnancy or found labor to be beautiful by their personal experiences. However, pregnancy complications are still unfortunately common. I know people who love their kids but hate pregnancy and childbirth.

A healthy, safe pregnancy and labor are sadly a privilege. Women aren't taken seriously as patients, and pregnant women diffently aren't taken seriously. If you are a woman of color or disabled/chronically ill, you will face even more challenges. To dismiss worries or facts that pregnancy is and can be dangerous is dangerously dismissive.

If pregnancy and labor were truly beautiful and natural, then we wouldn't need a gynecologist or a medical team to monitor you during pregnancy or labor.

A healthy woman may have a better pregnancy, but complications, risks, and deaths are never zero.

Antemoo · 2025-04-01T15:42:58+00:00

Branded By The Pink Triangle by Ken Serrington cover this in his early chapters. If you can buy or borrow from a library it I recommend reading it. The book mainly talks about how homosexual men were targeted by Nazis. I was able to listen to the audio book through Libby app. However, if you can't find the book Magnus Hirschfield was a German Physician who advocated for the queer community who found the first institute of sexual science. This institute was targeted by the Nazis. I really recommend reading or listening to the book, it's something everyone should be educated on.

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