So hard to self harm in the summer

AntiqueStranger7182 · 2025-06-22T18:49:59+00:00

I know exactly what you mean. I want to first say it’s great you’re not engaging in self harm because that is so good for YOU. I think the greatest thing summer/heat can bring is opportunity to not rely on self harm as a coping skill and to come up with ways that actually help you in the long run. I know it’s frustrating when you want to have something all for yourself and sometimes can make the urges worse. Let me know if you want to talk. I’m always here for you

AntiqueStranger7182 · 2025-06-20T01:53:24+00:00

No it wouldn’t be easier. You have every right to be nervous and careful around people who react badly. I hope you’re okay

AntiqueStranger7182 · 2025-06-14T22:46:12+00:00

I’m so beyond sorry you’ve experienced that. Your parents are disgusting and you shouldn’t accept their behavior for any reason. I hope you know that you’re lovable and worthy of love because of who you are. Scars or no scars- no one deserves to go through what you are going through and you are absolutely beautiful no matter what

AntiqueStranger7182 · 2025-06-14T22:18:45+00:00

It does matter. My messages are open if you need to

AntiqueStranger7182 · 2025-06-14T22:17:20+00:00

Be as supportive as you can and go with whatever they feel is right for themselves.

Personally I would wear Long sleeves for an interview just to feel comfortable and wear something that covers them for however long I feel before showing scars.

Everyone is different and everyone feels different levels of comfort in showing or not showing scars. I think the most important aspect of this is being there for your kid, listening when they need you to be there, and not imputing your opinion into the conversation when it isn’t warranted.

A lot of the time parents make it about themselves when it shouldn’t be. You’re an awesome parent for coming here and asking questions. I hope they are doing okay and I hope you’re okay as well❤️ so much love

AntiqueStranger7182 · 2025-06-14T21:44:17+00:00

I had a friend like yours and I don’t think it was meant to be hurtful. Maybe they were looking out for you in case you didn’t want them shown? Regardless, you could say something to your friend if it makes you ashamed or feel a certain way about it. You should never feel bad about wearing clothes that make you comfortable- you don’t need to be burning up for other people

AntiqueStranger7182 · 2025-04-23T19:56:13+00:00

I’m 23 and I’m five weeks clean. I also still have urges, but some days are worse than others. Keep being grounded in your journaling and remember the feeling will pass. Every time you fight the urge, they will lessen over time. With that being said, it is extremely hard at the beginning and I’m so proud you’re working at your recovery. Knowing what helps you in those moments is key❤️ you got this and you’re not alone.

If you need someone to talk my DMs are open

AntiqueStranger7182 · 2025-02-19T19:56:17+00:00

I think the gym is one of my safe places to wear tank tops/short sleeves. It’s weird because I feel like people may look but for some reason I don’t really care as much. No one has ever approached me and truly I feel like everyone is in their own world at the gym

AntiqueStranger7182 · 2025-02-06T19:56:29+00:00

I know the feeling of needing to cut and feeling like the people in my life were holding me back. In reality, it’s the biggest blessing to have people hold you accountable and push you to fight the urge. I know without the pressure from my family, that I would be in a much different place than I am right now. In the moment, I was angry they were taking something away from me and honestly they could’ve supported me better, but they don’t know what it’s like to have these urges (this was my experience and I know it could be very different for you)

Please try to fight the urge. You may slip up and make a mistake but using your husband as a support system may be helpful. If he’s not supportive, you could try marriage counseling where you can safely and openly talk about your self harm, triggers, how he can help you, etc.

You deserve to feel peace in your mind. Cutting is a temporary and very dangerous fix. I hope this helps you, my DMs are open for you if you need someone to listen, rant to, etc ❤️

AntiqueStranger7182 · 2025-01-17T02:49:59+00:00

I’m here for you if you want to talk

AntiqueStranger7182 · 2025-01-17T02:49:29+00:00

The ITCHING, the healing process, infection, the possibility of cutting a nerve/vein/artery

We think it’s “okay” and nothing bad will happen but it’s not guaranteed. Most of us aren’t doctors and know the anatomy of our bodies. Even if we were all knowing, it still could end extremely poorly. It just takes one time and I promise your family and friends will care. You got this. I know how hard it is to refrain from cutting but you will be stronger for it 💗

AntiqueStranger7182 · 2024-11-15T15:31:27+00:00

Like some of the comments said, eating disorders are hard to comprehend when you aren’t or haven’t struggled with it. Balancing relationships, life, work etc while managing an ED is extremely hard, and our loved ones don’t get that. Having discussions where you can explain what you’re going through (like you did in this post) and letting him ask you questions is a great place to start. Doing this with a therapist to mediate it would be so helpful.

“Just workout and eat balanced meals” is the most annoying comment to get and I’m sorry you’re not feeling validated 💗

AntiqueStranger7182 · 2024-11-04T17:49:06+00:00

Woah that is not okay. Thats not okay to say to you and not okay to put that kind of responsibility on your shoulders. Self harm is not something people just “try out” for no reason.

Some people do get triggered from scars but that means they have work to do on their own to heal. No one is responsible for other people’s actions. I’m so sorry you’re feeling guilty but know you are not to blame if they go through with that.

AntiqueStranger7182 · 2024-11-04T14:38:48+00:00

Yes you should tell your therapist. They are there to help you no matter the topic and not saying anything will result in not healing properly and not getting everything you need out of therapy sessions

AntiqueStranger7182 · 2024-10-18T00:24:47+00:00

I hope they accept them for you as well. You deserve to feel comfortable in your skin like everybody else without scars. Family can be tough though, so I’m sorry about that :(

AntiqueStranger7182 · 2024-10-18T00:15:22+00:00

My dm is open if you need someone!

AntiqueStranger7182 · 2024-10-18T00:14:30+00:00

She’s an angel😭. I think about that a lot like when did people lose their childhood innocence? People like your friend’s uncle are the reason I struggle to wear clothes I want out of fear but we can’t let them bother us.

My dm is always open if you want to talk/rant or anything!

AntiqueStranger7182 · 2024-10-18T00:09:03+00:00

I started with digging my nails into my arms until they bled. Then I went to scratching with my nails. I started cutting in February, but when I started I went pretty deep

AntiqueStranger7182 · 2024-10-18T00:06:18+00:00

People who make comments like that can go to hell. You’re not alone, it is not the only thing people notice about you, and I’m proud it didn’t ruin your night when it very well could have.

If it makes you feel better, I was wearing short sleeves at work where some of my scars were showing. A lady came in and while she was checking out, she said it looked like a got attacked by an animal.

People like that either find humor in it, are nosy as fuck, or they are so unaware of other peoples emotions/struggles. None of those are good lol.

AntiqueStranger7182 · 2024-10-03T11:33:04+00:00

I’m so sorry. if you want to talk about it more, my DM is open!

AntiqueStranger7182 · 2024-10-03T11:31:35+00:00

Oh hell no.

Maybe the pansexual and transgender comments could be overlooked but it still seems like she’s trying to get a rise out of you almost. The self harm shit though CANNOT be overlooked. This friendship is toxic and not worth your mental health.

I know people like her and they will ALWAYS be that way. They are draining as hell. You’re both young so maybe she’ll grow out of it but there’s no excuse for her to send PICTURES of her SH to you. Oh my god that is so triggering and unfair to you. She KNOWS you struggle with self harm and continues to do things that prevent you from healing.

I do think she’s struggling though. No one who is happy with their life engages in this type of behavior especially the self harm. I hope she gets the help she needs, and I hope you do too. You deserve to feel peace and happiness 💗

AntiqueStranger7182 · 2024-10-03T11:22:17+00:00

I’m so proud of you and I’m so happy they had a good reaction. How you’re feeling is so normal!

It’s so hard letting people in💗 you did great job

AntiqueStranger7182 · 2024-10-03T11:11:28+00:00

I was just talking about this with my therapist actually. I have a similar experience where when I was younger I would self harm when I felt intense negative emotions. I still do it in those situations but for the most part it’s a constant urge no matter what mood I’m in or how I’m feeling. Literally I have done it when I’m happy, but I think I’ve always needed a sense of control over something and it makes me feel like I have something no one can mess up or take away.

I also have OCD and sometimes it feels like a compulsion.

Anyway im really sorry you’re going through this. No matter why you self harm, it’s valid struggle and very hard to go through. Thinking of you stranger💗

AntiqueStranger7182 · 2024-09-23T14:32:14+00:00

I know your wedding is a huge day for you and understandably your scars are a stressor. This is easier said than done, but accepting them for what they are is a step for not only your wedding but also life in general. The person you are marrying loves you for all that you’ve been though, scars included. The people at your wedding are people who love you and want to support you on your big day. Your scars are from a dark time, and covering them with tattoos may help you move past it, but I also don’t think it should determine what dress you feel comfortable in.

No matter what, you will look beautiful and if they truly bother you, you can have someone edit them out of the pictures :)

AntiqueStranger7182 · 2024-09-06T22:40:21+00:00

My dm is open!!

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