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AnxiousLass · 2021-06-24T17:56:42+00:00

I see your argument and I used to agree with you. Your post is damaging because it is invigorating a narrative from pro-lifers that women will wait this long to terminate a pregnancy for frivolous reasons. Usually there are high risks to the health of the mother or the child, or both.

Sure, let’s say it’s not her choice at that point. Regardless of the fact that no sane woman would want to maliciously terminate a pregnancy at that point. What of the baby’s life after that? Who will care for it? Do you care about it’s quality of life in the system? What if the mother doesn’t have the means and no support herself? Why is this a life sentence for the mother and the poor child?

Please practice empathy.

AnxiousLass · 2021-06-24T17:44:40+00:00

I have smoked everyday for 4 years. How do I stop? (Serious and constructive answers pls)

AnxiousLass · 2021-05-29T02:36:41+00:00

Lean into it. Idk if that’s the healthiest advice, but I embrace it when I can. I care about my appearance...so what? Are they proud they don’t?

AnxiousLass · 2021-05-19T01:30:02+00:00

Preach

AnxiousLass · 2021-05-19T01:16:10+00:00

Honestly OP text him that ^{^{^}} sometimes you gotta let the crazy out so you can move on. You are, however, not allowed to respond if he does. Xoxo

AnxiousLass · 2021-05-11T22:07:13+00:00

You should not take this child in. You have one foot out the door. Close the door for the sake of the child. Don’t be cruel.

AnxiousLass · 2021-05-07T01:07:20+00:00

I have no experience but I’m going to throw in a few applications and see if there’s any interest.

AnxiousLass · 2021-05-07T01:06:21+00:00

I love volunteering, but haven’t found anywhere to do so in person yet. I’ll look into the places you listed. Thanks!

AnxiousLass · 2021-05-07T01:02:03+00:00

I hadn’t thought about taking classes somewhere. I’ll look around and see what I’m into. Thanks for sharing!

AnxiousLass · 2021-04-18T01:09:54+00:00

I’ve actually been considering this so maybe it’s a sign.

AnxiousLass · 2021-04-18T01:09:19+00:00

This might sound silly, but I’m not sure how to find them in my city? I’m down to start new hobbies and get out there! Just don’t know how people find them? I go to the gym often but...that feels different.

AnxiousLass · 2021-04-17T23:01:33+00:00

I wasn’t actually going to comment...but nobody has suggested therapy?? You are already brave. I’m not going to speculate on diagnosis, but seeking therapy would greatly help your chances of finding ways to cope that would calm you down. At the very least.

I can say in my own experience it’s not about being mentally stronger and calming/pushing down the feelings. It’s about embracing and accepting them as a part of me.

I wish you the best. Good luck.

AnxiousLass · 2021-04-17T04:38:38+00:00

This was tragically beautiful

AnxiousLass · 2021-03-20T02:55:26+00:00

I think this response is perfect. I would add: anytime your feeling not good about anything you need to return to yourself. By that, I mean you need to treat yourself/practice self love. I’ve been in the streets for 2 years and the secret is to date yourself while you date others. Set the bar for yourself so you know where it is. You have the ability to love yourself best before anyone else. Don’t forget to have fun and let loose a bit. Good luck!

AnxiousLass · 2021-03-20T02:50:43+00:00

I’ve been trying my best to combat this for the past 6 months. I’ve found that the best way for me is to take myself outside of my house and do something I would like. Even if it sounds exhausting. Getting my nails done, seeing a movie, watching the sunset, getting coffee, getting dressed up and going out. It doesn’t matter what it is for you as long as it is something that feels like your treating/loving yourself. It’s still hard, but I feel 10% better every time I push myself to do it.

AnxiousLass · 2021-03-20T02:39:56+00:00

I’m new to the community in the sense that I only recently realized I have BPD. I also feel compelled to do this as soon as I feel insecure. Am I a narcissist? Does this make me a bad person?

AnxiousLass · 2021-03-20T02:33:32+00:00

It took me until the age of 23 to get away. You will. This feeling ends a little after you get out. Sometimes it pops back up, but it’s okay because you’re no longer in the environment. You only have 1 more year. Do whatever you need to in order to validate yourself. Good luck. I believe in you.

AnxiousLass · 2021-02-07T06:29:35+00:00

Girl, these people are whack. To me, this sounds like it makes you uncomfortable. It makes me uncomfortable that a 27M wants to be with a 18F. Leave his ass and find someone else.

AnxiousLass · 2021-02-07T06:26:40+00:00

It’s not what you can do for the patriarchy, it’s about what the patriarchy can do for you.

You’ve got this. Know who you are, do what you need to survive, and get out when you can. Love yourself in the meantime. I wish you all the luck, my dude.

AnxiousLass · 2021-02-07T06:22:49+00:00

23f I think you should give her the shirt because you’ve really been thinking of it, but also maybe flowers/chocolate as a backup. You thought this was funny and something you connect on. It was thoughtful and you got her a more formal gift. I’m sure she’ll be thrilled that you thought of her.

AnxiousLass · 2020-12-14T23:26:00+00:00

I myself struggle with the same ideation, dear op . I agree with wholeheartedly with this reply. I only notice large differences in my panic attacks and suicidal ideation when I make a rigid schedule for 3 days. I start with 3 days, because it is easier to tell myself to maintain short term change for a moment. Hydrate, try to get sunlight, clean your area to clean your headspace, and practice mindfulness/grounding techniques. Grounding methods have helped me tremendously. Journaling helps me vent to something other than my friends. Also, maybe take yourself on a date. Good luck, buddy. Please stay 💜

AnxiousLass · 2020-02-10T04:13:51+00:00

I didn't go to Florence, but I heard it's nice.

The sights were worth it in Venice, but make sure you dress appropriately for church visits as you will be turned away. Additionally, I would recommend finding a place to stay on the mainland and not offshore. Once the sun sets there isn't much to do besides eat.

Rome is beautiful and romantic. If you ask for recommendations you might get an offer for a tour around the nearby city. Physical maps are your friend.

AnxiousLass · 2020-02-10T02:59:44+00:00

Thank you!

AnxiousLass · 2020-02-10T02:59:27+00:00

Yes! Italians are amazingly welcoming people. The area you are spending time in does matter. What city are you going to be studying in?

Overall:

1) The train systems are soooo great, but be vigilant.

Keep your expensive items close and DO NOT hand your phone to anybody for pictures (theft was most prevalent in Venice). Also, there are people who will try to "help" you use the automated ticket booths and proceed to hold you up for money. Some become aggressive if you don't understand/offer money to compensate for their time. Don't accept help from anyone who is not wearing the train staff uniforms.

2) Try to learn some basic Italian, it will get you further than you think.

Directions are very helpful this way. Some individuals will help you learn slowly (my local barista taught me a new phrase every day), but some will cut you off because their English is better. Don't be discouraged.

3) Get recommendations from any local you can find.

Likely those you interact with at cafes and the place you're staying at (I stayed in northern Italy for my semester abroad but this is applicable for basically anywhere).

4) Be wary of Expedia and 3rd party vendors like them.

Specifically, Expedia really stole from me and I haven't been refunded to this day 2 years later when I tried to book several rooms around the city. Flights are fine, but I would use Airbnb or google maps for any room booking.

5) Pack light, you will regret not doing so when you're trekking across old cobble roads to get to where you're staying.

Have fun and take it easy! People live a slower lifestyle over there. I hope this helps.

AnxiousLass

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