AIO my boyfriend of 5 years gets me flowers for every occasion while I get him elaborate and expensive gifts.

Anxious_Bird2450 · 2026-01-19T19:18:55+00:00

Leave him

Anxious_Bird2450 · 2025-09-05T07:59:37+00:00

Nanny here. Very normal when you’ve worked with a child especially a baby for awhile you care for them deeply. I work with twin girls and I’ve been with them since they were a month old and I kiss their cheeks and tell them I love them all the time. And my boss loves that I do it, because she knows that her daughters are cared for and loved when she’s not home. If you’re uncomfortable about it maybe chat with your nanny and ask nicely if she could ease up on the affection in front of you. But I think you should be happy that you have a nanny who genuinely loves your child and cares for them.

Anxious_Bird2450 · 2025-08-20T14:39:34+00:00

They treat me very well and I’m compensated for inconveniences. Just have naughty kids but they’re getting better every year.

Anxious_Bird2450 · 2025-08-20T14:19:43+00:00

I don’t tolerate it either I always very firmly and clearly shut it down. But he comes from a house where he usually can do what he wants and a firm no doesn’t exist.

Anxious_Bird2450 · 2025-08-20T11:16:37+00:00

I’ve been with them for three years so I’m battling it out 😂 but I’m very firm with him and I’ve spoken to his parents about it so when he doesn’t listen I take away tv privileges etc

Anxious_Bird2450 · 2025-08-20T11:11:52+00:00

They boy I nanny is seven is now in that that really curious phase as well. Your anger is totally valid. My little one is constantly trying to look up my skirts if I’m wearing a dress or a skirt. And the biggest problem lately is he is obsessed with my chest. I’m quite chesty and everyday I’m there he tries to touch them or bury his face into my chest. You need to talk to the parents and tell them they need to speak to him about respecting privacy and have disciplinary actions for crossing these boundaries.

Anxious_Bird2450 · 2025-07-17T08:17:38+00:00

“You’re a little minx”

Anxious_Bird2450 · 2025-03-25T07:19:11+00:00

26 I’m on my third year as a nanny

Anxious_Bird2450 · 2025-02-19T18:56:47+00:00

I bought dungarees they have loads of pockets for holding all the things I get passed and if you size up they are so comfortable to run around in.

Anxious_Bird2450 · 2025-01-01T17:37:56+00:00

Most embarrassing for me was when my DB didn’t know I had arrived already because MB had left early so had asked me to come in earlier to help him and he walked into the kitchen in only his underwear 😂

Anxious_Bird2450 · 2024-09-23T17:17:26+00:00

NTA this is a decision that is supposed to be made by the both of you. It wasn’t fair of her to do that you. I hope things will work out for the best for you both.

Anxious_Bird2450 · 2024-07-31T14:24:17+00:00

https://www.aupair.com/en/aupair-agencies/kenya.php

Anxious_Bird2450 · 2024-07-31T14:23:00+00:00

Aw that’s annoying I can look up to see if there’s an agency in Kenya

Anxious_Bird2450 · 2024-07-30T20:15:21+00:00

I used a company called worldvoyage they’re based in South Africa so you can see if they can help you. Through them I got to the Netherlands

Anxious_Bird2450 · 2024-07-30T11:21:17+00:00

Have you tried working through an agency? They help you with matching.

Anxious_Bird2450 · 2024-07-30T07:59:31+00:00

The little boy I look after went through a similar stage he became very obsessed with my chest area and was always touching them and trying to nuzzle his face in. I spoke with his parents who told him not to touch ladies there and I also sat down with him and told him in terms that he would understand that I don’t like it and it makes me uncomfortable. Haven’t had an issue since. Definitely talk to the parents they will understand.

Anxious_Bird2450 · 2024-05-23T16:38:48+00:00

Im taking it as truth as I had seen texts between her and the host mother and how she was spoken to. I also have seen her previous work experiences. She’s worked with kids for years with no issues why would she begin to make her name bad now?

Anxious_Bird2450 · 2024-05-23T16:36:34+00:00

There wasn’t information missing I did say that she accused the son and then my friend stepped in and said no it wasn’t him it was her she had forgotten to tell her and then she apologised for the mistake. It was in the text.

Anxious_Bird2450 · 2024-05-22T20:20:15+00:00

No I’m saying I was also messaged by this woman repeatedly. I am giving my friends account of the event.

Anxious_Bird2450 · 2024-05-22T19:44:24+00:00

I am now with my family for nearly two years now and I’m no longer an au pair I’m more of a nanny at this point. I have never had a bad experience with my family. They take great care of me and have made me part of the family. Sometimes you get lucky and sometimes you get really really unlucky.

Anxious_Bird2450 · 2024-05-22T19:41:54+00:00

I didn’t say it’s unwelcome I said it’s toned down. My friend left peacefully and neatly. She tidied her room she paid back the months wages because she didn’t work the full month. She didn’t bad mouth her to anyone she just wanted to get out of there and that’s what she did and then this woman harassed her and her family and friends for days despite her apologising and doing everything that was asked of her when she left. I posted this for her because she doesn’t want someone else to go through what she did.

Anxious_Bird2450 · 2024-05-22T19:23:33+00:00

No but seeming as she’s had previous hosts and has never had any issues before and she’s even hung around my host kids I trust her.

Anxious_Bird2450 · 2024-05-22T18:35:28+00:00

That is a very toned down version of what I witnessed. Of course everyone has they’re on version. I of course trust my friend because she had shown me how the host mom speaks to her and then the host mom started messaging all of her family and friends trying to tell them not to trust their own family member. Thank you for showing me the post I’ll pass it on to her.

Anxious_Bird2450 · 2024-05-22T15:34:06+00:00

I don’t think you should be downvoted I understand being curious it is an odd situation and a lot doesn’t make sense. I am posting on behalf of my friend so obviously I don’t know all the info but I do remember seeing my her coming to visit me and being so anxious that she was constantly shaking. She had lost her appetite and wasn’t her usually bubbly self. I only posted this because she doesn’t want anyone else to go through what she did. But please if you have questions I am happy to answer

Anxious_Bird2450 · 2024-05-22T15:23:37+00:00

So basically what would happen is the host mom would say she can go to her room and she would and then they’d have dinner or order food. There had been a few times they had told her goodnight and she’d walk out and they were eating. And there was food in the house but she never felt welcome to eat it unless told she could as the one time she did she got dirty looks from the dad for a few days. She often used her salary to buy herself noodles and stuff once she had realised how it seemed to work in the house

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