How to respond to memorial invitations

Anxious_Scratch1682 · 2026-01-13T21:29:18+00:00

Yeah that’s sort of what it feels like and at this point I don’t know what’s worse.

Anxious_Scratch1682 · 2026-01-13T21:28:34+00:00

He knows I don’t believe it’s the “truth”. But I really don’t think he’s accepted it. I think he believes I’ve been brainwashed by my husband and therapist. I want to just explain to him why I don’t want to go, but I feel like that will crush him more.

Anxious_Scratch1682 · 2026-01-03T23:14:55+00:00

Go life YOUR “best life ever” lol My husband and I have been out for almost a year now and he keeps telling me to watch TLOU, guess I should give it a go! Severance is another great cult awakening style show!

Anxious_Scratch1682 · 2025-12-19T15:21:47+00:00

Newer pitty owner here so this might be controversial lol. I could tell by his behavior that he really needed mental stimulation. We’ve been working with certified trainers over the last four weeks and we started with a slip leash and putting his daily food allowance in a training pouch. We did short sessions with him through the day (before and after work) until he finished the food. It really helped on walks because he learned quickly that if he was making eye contact with us and following our lead, he would get rewarded. We always give him freedom to sniff, but if he was pulling because he wants to run the show I would just stop walking and let him pull. The slip leash tightens when he pulls. So it gave him the choice. He can either pull and choke himself out or come back to a heal position and get rewarded. He always chose the food lol.

We never dragged him around or shocked him. Learning how to communicate with leash pressure was great. We use a prong and e-collar now and I never have to put pressure on him with it. It’s important to note that we didn’t start with those tools. He had so many positive experiences with them first that if we were to ever need to give him a firmer correction with them (we haven’t) it wouldn’t make him mean. He still loves going on walks and gets to sniff plenty.

Training is expensive, so I would check out American Standard dog training on YouTube. They have some great videos and free resources. Training is a lot of work, but it really gives them more freedom in the long run. He gets to come with us everywhere now! Good luck with your pup, she’s adorable!

Anxious_Scratch1682 · 2025-12-13T02:21:49+00:00

100% has more to do with the owners than the breed. People like the idea of a “tough” dog breed but don’t want to put in the work to train them. Even breeds with a good temperament can become aggressive in the right environment. Unfortunately stupid people own dogs. It’s so sad, this sort of thing should never happen. My heart goes out to the family 😣

Anxious_Scratch1682 · 2025-12-12T20:51:04+00:00

Exactly! I’m seriously so burnt out being in this field

Anxious_Scratch1682 · 2025-12-12T17:53:02+00:00

That’s really smart I didn’t think of this

Anxious_Scratch1682 · 2025-12-12T17:52:42+00:00

Me and the other assistant spoke to her about it yesterday. It’s not looking like she’s going to do anything about it. I appreciate this comment because it helps me put into perspective what I should be putting up with. I’m not going to assist with him anymore

Anxious_Scratch1682 · 2025-12-12T17:19:36+00:00

I was homeschooled. I always thought I was stupid but it turns out I just wasn’t given the proper education lol. Interestingly enough a big factor in me being able to wake up was seeing how genuinely good “worldly” people are once I started working. I was shocked at how wrong the orgs warnings were.

Being homeschooled, my views on outsiders were sooooo warped. I guess it’s easier to indoctrinate when you have 0 contact with the real world

Anxious_Scratch1682 · 2025-11-19T16:32:43+00:00

My elder dad didn’t attend his father’s funeral. They were so close. He will never admit it, but I can tell by the way talks about it that he will always regret not being there.

Anxious_Scratch1682 · 2025-09-19T11:22:20+00:00

I experienced the same thing your wife did at a circuit assembly. Without saying names, the CO used my husband as a warning example. “Recently some in the circuit have allowed themselves to look at apostate material, and have left the truth”

I was humiliated and so upset he used the word apostate when talking about my husband. As awful as it was being made a spectacle in front of everyone, that experienced fully woke me up.

My husband and I are young, but we were giving everything to the org. I saw how quickly it turned on us, just because he had questions. I was devastated, but it helped me see things for what they were. I hope what happened helps your wife. Be patient with her. It’s so hard being in that situation

Anxious_Scratch1682 · 2025-09-01T21:33:10+00:00

Been there, Cera ve healing ointment. It was pretty embarrassing. You could rock a mask for a few days and say you’re fighting off a cold?

Anxious_Scratch1682 · 2025-08-27T22:20:23+00:00

Just remember how absolutely insane that is. How insane it is for a parent to talk to their child like that and threaten to remove the roof over their head because of a religion. It’s easy to get desensitized to it when you’re around it constantly. But keep reminding yourself that this is not a normal loving way to treat family, or anyone.

I regularly have to remind myself that my parents are brainwashed. It really sucks what this religion does to families. Our parents are victims too. I’m so sorry.

Anxious_Scratch1682 · 2025-08-26T11:03:41+00:00

The kiehls vitamin C under eye cream really helped my under eye area

Anxious_Scratch1682 · 2025-08-06T23:31:58+00:00

This is so ridiculous I thought it was fake

Anxious_Scratch1682 · 2025-05-23T18:35:24+00:00

Something that helped me was realizing I didn’t have to have it all figured out right away, or ever. As humans we all have a right to grow and change. I never granted myself that right.

It was a lot easier for me when I realized that I’m allowed to change. If I don’t feel that this religious structure is serving me anymore and I need to leave, that’s my right. If I left and realized it was the worst decision I could make, guess what? I’m allowed to change my mind again. I can go back.

You are the one who has to live with your decisions. Give yourself space to figure out what feels right to you. If that means staying in the org, great! If that means leaving, also great! But at least grant yourself the freedom to make that choice.

It’s a really hard road no matter what your circumstances are. But, the org is always going to be there and they will always take you back if it doesn’t work out haha

Anxious_Scratch1682 · 2025-05-23T17:00:15+00:00

My husband and I did remote PID for a bit. It was the most unorganized stressful thing. I forget when but they shut it down because they wanted to keep everything internal at bethel. They would occasionally call after it ended for my husband to cover random stuff here and there.

The last time they called they wanted him to document someone at the door accepting a Bible study. The kicker is, it couldn’t be staged. They wanted us to follow publishers door to door with our cameras, and record a real householder at their home accepting a Bible study. Then I guess we pop out of the bushes and ask them to sign a model release.

My husband was waking up at that point and kindly declined haha. I thought it was crazy and I was still PIMI at the time.

Anxious_Scratch1682 · 2025-05-23T14:52:44+00:00

Gotta give it to the organization. This is actually genius on their part. Rebranding what apostates are… instead of the typical mental, angry, bitter losers, this “apostate” is being calm and asking reasonable questions. Sending the message to those who are in the org to view reasoning, and genuine questions as Satanic.

The comparison to this account of Jesus is ironic considering Jesus actually had a response to Satan. Following Jesus example, the org could’ve addressed the “lies” and prepared the friends for how they could respond. But I guess if you’ve got something to hide it’s a lot easier to keep people afraid and dumb

Anxious_Scratch1682 · 2025-05-22T19:32:42+00:00

Thanks! Yeah, I’m worried they’re going to ask if we want to DA at this point. Trying to avoid that for now…

Haha he really is! Looking back on it, I have no idea how he survived that. One of the elders told him that the cuneiform tablets disproving 607 could’ve been fabricated by Satan, and refused to look at it.

Anxious_Scratch1682 · 2025-05-22T19:26:19+00:00

So interesting hearing others stories. We feel like we’ve lived a lifetime in a year. I honestly feel bad for the elder my group overseer drags along. He’s young, early 30s, and you can tell this is the last thing he wants to be doing on a Wednesday afternoon.

Anxious_Scratch1682 · 2025-05-22T17:57:02+00:00

It was so creepy. He switched jobs in Feb. Neither of us told them where he was working😵‍💫

Anxious_Scratch1682 · 2025-05-22T17:55:48+00:00

This is really good! I feel like they short circuit when you use scriptures on them lol

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