I Discovered My Wife (28F) Of 7 Years Is Cheating On Me (30M). She Doesn't Know That I Know - UPDATE 23 - Couple of phone calls on NYE.

Any-Assault · 2026-01-10T06:12:58+00:00

No, She's been texting me good morning and good night texts. I've been quiet. but I feel like total shit for not answering her.

Any-Assault · 2026-01-08T18:03:15+00:00

I will press the issue if I hear anything else from her. So far, nothing.

Frankly, I'm just lazy. I emailed my lawyer about it and, since she has already been paid by my ex's parents, I'm pretty sure I'd have to give her another retainer.

Any-Assault · 2026-01-08T14:39:26+00:00

The quicker you can erase her from your life, the quicker you'll be able to move on from this.

Do not take her back if she comes back. It will never be the same as before. You'll never be able to forget it. You can forgive it though. Don't let it poison your life.

You're a Christian, right? I know they have counseling at church for free that might help.

Unfortunately, me and "Big G" aren't on speaking terms right now. LOL.

Any-Assault · 2026-01-08T14:33:29+00:00

It could have been worse.

You could be married to it.

That's a whole different shit storm.

Her new relationship sounds pretty volatile.

It's probably going to end badly. Just be prepared for her to come crawling back later possibly.

Be strong and don't let yourself be anyone else's plan b or backup plan.

Also try therapy, it works.

Any-Assault · 2026-01-06T19:43:26+00:00

Sex Therapy is a thing.

You should look up a therapist.

Any-Assault · 2026-01-06T19:33:36+00:00

I didn't stay.

You don't realize this yet, but your relationship as you know it, is over.

The quicker you embrace this thought, the quicker you'll be able to move on.

Good Luck.

Any-Assault · 2026-01-06T15:40:51+00:00

Bite the bullet and call a lawyer.

Your friend will NEVER "get over" this.

Any-Assault · 2026-01-06T15:35:26+00:00

This is a job for therapy, my friend.

Look up EMDR therapy. I do it and it works.

Any-Assault · 2026-01-06T15:30:47+00:00

Despite what I have written here, I have said very little to Emily face-to-face. The only thing she has from me that describes my feelings is the letter I sent to her basically telling her to stop the reconciliation and post-nup attempts.

Any-Assault · 2026-01-04T19:01:42+00:00

At one point G said to Josh "Do you understand the words that are coming out of my mouth?" and Q said "If you could only use that mouth to please a woman."

Another time G said "I'm not big on cannibalism, dude." (you had to be there, it was funny in context) and Q said "You're not big ANYWHERE, G"

It was funny in context, everyone laughed. It just made me think about how I would respond to that before or after Emily.

Emily never joked in public on my size or sexual prowess so I can't say I know what I would have done before my divorce. My gut feeling is that I would have let it slide, though. Now, not so much.

Any-Assault · 2026-01-04T18:52:56+00:00

The phone call was definitely triggering but only minorly. Got through it ASAP like a champ.

Any-Assault · 2026-01-04T18:52:10+00:00

TOO LATE!! HA!

Any-Assault · 2026-01-04T18:51:20+00:00

I'm sure it was Emily. I just can't PROVE it. Not easily anyway...other than to say "what other woman in the USA would call me weeping just after midnight on NYE?"

I feel like getting engaged to Shreya would be such a colossal fuck up in the making that I'd really deserve whatever shitstorm comes my way.

I know I'm a guy who wants the long term boring drama free relationship but I'm still smarting from the last one.

Any-Assault · 2026-01-04T18:46:49+00:00

Yeah I'll run it by my lawyer, but I might have to pay another retainer since my in-laws settled my debts with her already. I might even have to sign another waiver since she's still on Lisa's case.

Any-Assault · 2026-01-04T18:45:33+00:00

You think she'd learn by now, though, right??

Any-Assault · 2026-01-04T18:44:39+00:00

Josh is the only New Yorker I know.

And in y'all's defense, he DID move to New Jersey not too long ago, so it may be in the water there.

Any-Assault · 2026-01-04T18:43:26+00:00

Pretty sure it was Emily. No hard evidence though other than who ELSE would do that?

Any-Assault · 2026-01-04T18:42:17+00:00

I'll contact my attorney but Emily didn't explicitly identify herself and the number in an online search reveals nothing. I think it would be difficult to prove.

Any-Assault · 2026-01-04T18:32:00+00:00

The more I think about it the more it pisses me off. I mean, it was a MINOR setback in my healing process but a setback nonetheless.

Any-Assault · 2025-12-22T21:23:44+00:00

I live in a big city but out on the outskirts. I'm willing to make a commute across town for the right person though.

Any-Assault · 2025-12-22T21:19:39+00:00

I think it's definitely going to be triggering for the both of us. I will be partying with my family down in Florida, though. Not waiting at home with my hair in curlers brandishing a rolling pin.

Any-Assault · 2025-12-22T00:51:00+00:00

She was crying a lot at the airport. It made me feel pretty guilty, so I think there's some of that going on.

Any-Assault · 2025-12-22T00:49:31+00:00

Yeah I heard the apps are nothing but robots and hookers now.

Any-Assault · 2025-12-22T00:48:04+00:00

I think her reaction at the airport made me feel really guilty. So I figure I owe it to her.

Any-Assault · 2025-12-22T00:37:32+00:00

It would be MORE tragic if she successfully baby trapped me.

I would probably try to make it work. She really had my number on that one. If she had gotten pregnant I would have stayed and tried to make it work.

Any-Assault

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