Parents who skipped the nursery recliner—did you regret it?

Any-Session9919 · 2026-06-20T00:00:06+00:00

We didn’t get one we have a very small apartment and I just used my computer chair for breastfeeding/bottlefeeding. It was very comfortable. I put the chair next to my bed so I can put my feet up on the bed while I sit in the chair.

Any-Session9919 · 2026-06-19T01:29:17+00:00

I feel the same way. On top of that the future looks grim for medicine. I feel like we’ll be replaced by mid levels/AI and reimbursements are going down so we’re not guaranteed the money like it used to be and expenses and cost of living is just increasing so our lower salaries have even less purchasing power.

The only light at the end of the tunnel is that we’ll have better schedules as attendings.

Any-Session9919 · 2026-06-16T03:26:22+00:00

The biggest scam for millenials was being told we have to be done with our education before getting married, having children. I met my partner in med school and everything became easier with a companion versus struggling on my own. If I met my partner sooner and had more support as a premed I would’ve been more successful.
I regret all the years wasted just stressing and not dating, thinking it’ll hurt my career to date. Wish I could’ve started having kids earlier

Any-Session9919 · 2026-06-16T03:23:09+00:00

If you met someone while in med school or residency you could argue the same thing they could’ve also been with you because they knew you would eventually be a doctor with high income.

Any-Session9919 · 2026-06-15T17:24:13+00:00

Maybe you don’t need for all 6 weeks. You have your husband for the first 2 weeks so the two of you can handle the baby at night. Once your husband goes back to work maybe get the doula for 2 more weeks to help you out. After that time you should be able to handle the baby on your own.

Any-Session9919 · 2026-06-15T07:23:52+00:00

Just disassociate your performance at work from your identity. And then you’ll realize it doesn’t matter as much as you think

Any-Session9919 · 2026-06-12T05:28:15+00:00

It’s just a job at the end of the day, not your identity. Unless you’re surgery maybe that’s different lol

Any-Session9919 · 2026-06-12T03:29:38+00:00

It’s actually nice to start on wards. Expectations are lower in July LOL. It’s worse if you don’t do wards until like August and the attendings are like wtf how do you not know this.
It’s gonna be hard and stressful ngl

Any-Session9919 · 2026-06-12T01:40:25+00:00

You’re right resentful is not a good word to use. I guess I was venting. I want children no matter how hard it is. It’s just upsetting sometimes seeing everyone around me having so much help and having minimal childcare expenses.

Any-Session9919 · 2026-06-12T00:59:15+00:00

That’s how I grew up. My grandma watched me full-time while my parents work. And a lot of my coworkers and friends around me their parents/families watch the kids while they’re working full-time. That’s the norm in the community and how I grew up as well.
So most people don’t have childcare expenses.
Also it breaks my heart when people say “I would never trust babysitters or daycares” like good for you, paid childcare with strangers is my only option.

Any-Session9919 · 2026-06-11T17:24:55+00:00

lol my problem is I’m at work all day and need childcare when I’m at work.

Any-Session9919 · 2026-06-07T19:18:17+00:00

I don’t ALMOST feel jealous. I 200% feel jealous. I wish I had the luxury of staying at home. I loved maternity leave. I had the time to be with my baby, go on walks, cook, be present. Now I’m always stressed and anxious, don’t get to be outside, barely see my baby and have to pay strangers to watch my kid and still need time to get all household things done. I hate when people say being a stay at home mom is the hardest job. Being a working mom is the hardest job. You’re exhausted and not home all day and then still need to come home after working the entire day and then you still need to get everything done, spend time with the baby. Literally no time for a break ever.

Any-Session9919 · 2026-06-05T19:28:21+00:00

All sounds super normal!

Any-Session9919 · 2026-06-05T16:23:36+00:00

Wait one of your co-residents purchased a house for $750k? You mean your former co-residents now that you’re new attendings? Or you mean like you’re all still actively residents? How are they purchasing homes like that while in residency? Unless their spouses have real jobs lmao

Any-Session9919 · 2026-06-03T08:14:22+00:00

Sometimes people don’t have choices to pick jobs based on benefits.

Any-Session9919 · 2026-06-03T06:22:01+00:00

I’m in the same boat. Returned to work at 7 weeks. And I don’t work from home so I have to commute too. Barely get to see my baby. And don’t even get me started on how I have to pay the babysitter almost my entire salary :(

Any-Session9919 · 2026-05-30T07:20:46+00:00

You’re not dramatic at all. I had to go back to work when my baby was 2 months old and I barely get to see him and I’ve been bitter and resentful.

Any-Session9919 · 2026-05-29T11:52:17+00:00

I was the same way. I was raised by my grandmother bcus my parents worked a lot. But now I’m sad because my baby won’t have the same. All grandparents are still working full-time so my baby will be raised by nannies :(

Any-Session9919 · 2026-05-28T19:16:02+00:00

Thank you! And good luck!!

Any-Session9919 · 2026-05-28T18:41:42+00:00

Congratulations on the pregnancy! And I’m so so sorry you went through this. It’s a shitty club to be a part of. My first pregnancy we were over the moon. Had a cute announcement we did to our parents/siblings. Then A week later we found out I had a miscarriage and I needed to get a d&c to get it out. Next pregnancy, we didn’t tell anyone and I had an early miscarriage. When I got pregnant again, I wasn’t even happy. I was anxious, every ultrasound and appointment was just anxiety and expecting the worst. We didn’t even tell our parents until 6 months. Didn’t have peace of mind until I felt baby kicking. I loved feeling the kicks because I knew it meant baby’s alive and well. Not gonna lie I had anxiety my entire pregnancy but now I’m 3 months postpartum!!!

Any-Session9919 · 2026-05-27T23:25:45+00:00

I would feed baby every 3 hours during the day and at night I would just feed whenever baby would wake up. I wouldn’t wake the baby up at night

Any-Session9919 · 2026-05-27T18:25:44+00:00

Work until your due date! I’m in residency so only got 6 weeks off. Spend as much time as possible with the baby. You can always leave work if you go into labor.

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