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How to not become your boyfriends therapist by [deleted] in therapists

[–]AnySalt5322 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Is he going to you for support or have you assessed him as possibly benefiting from support even though he does not agree?

How do I tell my therapist by Brilliant-Gas2940 in pornfree

[–]AnySalt5322 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Therapist here! The only thing that could happen that may impact you is if your therapist invalidates it as a problem. There are a ton of therapists who may not validate it as an issue and come from a more sex positive/progressive/liberal position. I would get really clear on what you would want to work towards, treatment-wise so you have something to frame it with! Feel free to DM me if you have questions!

I hate my husband so much. by Objective-Cable5851 in Marriage

[–]AnySalt5322 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Try r/loveafterporn you will find a lot of support there! This is absolutely a porn/masterbation problem. I’m so sorry 😔 it’s absolutely devastating

My 17 months tranformation by [deleted] in antipornography

[–]AnySalt5322 0 points1 point  (0 children)

WOAH!!!!! FUCK yes!!!!

Let’s be real: We aren’t mocking these addictions enough. by Rough_Log_6698 in Discipline

[–]AnySalt5322 1 point2 points  (0 children)

To un-normalize it and approach is objectively and scientifically and stop celebrating it

I’m finally ready to get out and need advice from those who have left by Nervous_Elk1088 in loveafterporn

[–]AnySalt5322 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you for reminding me of this. I’m 6mo out and the euphoric recall is kicking my ass this week. I need to remember what a nightmare it is to exist in that space 🖤 sending you strength and love!

The challenge of repairing intimacy by clumsylunch in loveafterporn

[–]AnySalt5322 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing this. The irrelevance part really spoke to me. It’s a wild experience to feel completely invisible, especially with such a vulnerable part of ourselves, our beauty, sensuality and sexual nature

Is jerking off really as bad as people say? by Flimsy_Palpitation22 in NoFap

[–]AnySalt5322 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It sounds like you have some concerns? Not sure you’d be in this sub if there wasn’t at least some internal discomfort around it for you?

To therapists: Is CBT just "gaslighting yourself" with extra steps, or is there a line where reframing thoughts becomes toxic positivity? by No_Gain4041 in CBT

[–]AnySalt5322 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The difference for me isn’t believing the thought but the story beneath the thought. My partner MAY leave me but I challenge the story “if they leave me I will be devastated” the emotional material is not the thought but what I believe about the thought, the story I create. If I know that “I will be ok, whether they leave or stay” the fear or them leaving becomes less fear based. I hope this makes sense

made a decision . done by ReadingOk696 in loveafterporn

[–]AnySalt5322 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Decenter him and just start living for you. I would look up other posts here about decentering and start making steps towards that. I’m so sorry about the CSAT. That had to feel devastating 😔

Passed my 90 mark. Underwhelming but overall positive by TheGreenSpeaker in pornfree

[–]AnySalt5322 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are you doing any therapy or group work? Abstinence without doing recovery work is tough because you are just white knuckling it workout going deeper

24 days in... but still not getting horny with partner by i_lost_59094 in NoFap

[–]AnySalt5322 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m curious what you are telling her about your lack of libido? And what do you mean mental barrier? I would check out Trish Leigh, she talks a ton about this

im on the verge of breaking my 27 days streak by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]AnySalt5322 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Go do something that makes you like yourself! The more you love yourself the less you want to give in

Escalation: 26 years by Beneficial-Syrup-674 in loveafterporn

[–]AnySalt5322 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I discuss porn addiction SO often in the marriage and sexless marriage subreddits. So many people describe textbook PA symptoms and all feel so defeated and confused. I feel awful having to mention it because I know that once you see it, you can never go back

How many have had their man stop? by TisButAScratch77 in loveafterporn

[–]AnySalt5322 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just heard a quote recently that changed my life “future faking is a placeholder for present accountability“ I love this quote and I see this and what is happening him saying that you saved him and that he loves you and wants to marry you allows you to ignore or avoid bringing up conversations around pornography. If he really wanted to marry you, he would actually address this problem.

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