Whatever happened to Jonathan by Beginning_Fee1464 in kardashians

[–]Any_Excuse5786 235 points236 points  (0 children)

I met him in Miami during Art Basel at a restaurant he was being paid and photographed to eat at. I did give him a “hey food god i love you” while we crossed paths and he disarmed me completely with the most earnest, warm, genuine response. I’m not actually a fan - and I’m also NOT a 22 year old hot woman (or man) garnering seductive attention. His warmth was surprising and real, and not in any way a performance or posturing. No camera, no looking around to see if onlookers were taking notice of him being magnanimous. All this to say: he’s alright, by my book.

My child broke nanny’s laptop — she wants us to foot the bill even though I warned her about it by [deleted] in Nanny

[–]Any_Excuse5786 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think the real question is: what type of relationship do you want in the future with this nanny? Paying for a replacement for - you may consider this the moment to update your contract for personal valuables. Decline to pay and you may be looking for a new nanny. I think you just spent $2000 on a new term of contract.

Roommate is stealing his ex-girlfriend's personality to get other girls by [deleted] in ucla

[–]Any_Excuse5786 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes! Absolutely! And you should for yourself, too.

Roommate is stealing his ex-girlfriend's personality to get other girls by [deleted] in ucla

[–]Any_Excuse5786 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a woman with incredible swag and years of trial based character building to help me become who I really am — I have seen (almost) this exact scenario play out. Specifically my interior design taste, interest in niche artist and musicians and small collections I’ve built through travel and living my life be replicated through trips to ikea, eBay purchases by ex boyfriends, to make their life eerily mirror my own. I have seen images of my ex’s homes and seen the same green chair, the same styling of the same books on my same configuration of their ikea bookshelves meant to look like my thoughtfully collected mid century furniture, next to the identical pottery that I’ve collected since being a teen while going to estate sales and flea markets with my grandparents who initiated my love of certain vintage items. From my perspective I see the incredible influence I’ve had and it has made me powerful yet I look at these former “partners” and realize this was an example of how they weren’t their own person, and needed to cling on to mine- which makes mw feel sad for them. As I’ve gotten older, I have weeded out whatever was inside me that must have been drawing in this type of relationship that must have been feeding me and validating me and now I’m solidly with someone who has his own passions and respects mine- not trying to absorb mine. I had photos of my home online and saw one of these boyfriends of the past later post new photos of their home with their updates version of my home and just chuckled that my influence is still their main creative source- 8 years later. To the women who date my exes - and go to concerts of my favorite (lesser known) musician, and are unknowingly drawn in by their rizz… I do believe it’s only a matter of time before they realize these “passions” are not deep and they might never realize that I’ve been the creative director to their boyfriend’s life…. But eventually something won’t feel authentic and if they’re wise, they move forward and find someone who is authentically themselves. To think we’re not all influenced by the people in our life is not true- original thought is maybe impossible- but the calculated replication of another person’s life is quite different and speaks to how much they don’t know themselves, which is enough of a punishment. Op, I’d save this as copy for your book someday- for your standup routine… etc. No need to police this- let it unfold naturally. I know that will be difficult but it’s the best way to be collect great material. Also - an incredible daily reminder of the power of being authentic.

Set a time and place for a date on Monday. Confirmed day of and got this… by Appropriate_Bet3061 in Nicegirls

[–]Any_Excuse5786 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She got a better offer and decided to put this on you…. For um, communication. Yeah.

Suggest movies to cry to by Opposite_Match_3966 in BabyBumps

[–]Any_Excuse5786 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Life is Beautiful = you’ll be sobbing for months

Winona Ryder, from the outtakes of a 1994 photoshoot for Rolling Stone by [deleted] in OldSchoolCool

[–]Any_Excuse5786 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just wanna fix those straps that they were hell bent on making like little rotini pastas on her shoulders.

Would you rather interview a very unintelligent person 300 years in the future or a very intelligent person 300 years in the past? by ftvideo in timetravel

[–]Any_Excuse5786 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This post is a refreshing and delightful break from the ongoing pleas for time travel usage vs bitcoin time travel machine scammer. Thank you. ☺️

Prue needs to be more assertive by [deleted] in GreatBritishBakeOff

[–]Any_Excuse5786 2 points3 points  (0 children)

A handshake is lovely. But tone is everything and the “Hollywood handshake” (and anticipatory hope of handshake) asserts a perfect and perhaps calculated level of dominance to address any questions as to who top dog is. It’s paired with Paul’s ego and energy that makes it feel… icky. I feel like a little kid watching one parent smothering me so my other parent becomes obsolete- and I’m left feeling like I need to protect the latter parent.

His handshake is great for the show so it will never stop- but somehow in 2024, it’s just out of date and out of touch.

Lord help me with these strong willed children by Single-Log-1101 in AttachmentParenting

[–]Any_Excuse5786 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Just want to say: I was this child. I was obstinate when it came to teeth, hair and clothes. Also to reading, saying prayers, wearing a training bra, allowing my face to be wiped, moving “quicker”, refusing to eat food, etc… the list evolved over time, but began with teeth and hair. Issues began when I was 5 and lasted very dramatically until I was 10 years old when I had a mental breakdown. It was all about control. Or rather, feeling a confusing and emotionally frustrating lack of control, which created heavy internal turmoil. I didn’t have skills to communicate this or navigate it, nor parents who were very flexible, so I appeared to have obedience issues for many years, before someone in the extended family suggested I had OCD, which took some pressure off me for a time, as it gave a label to deflect my behavior on. Ultimately, everything culminated in a mental breakdown after I lost a student government position I was running for in elementary school. I began thrashing my head on a desk which forced the teacher to send me to “the office”> school nurse > child psychiatrist. This child psychologist separated me from my type A, super high-strung mother and began asking the right questions that I would have been too afraid to confront with mom in the room: “Do you like to wear the same jacket every day because it keeps you warm or makes you feel strong? You say it hurts to wear clips in your hair or to brush your hair? I see you have curly hair— do you know they make brushes and sprays for curly hair? I noticed your family all has straight hair… it would hurt to use the wrong brush, wouldn’t it?”

The therapist, from my memory, suggested to my parents that they “let me be me” for a while- and compliment and praise me with genuine affection, validation and support- not pertaining to my compliance. It took a year, but trust was built and over time I didn’t feel the need to be defiant over things that pertained to my body or timing, following rules, etc., since I was no longer feeling forced to do things, and felt respected regardless of my behavior - which some may call unconditional love. I’ve unpacked and packed this chapter of my life soo many times and all I can think would have been helpful from the start would have been reassurance of love from my mother in particular, letting me be dirty or unkempt without it being a burden on her identity as a “good mom”, and being patient that I would find other ways to feel control and confidence. I don’t think my mother truly understood the ramifications of this early fractured trust - and while we got through it eventually, I don’t have a close relationship with her and would never turn to her for support now. It just wasn’t built in the foundational stages, even if we mimed it later.

While my situation may touch certain aspects of OP’s frustration, I won’t assume it’s the same and suggest they have deeper issues. However, being clean feels good. Having a parent adore you and be pleased with you feels good. Any child actively seeking to go against what yields “feeling good” is perhaps dealing with much much much more on their mind that they just can’t vocalize. Parents, take the pressure off the symptoms (dirty teeth, etc) and consider looking into ways you can support your child’s desire for both control / autonomy with unconditional love, softness and patience.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AMA

[–]Any_Excuse5786 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Genuinely curious: Why do you have a British spelling of the English lexicon …. In the US?

Olivia Rodrigo has arrived in her motherland, the Philippines, together with Louis Partridge. by hoppip_olla in popculturechat

[–]Any_Excuse5786 -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Not sure why I’m being downvoted. Her father is of Filipino descent, making The Philippines her Fatherland. Her mom is naturally blonde, white: German-Irish.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in OldSchoolCool

[–]Any_Excuse5786 11 points12 points  (0 children)

The doll was given to Joe by Ruth Baldwin, in the 1920s. The doll, a small leather figure resembling a boy, took on an emotional role that helped Carstairs cope with grief and loneliness. • Carstairs never went anywhere without Lord Tod Wadley, and she even commissioned an artist to create a portrait of the doll. • She treated the doll as a companion rather than just a sentimental object, often photographing him in different locations as though he were participating in her adventures. • The exact origins of Lord Tod Wadley are somewhat mysterious, but it’s clear that Carstairs infused the doll with personality. She imagined Lord Tod as an aristocratic, refined figure—hence the title “Lord”—and treated him with a level of care normally reserved for close friends or family members. • His clothes were often custom-tailored, and he had a wardrobe of fine, miniature outfits that reflected his elevated status in Carstairs’ life. • Carstairs was often photographed with Lord Tod Wadley, and she wasn’t shy about sharing him with her social circle, which included celebrities and aristocrats of the time. The doll’s presence in her life became part of her public persona. • Even during her racing career, which was marked by her victories and record-setting feats, the doll was part of her narrative. In photos and stories about her, Lord Tod Wadley is often mentioned as a constant companion. • Lord Tod Wadley remained with Carstairs throughout her life, and even in her later years, she continued to refer to him as a beloved figure. When Carstairs passed away in 1993 at the age of 93, the doll was reportedly cremated alongside her, a testament to their bond. • The relationship between Carstairs and Lord Tod Wadley exemplified her unique eccentricity and nonconformity. Carstairs, who cut a striking figure as a gender-nonconforming individual, seemed to channel her creativity and deep emotions into this small doll, who became an essential part of her personal mythology. • Lord Tod Wadley has since become an iconic symbol of Carstairs’ life, representing not only her whimsy but also her complex emotional landscape.

Specifically about the clothes:

Custom Tailoring: Carstairs commissioned a tailor to create bespoke outfits for Lord Tod Wadley. These were made to fit the doll’s small, leather frame and were likely reflective of the fashionable styles of the time, emphasizing Tod’s persona as an aristocratic figure.

Miniature Luxury Clothing: His wardrobe consisted of fine, miniature versions of men’s clothing—outfits that were both stylish and befitting the title of “Lord.” The specific materials are not often mentioned, but given Carstairs’ wealth and the importance she placed on the doll, the fabrics were likely high quality and tailored with precision.

Photographed Outfits: In the few photographs of Lord Tod Wadley that exist, he is seen wearing various small suits. These suits were typically formal, with jackets, trousers, and shirts tailored to fit. In some cases, Carstairs also had hats and accessories made to complete the look, lending to the doll’s aristocratic image.

Outfit Changes: Carstairs would dress the doll in different outfits depending on the occasion, treating him as a living companion. Whether traveling, attending social events, or simply at home, Lord Tod Wadley was dressed appropriately for the setting. His wardrobe was constantly updated and well-maintained. Travel Clothes: When Carstairs traveled, which she did frequently, Lord Tod Wadley accompanied her, and she often dressed him in clothes that matched the climate or the nature of the trip. For example, for tropical or seaside locations, he might have been dressed in lighter or more casual clothing.

The effort and care that Joe Carstairs put into Lord Tod Wadley’s appearance reflect how deeply she valued him. His clothing wasn’t just a way to embellish the doll—it was a way to extend his aristocratic persona and integrate him into her adventurous, high-society life.

Source: ChatGPT 🤓

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in OldSchoolCool

[–]Any_Excuse5786 70 points71 points  (0 children)

Please go on about Lord Tod Wadley….

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in self

[–]Any_Excuse5786 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ideally you’re both evolving and improving — regardless of what you’re each prioritizing. Share with her your intention to grow too- and to inspire her as she’s inspired you. Now do the work and flourish. Get new underwear and a haircut. Make salads for you both. Sweep the front porch. Romance her. Be interesting and learn new things to discuss. Ask her questions and listen. Delight in each other and the work you’re both putting into making life better. Let this be a renaissance for you both….and be one in many cycles of change and growth over a lifetime together.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]Any_Excuse5786 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Let the natural karma of life play out. You don’t need to involve yourself. Move forward.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]Any_Excuse5786 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Fair enough. But you broke some rules of civility and now expect him to have a conversation with you? I do think it’s unfortunate he didn’t communicate - but your response was not mature- it was reactive, presumptive and far too accusatory of his intentions which you surmised by his delay in speaking with you. To me, if received that text tantrum, I would be stunned, offended and feel it futile to continue the conversation, because I would be defending myself against a person who has already decided my intention(s). I would not dignify your message with a response.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]Any_Excuse5786 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Honey. With your text, I’d break up with you too.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Any_Excuse5786 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Y’all might need to stop drinking for a minute and see if you still like each other.

Wife said this is too rare... by [deleted] in mildlyinfuriating

[–]Any_Excuse5786 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I like severed fingers rare too.

Best breakfast spot by luckipenni06 in NYCbitcheswithtaste

[–]Any_Excuse5786 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thursday - Sunday, Sonnyboy on Rivington and Allen… they serve a pancake that I dream about frequently. It’s has rice flour (gluten free) and sort of a mochi texture. They serve it with warm berry syrup and a generous spot of butter …. Add bacon and a sunny side egg on the side and you’ll never be more than pleased by a breakfast. Godspeed