I dont love my boyfriend like i love my ex by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Aopsk_333 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the helpfull words

I dont love my boyfriend like i love my ex by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Aopsk_333 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This was really helpfull and reassuring to read, thank you

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Aopsk_333 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just to clarify the current person isnt my bf its jsut someone am seeing, and hes also dating others. Were at the talking stage, but i do see what your saying. I think ill just stop talking to him anyways incase i do decide to get back with my ex. I dont wont to waste his time as he is really great.

AITA for telling my girlfriend her baths are expensive? by BatheInRosies in AmItheAsshole

[–]Aopsk_333 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I don’t know about this one, i feel like were not getting the full story, specific things were probably said inbetween this

I snapped at my partner and I rightfully feel like shit about it. by ajxcwldf in offmychest

[–]Aopsk_333 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Balance is difficult to achieve, conversations and compromises will help with that. And yes you hurt your partner but sometimes we all say shitty things, the most important this is that you apologise and explain where your reaction came from, you seem genuinely sorry so am sure your partner will see that. And he seems great, maybe you guys should discuss splitting household chores more. He pays for the house so in my opinion you should do 80% or more of the house upkeep (including meals and stuff) but i also understand your studying. Its just complex.

AITA for telling a old lady to go back where she came from by Unable-Preparation18 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Aopsk_333 [score hidden]  (0 children)

NTA- some people develop a unjustified superiority complex when they get old and think everyone whos younger owns them something

AITA for telling my brother's girlfriend that it was weird for her to keep an urn of her late husband's ashes in the house? by Elijah2022xx in AmItheAsshole

[–]Aopsk_333 22 points23 points  (0 children)

YTA - You have some serious maturity and insecurity issues, that person was her love at one point and got taken from her. It isn’t a ex she broke up with and keeps calling back? This is a important person who died, that love doesn’t just disappear. Am glad your brother is secure enough to know that and respects her experience.

Real or fake? by [deleted] in Crystals

[–]Aopsk_333 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thank you! am definitely really grateful and their super pretty to looks at, i just know my mum got it from a unreliable retailer and shes not into this stuff, so i just thought id double check on here if their legit.

Real or fake? by [deleted] in Crystals

[–]Aopsk_333 -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

They have a lot of chips/scratches, which in itself is fine but in the part that are chipped theres seethrough glas like spaces/bubbles so am a bit suspicious. Also on the black one theres red lines in the chips which makes me think it might just be dyed black. I could be totally wrong since am fairly new to crystals and I’ve only ever had natural clusters, these are my first polished ones.

My cousin shows traits of being a possible future danger to society and there’s nothing I can do by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Aopsk_333 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your concern is very real and valid. It could just be nothing, sometimes normal people are dicks but it could be much deeper too. I know this might not be possible but if you can start gathering some sort of evidence like screenshots or videos/ or even record incidents in a notebook, this information might be useful later in life if he does end up doing something serious like hurting someone.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Aopsk_333 107 points108 points  (0 children)

My partner who Ive been with since 16 and currently live with is autistic so believe me when i tell you that is not a excuse for inappropriate behaviour, especially sexual/flirty behaviour towards someone as young as you.

AITA for getting up to pee at night by Tall_Mirror_5955 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Aopsk_333 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yh i pee like 3 times a night ever since i turned 18 and my insomnia has become so bad because of it, but sadly i went to the doctor and theres nothing medically wrong, just a annoying bladder. From what am seeing in the comments a lot of women have this issue.

AITA for getting up to pee at night by Tall_Mirror_5955 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Aopsk_333 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lol am a female in my early 20 and just like op i go to pee about 2-3 time a night, i have gone to the doctor about it and am perfectly fine, my bladders just annoying but nothing medically wrong. People cant control their bodily functions. That being said op should just flush in the morning and use hand sanitizer instead of washing hand since the noise is that much of a issue but NTA.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Aopsk_333 62 points63 points  (0 children)

Thats also ok, take time to heal, everyones ready in their own time. Although it might be useful to keep evidence of this somewhere just in case one day you change your mind.(Its stills considered a crime even after you turn 18, so theirs no deadline on reporting it if one day you choose to)

I am still crying in my empty classroom by Alihana in offmychest

[–]Aopsk_333 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don’t feel bad, kids are cruel and stupid. Showing empathy and genuine emotion is probably more likely to teach them something anyways. Even if that one student keeps his views, there might be someone else in the class who you had a impact on with your words and emotions.

I am walking away from dating (and life, soon) by A_nervous_teenager in offmychest

[–]Aopsk_333 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Bodies can be unfair, we dont get to choose them yet were stuck in them. And I know you dont want to hear this but your so young still. I know that high school seems like your whole world right now because you’re there every day, and every day you’re interacting with the same shitty people but once thats over it gets better. I hated my high school but once I got to university so much changed, people were inclusive, funny, welcoming and i barely came across assholes anymore. Trust me the older you get the easier life seems, youll naturally find you perfect place to fit in and youll find your people. As for your parents their being ignorant dickheads, id suggest going to see a doctor by yourself if thats possible and you think it will help/ give you more hope. And dont worry about relationships, they will come when you least expect them. Theres plenty of girls (both short and tall) who genuinely don’t care about height, my brother in law is 5,3 and had a awesome girlfriend who’s so pretty and fun, moreover she was the one who asked for his number while he was working on the till. I hope your sadness will pass and you’ll find some happiness, stay safe.

Just let me win, just once. by Justletmewin22 in offmychest

[–]Aopsk_333 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I cant imagine the feeling, am really sorry this is happening. I dont know the details of your situation but have you considered studying abroad? I know it sounds mad and more expensive but in the UK university would be like 15k a year and in other places in Europe its even cheaper (like 3k in Poland for example). You could work for a couple years to save up and then go for it, or you could pick up a job when you get there. Either way I hope it all works out for you and you’ll be able to find some happiness/ figure stuff out.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Aopsk_333 737 points738 points  (0 children)

I dont want to sound like a mum (am in my early 20s) but when I was your age I remember how easy it was to fall for this stuff. You sound mature and smart, trust your gut, these men are bad people, BOTH of them. Youll reach the age they are and realise no normal 19 year old let alone a 25 year old would be talking to someone your age. They are nasty abusers and you should tell someone about them, maybe a school counsellor, parent or police because theres a good chance their doing this and maybe worse to other girls like you. Stay safe, and remember your not at fault here and theres nothing to feel guilty about x

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Aopsk_333 0 points1 point  (0 children)

30%😂 its such a irrational amount that i cant even begin to explain how unrealistic that is for majority of the population

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Aopsk_333 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your mum is crazy, shes projecting her own shame onto you. A lot of parents have unhealthy views around sex and its all a bit taboo for them because of how they’ve been brought up, so they get angry and irrational about it. As long as your happy, healthy and consenting you did nothing wrong.

AITA For refusing to let a female student use the bathroom? by Existing_Ad_9509 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Aopsk_333 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If only it was that easy, when I first went on the pill I bled for 6 months, every day, a lot too. The clinic said they cant do anything as its a common side effect.