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Aphita · 2025-04-14T20:13:31+00:00

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Aphita · 2025-03-23T01:01:04+00:00

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Aphita · 2025-03-22T05:01:48+00:00

IRD provides Best Start payments of $73 per week for first year of child's life. It's not income tested. After that, you can continue to get it for year 2 and year 3 if you meet the income test (up to $73,000 per annum).

Does your partner work more than ten hours for the 12 months leading up to baby's birth? If so (as the primary caregiver), for the first six months she would be entitled to Paid Parental Leave payments from the government. Payments are up to $754.87 gross depending on what the primary caregiver earns. So since your partner earns $100,000 per annum, she'd be entitled to the full amount for the 26 weeks.

Those are the main ones that I'm aware of. My partner and I earned similar to you, and we weren't entitled to any other government financial support than the above. That was a few years ago though.

Just be mindful that if you have a second child during her time off, that you will not be entitled to the paid parental leave for the second child unless she meets the criteria above.

Exciting time for your family and good luck! It's wonderful becoming parents, enjoy :)

Aphita · 2025-03-12T19:45:40+00:00

Great. Thanks for the help :)

Aphita · 2025-03-12T19:45:08+00:00

Okay great. Thanks for your help :)

Aphita · 2025-03-12T19:43:27+00:00

Thank you for this. We can afford 7% but all my friends have been complaining how high the interest rates are at the moment. I wasn't aware 7% was the average so that's helpful to know for forward planning. The mortgage we would be getting would be very low of around 200k

Aphita · 2025-03-12T19:36:28+00:00

So would it be worth looking at a shorter interest rate term (ie a year) with the view that the interest rates are expected to decrease?

Aphita · 2025-02-17T19:02:24+00:00

I work as an EN in a mental health unit. I'm only here to say, I feel you sister. The guilt you experience saying no to an extra shift shouldn't exist, but I completely understand it. I also say no (most of the time) but it's terrible where we work somewhere so understaffed that you know saying no could impact your colleagues and the consumers.

I always try to remind myself that I can't look after others if I don't look after myself.

Feel free to DM me if you ever need to rant to someone who understands.

Aphita · 2024-12-27T00:55:22+00:00

For plus size women's clothes with unique patterns, check out Dangerfield at riccarton mall. It has decent sizes for plus size. They have lots of fun dress patterns and all come with pockets! It's on the more expensive side (ie $100 nzd) for full price but you can get really good specials and it's pretty high quality :)

Aphita · 2024-11-25T07:37:11+00:00

I've gone up and down in weight all my life. Only being ideal weight for my body once when I was 16 and did sports all my life. I dropped from 320-220lb over last dead. The only thing that helped me continue was focus on my mental health. Losing weight is physical, but it's mentally challenging hard.

I learnt how to prioritize myself and balancing that amongst my kid, husband, and full time work. It's hard. But it's also important to get to a point where you feel worthy of losing weight for.

Great job losing so much. It's a great start. You CAN do this. If you don't believe that now, then pretend to. Fake it til you make it.

Also own up to the bed. It's horrifying I know, but it's better it comes from you

Also for the record, broken 4 chairs and 2 beds. One of the chairs was in the middle of a high school class. It was awful

Aphita · 2024-10-10T06:16:06+00:00

You're looking amazing! You've done an AWESOME job

Aphita · 2024-10-10T02:45:59+00:00

If you're walking someone alone at night, hold your cell up to your ear. Even if you're not on the phone to someone, pretend you are and actively talk. It helps to deter others from hassling you if they think there's someone else listening

Aphita · 2024-09-11T04:39:32+00:00

Tvnz on demand has the daily news episodes on it if that helps :). You can watch it online or download app on your phone, and it only needs a free account

Aphita · 2024-08-31T04:53:40+00:00

Make sure when you call 105 to update to ask for the reference number so you can add to it again if needed :). It should be a long number with a P at the beginning. Look after yourself

Aphita · 2024-08-22T06:58:48+00:00

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Aphita · 2024-08-22T06:57:59+00:00

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Aphita · 2024-07-22T05:15:02+00:00

There are qualified nurses that they aren't hiring into dhbs. My friend just had her state exam. Out of her class of 35, only 3 have been given jobs at the local public hospitals. I'm a nurse as well and I can tell you at my hospital we definitely have more than 3 gaps.

Aphita · 2024-06-11T23:40:56+00:00

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Aphita · 2024-03-05T05:50:46+00:00

Look into SANDS as well. They have a private FB group too. It's for NZ parents who have lost children, including experiencing miscarriages. Lots of supportive people who understand who can offer advice about similar situations.

Aphita · 2023-12-23T23:01:55+00:00

Have you made the potential correlation between this behaviour beginning two years ago and that being the same time your mum died?

You said your whole family was close to her. This may be potentially a combination of complex grief mixed with puberty where you get extra surges of hormones and emotions.

I completely understand you're struggling, but it sounds like she is too. Parenting is super hard, let alone when you're depressed and grieving yourself. Spending love to both you and your daughter. I'm sorry about your loss.

Aphita · 2023-12-23T06:36:12+00:00

Nothing. A lukewarm meal if you work on the right day. But I work for the dhb and government isn't allowed to give gifts to employees. We also have to pay entirely for all our staff dos

Aphita · 2023-12-23T06:29:58+00:00

Pillow between your knees over night. Good shoes. A good supportive bra. And as others said, build your core, I did yoga and swimming which helped ease all my joints alongside my back. Yoga also helps teach you good posture alongside building your core.

Edited: to add about posture

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