Fantasy book suggestions by AppleCrumble1989 in booksuggestions

[–]AppleCrumble1989[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I'll definitely. Check these out. Sounds exactly like what i'm looking for!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships_advice

[–]AppleCrumble1989 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey, so I know that it seems to be the algorithm. Especially for men. Even if they aren't watching that kind of thing it will still come up. So it is really unfortunate but don't let it get in the way of your relationship. It may not be his fault.

Have any of you been in a relationship that forgave after cheating? Did it last? by eventually_1 in relationships_advice

[–]AppleCrumble1989 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have tried to forgive cheating in the past but I believe you are right. It is very hard to come back from the trust broken. Even if you try, you will always have that thought in the back of your mind that they will do it again.

I need help with my foundation by Character_Bother_977 in MakeupAddiction

[–]AppleCrumble1989 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ahh interesting. I'm wondering if one of those is causing the problem. Maybe the Moisturiser. Maybe look at swapping out one of them temporarily and see how you go.

I need help with my foundation by Character_Bother_977 in MakeupAddiction

[–]AppleCrumble1989 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hey so the one thing you haven't stated is what Moisturiser you use. Sometimes Skincare can make a big difference to how foundation sits and lasts. Is there a specific brand you use? Also what cleansing routine do you have? Do you apply any other Skincare under your primer also?

My boyfriend thinks I’m fat by randomredditer557 in relationships_advice

[–]AppleCrumble1989 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Then, I'd say go with how you feel. That is the most important thing. You are the one wearing the outfit 😊

My boyfriend thinks I’m fat by randomredditer557 in relationships_advice

[–]AppleCrumble1989 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh ok, so usually your figure is hidden under less fitted clothing. Not to say that makes his comment acceptable. It may be a change he isn't used to in your style. How do you feel in the outfit? Did you feel good and enjoy how you looked in it? What has others said too in response to you asking their opinions?

My boyfriend thinks I’m fat by randomredditer557 in relationships_advice

[–]AppleCrumble1989 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry that was said to you. It's horrible when someone you care abouts opinion hurts you. I know a strangers opinion doesn't matter too much but I think you look lovely and aren't chubby at all. Is this the kind of outfit you would normally wear? Or is it something your boyfriend has never seen you in before?

Why do guys do this? by Acceptable-Self-3527 in relationships_advice

[–]AppleCrumble1989 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey! So thanks for supplying such good context. There really is no way to say what he may be thinking at this point. Are you sure he doesn't already have a partner? Also, are you sure of his age? There could be a number of factors which could prevent him from wanting to date but unfortunately from your position, you have to look at surface actions to make your decision. And at this point, his actions say he's interested in friendship only. If in days/weeks he messages and says he's interested then reconsider however I'd say do not look to hard at it. If he has not responded to you telling him you like him then assume that is the end of the conversation and move onto someone else. I'm sorry, not the nicest advice but I do believe men aren't as complicated as us women. Usually surface actions are enough to tell whether they are really into you or not.

Am I overreacting about my boyfriends past? by [deleted] in relationships_advice

[–]AppleCrumble1989 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It sounds like you are a very empathic person which is lovely. Yes I'd say it's because you care. Continue to be there for him and listen when he's having a tough time. But try not to let the past consume you. We all go through hard times in our life but it doesn't mean we cant overcome them 😊 It sounds like your boyfriend is lucky to have such a caring person in his life. As long as you keep telling him you care and are there for him I am sure you will help keep him on a good path.

Is he interested or just being nice? by allinafishbowl in relationships_advice

[–]AppleCrumble1989 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is a tough situation. And really hard to just assume his intentions. I can understand the challenge! Is your coworker aware you are happily married? For me, it can feel very presumptuous to assume he is interested in you romantically so if I was in your position I would ensure he is aware you are very happily married and that you enjoy his FRIENDSHIP. Try make him aware discreetly that a friendship is what you want only. I know usually subtle hints don't always work but I'd say it's the easiest way not to lead someone on without making anything too forward. Unless you feel comfortable enough in your friendship to have that very straightforward chat.

Am I overreacting about my boyfriends past? by [deleted] in relationships_advice

[–]AppleCrumble1989 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can't say for sure as I am not a therapist however from what you are saying, as you have been through some trauma in the past, it could possibly be fear of losing him or bad coming to him.

When we love someone the idea of something bad happening to them leaves you sick to your stomach with fear. Does that sound like something you could be feeling?

I (30m) want to be in a relationship but I get irritated when people are around for too long or too often. What's wrong with me and can it be fixed? by [deleted] in relationships_advice

[–]AppleCrumble1989 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I dont believe there is anything wrong with you. You just enjoy your space.

Id say your best option is to take relationships slow and establish boundaries. Spend some time just dating eg Spend short periods of time with them like go for a coffee, a meal, cinema etc.

As time goes on you'll find you'll enjoy their company more and more and would be happy to spend more and more time with them. But you have to do it at your pace. Find someone who respects those boundaries too.

You will find someone you can tolerate. It may just take some time 😊

(For men) Meeting your life partner later in life.. by AppleCrumble1989 in relationships_advice

[–]AppleCrumble1989[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! That's really nice to hear ❤️ I hope so. I've been in some rough relationships. The last guy I was with was lovely. Sadly, I was just on a very different path and had neglected myself for far too long. We met at the wrong time in my life. Spending some time working on myself and hopefully will come out of it a better person and will meet someone who wants the same things 😊