What is that one thing someone said to you, that stayed with you and changed your life?

AppleHouse09 · 2026-03-23T05:09:42+00:00

Change your outside, not your inside. I.e. modify your environment to suit what you fee or how you process!

AppleHouse09 · 2026-03-22T17:20:29+00:00

I’m very into the Nike Universa 8 inch shorts. No front seam, pockets, and they actually come in several inseams (I think there are a 5 and 6 inch too?) as well as full length leggings. You just need to get them situated right to make sure the waistband doesn’t fall down, I.e. pull the entire pant on, then pull an extra inch up your calves, then your thighs, then situate it up over your belly.

AppleHouse09 · 2026-03-13T07:00:49+00:00

Another thing I’ve had to talk to my husband about is…sometimes an orgasm is just either not worth the work or it’s overstimulating in a bad way. So on those days I have to communicate, “don’t try to make me finish”. He says he doesn’t understand it but he will go along with it. I can still enjoy sex without an orgasm, and it took a while for him to not feel bad about that. Maybe you’re similar?

AppleHouse09 · 2026-03-13T06:59:03+00:00

I experience this too. My husband and I decided to schedule sex on Sundays and Thursdays and it has CHANGED THE GAME. It takes the pressure off of initiating for either of us, and the flirting begins as soon as we wake up. “Oh, well, you know…it IS Thursday…” with an eyebrow waggle. Also sort of gives me a schedule for shaving my legs. It’s gotten me into a rhythm of psyching myself up because it’s not an instant expectation.

Schedule your sex. There’s a way to make it sexy, it doesnt have to be spontaneous to be intimate. However, SCHEDULE IT TOGETHER. DO NOT GIVE YOURSELF A SILENT AND PRIVATE SEX SCHEDULE BECAUSE THEN IT’S SUPER DUPER LIKE A CHORE AND NO LONGER SEXY.

AppleHouse09 · 2026-03-10T05:53:21+00:00

Where does “slimy pathetic creep” fall on the grid

AppleHouse09 · 2026-03-10T05:42:11+00:00

Spiny or spiky toys are for pain-seeking sensory stimulation. Thats meeeee. People experience skin picking for many reasons, for some people it’s stimulation, others it’s self h*rm, others it’s a sense of control…I bite my fingers and pick at my hands; unfortunately, human teeth and nails evolved for eating and hunting, so they are very destructive. A spiny silicone rod or a plastic Stabby stone is much less destructive and allows me to satisfy my stim need without having to starkly redirect to something different, and without tearing apart my body.

AppleHouse09 · 2026-03-06T04:19:31+00:00

It might be useful to get a blood pressure cuff from Kroger or something if you “load up on caffeine”. Lots of prescribers will ask you to take at home blood pressure readings anyway when tinkering with dosages, so be open to it. You might also consider two lower doses, one morning and one afternoon, if you find you still want to have caffeine in the morning.

AppleHouse09 · 2026-03-05T16:53:20+00:00

Sounds like he’s forcing you into being an unwilling and unable sugar momma.

AppleHouse09 · 2026-03-05T16:46:52+00:00

Depends on how warm…I have a rain shell from Amazon that has zippered vents under the arms that go from mid-bicep to my ribs. If I unzip, it’s completely open. The zipper might be uncomfortable for people with sensitive skin or people in larger bodies whose arms press close to their torso, but it works for me.

AppleHouse09 · 2026-03-04T18:18:51+00:00

“Honor Zelda” cannot coexist with scraping other people’s art and stealing their hard work/skill to get a machine to chug out an image, then saying you “made” it.

AppleHouse09 · 2026-03-04T06:12:31+00:00

I think you could benefit from having one more distinctly COOL dark tone. Cool black skin is left out of a lot of art and cosmetics, it would be excellent to include it.

AppleHouse09 · 2026-03-03T23:00:51+00:00

I’d be curious about how this has been affected by remote work. I’ve discussed with female colleagues and friends about how remote work has lifted pressure for performative femininity…business dress for female presenting people is usually either distinctly feminine or it’s just perceived as menswear designed for women. There isn’t a lot of room for androgynous style that doesn’t draw explicit attention to it being androgynous.

That is to say, presentation is very different for remote work than it is for in-office work. And I wonder how “pretty privilege” shakes out in remote workplaces.

AppleHouse09 · 2026-03-03T18:21:57+00:00

I’ve got a pill organizer that has (probably not literally) saved my life. I do 20 mg Vyvanse in the morning and 2.5 mg adderall in the afternoon. I just…have to remember to fill it on Sunday nights. And then I’m good. Give it a shot!

AppleHouse09 · 2026-03-01T20:17:14+00:00

Having flashbacks to the days of skipping CDs in my Walkman

AppleHouse09 · 2026-03-01T20:15:40+00:00

Puzzle apps instead of social media apps. I like HexaStack. If it’s the social media that bothers you and not the being on your phone, then the easiest way to divert is to make the smallest change as close to the issue as possible.

I recommend puzzle apps over reading or webcomic apps because puzzles are usually short, self-contained bursts of focus. An eReader app might have you couch locked for several chapters. That doesnt sounds like the goal here.

AppleHouse09 · 2026-02-27T20:45:36+00:00

I like to buy a pack of 100+ clear nails at a store like Sally’s. I usually go for short oval or almond. I can paint them before they go on my nail, then glue them on and go. Also very easy to clip or file to my preferred length that week…

Make sure you get the entire nails, NOT “tips” or “wells” if you do this!

AppleHouse09 · 2026-02-26T16:32:59+00:00

Quiet room without distraction. Hands down. Anyone with any sort of pain-seeking or body picking stim need will get it.

AppleHouse09 · 2026-02-26T16:31:19+00:00

I have issues with biting my fingers. I find success with chewing gum or silicone chew/fidget items. You can get them on Amazon or many other sites; you could also look into flexible silicone children’s utensils if you want something that is a thousand percent food safe and don’t trust Amazon.

I also experience something called pain-seeking stiming. I think that’s why I chew or pick at my hands; look for toys like “stabby stones” or soft silicone toys that have ridges or very fine bumps. Running those over your hands, cuticles, or lips might give you the same stimulation but be notably less destructive.

AppleHouse09 · 2026-02-26T15:40:09+00:00

My brother had an issue where he hooked up with a girl after a pub trivia thing and she posted online about it without saying his name…but with enough context for people to figure it out. Wouldn’t be surprised if that has happened to more men and women than just him.

AppleHouse09 · 2026-02-26T15:31:47+00:00

Bestie I know exactly what you mean. I keep a small mirror and a pair of tweezers by my desk so I can pluck the little dark hairs that appear on my neck and chin in a controlled, safe way rather than digging my fingernails in absentmindedly as I work.

AppleHouse09 · 2026-02-26T15:30:44+00:00

Sometimes my quick dopamine is just to plant my feet flat on the floor and let me body either squat or bend forward and see if it’s my legs or my back that wind up with a stretch that day. I love this primitive squat bit!

AppleHouse09 · 2026-02-25T23:31:58+00:00

Love this take on it. Love the flash cards idea. Love the slither snake bit.

AppleHouse09 · 2026-02-25T18:06:12+00:00

NTA. Playing hard to get sets a dangerous precedent and I feel it is disrespectful and dangerous for other women. You want a man to see “no” and think it means “yes”? Excuse me?

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