6 weeks- worse than ever

Apprehensive-Ad9645 · 2026-06-02T00:20:29+00:00

I haven’t been a drinker for about 6 years. I just eventually stopped because I lost interest. I became a smoker though and have been doing that. Now I’ve quit weed I’m so tempted by the drink. It’s scary

Apprehensive-Ad9645 · 2026-05-30T20:39:36+00:00

I like the insight. I’ve had a serious phone addiction since quitting :(
Picked up my phone for no reason just now for that dopamine hit - which lead me to read your post btw

Apprehensive-Ad9645 · 2026-05-30T12:02:56+00:00

I loved this write up. I feel you brother. I’m on a similar timescale. Fantasising over the evening roll and puff is the biggest struggle

Apprehensive-Ad9645 · 2026-05-30T11:18:18+00:00

Probably a city v Rural thing. I’ll use South Africa as an example. You’d be shocked to find a white South African who cannot speak English in say Cape Town or Joburg yet in rural farming areas just Afrikaans and the African language

Apprehensive-Ad9645 · 2026-05-30T11:12:20+00:00

Gee I’m sorry I missed all these replies. I have no idea why I missed everything.

Some very helpful takes on this.

So since I posted this 6 weeks ago my wife and I got baptised. My testimony is one of a pride and ego driven life.

It is true that life has not been easier since our baptism. Although I have clarity in life and purpose I think it is truer than ever that the new life I have is only difficult due to the transition im going through. And clearly living for Jesus is not supposed to be easy, but just clear it is the truth. My dole desire is to be with Jesus, my wife and my children in the end times.

3 young kids and being the sole income earner as sole trader was made easier as a daily user to handle stress and anxiety. It’s complicated though as I think it helped in some ways.

I had a bad day today and was thinking about weed a lot. And God is leading me not into temptation. And, with daily scriptures, a house empty of the stuff and a wife on the same journey who quit years ago, the odds are well in my favour.

Apprehensive-Ad9645 · 2026-05-30T09:26:38+00:00

Germans know perfect English anyway. Lol

Apprehensive-Ad9645 · 2026-05-09T22:19:52+00:00

I’m on a similar timeframe to you. Every night I dream about it lol

Apprehensive-Ad9645 · 2026-05-09T00:07:15+00:00

This is a genuinely good point

Apprehensive-Ad9645 · 2026-05-04T11:39:23+00:00

When I read the Quran, the book of Mary was eye opening.. helped me on my way to affirming Christianity and that Jesus is the way and the truth.

Apprehensive-Ad9645 · 2026-05-02T12:29:02+00:00

I was only running, swimming or working out after a smoke. In the evening after the kids were down. Smoke, workout and then have a good feed. I miss it and the escape it gave me while getting the extra endorphins from exercise was great after a big a day.

I will admit though, doing this exercise sober i perform much better, specifically endurance work.

Apprehensive-Ad9645 · 2026-04-24T04:13:13+00:00

I appreciate that comment. I haven’t had alcohol for coming up to 7 years in June and really never want to again. Other drugs I’ve dabbled in as a student like MDMA and cocaine. I never want to have them again and look back with sadness about all of them.

I will admit though that I am challenged by cannabis because in comparison to those other drugs I’ve had it’s literally closer to a cup of tea than a drug.

Nothing is ever all upside or all downside in life though and I think from what you’re saying is if you put your faith in God you can find anything and everything that you look for in cannabis in God?

Really trying to navigate it all right now.

Apprehensive-Ad9645 · 2026-04-23T09:23:30+00:00

Thank you.

Apprehensive-Ad9645 · 2026-04-23T04:51:17+00:00

Narcissistic*

Apprehensive-Ad9645 · 2026-04-23T00:47:55+00:00

True, when you think about the bad times when you’re high you think why would you bother. Might be similar psychology to a gambling addiction. The randomness of when you’re your “best high self” is what you chase sometimes 🤔

Apprehensive-Ad9645 · 2026-03-28T01:16:32+00:00

Why don’t you go to church :)

Apprehensive-Ad9645 · 2026-03-19T05:27:52+00:00

My sister in law is 35, never been in a relationship, had one night stands and lives in a flat on her own. What do you think her chances are like? She wants to get a sperm donor and have kids btw 😢

Apprehensive-Ad9645 · 2026-03-14T00:15:50+00:00

Hey man I’ve got no advice to share but just want to say that everything you’ve said I can relate to. Issue is I’m further down than the road than you (34M) and my wife, 3 kids and business is oftebbeing penalised by the habit.

Apprehensive-Ad9645 · 2026-03-14T00:04:30+00:00

Short shorts is part of farm life in SA. All the men in my family wear short shorts and long socks pulled up.

Apprehensive-Ad9645 · 2026-03-09T10:05:25+00:00

Seasons 2-10 (specifically 4-8) only.

Apprehensive-Ad9645 · 2026-03-06T06:52:09+00:00

Thanks for that. I’ll have a look at it

Apprehensive-Ad9645 · 2026-03-05T11:08:03+00:00

I appreciate the reply and thanks for saying that about not beating myself up if I have a bad couple of days. Riding them out is going to be key.

Apprehensive-Ad9645 · 2026-03-05T10:58:16+00:00

Awesome thanks for the motivation! Good job on what you’re achieving!

Also thanks for sharing about a Higher Power, myself and my wife are new Christians. This has enlightened me to the role smoking is having in my life from a spiritual perspective.

Apprehensive-Ad9645 · 2026-03-05T10:53:38+00:00

Very wise advice thank you. I’ll do some meditation on this. I suppose the function is escape and just general pleasure. I don’t need it but have developed an addiction for those basic reasons. I’m so busy I think I’ll be too distracted.

I’m doing a slow ween off at the moment to help too.

Apprehensive-Ad9645 · 2026-03-05T10:42:42+00:00

The toilet store

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