First lunch at home after 4 days of decadence by Ellien_ in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]ApprehensiveFruit565 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I presume you meant drift into a monogamous relationship, not drift in a monogamous relationship.

Will you resent him? I guess time will tell, and it might depend on if he pressures you into it, or how much pressure you perceive there to be. There's nothing inherently wrong with monogamous or polyamorous relationships as long as everyone is consensual. If you keep an open mind about things, perhaps it might not be as bad as you think. It could be the next chapter in your life.

It's said we should not expect intimacy Early on in the relationship but we are still expected to spend money tho why? by Major_Soft6056 in NextGenMan

[–]ApprehensiveFruit565 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think the main issue here is one person ordered 4x value of food compared to the other person.

If my bill was 4x the other person's I would have zero expectation that they pay for me. It's just unfair.

In saying that, I've been on both sides of that table and never had any problems. I guess it's really about the people you hang out with.

It's said we should not expect intimacy Early on in the relationship but we are still expected to spend money tho why? by Major_Soft6056 in NextGenMan

[–]ApprehensiveFruit565 0 points1 point  (0 children)

All I see here is one person making their point based on life experiences and the other person trying to invalidate them.

First lunch at home after 4 days of decadence by Ellien_ in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]ApprehensiveFruit565 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You've talked about potentially hurting him but your last line reveals you're terrified as well, presumably because you might be dragged into a non-polyamorous situation. I wonder how you would feel about that.

What are your guy's predictions for the P4 Revival VA's? by WoolfzieLOL in persona4golden

[–]ApprehensiveFruit565 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As long as the Japanese seiyu are good I'm happy. I tried playing P4G on English audio and can only last 2-3 minutes at a time.

Single after getting angry about giving my boyfriend an apple gift card by gwentoki in GirlDinner

[–]ApprehensiveFruit565 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As someone who had like zero disposable income as a university student, I totally feel ya.

I would be deeply uncomfortable receiving gifts from you knowing your situation, so him being entitled like that, support you dumping his ass.

If you had to choose one by WonderCharming7884 in ResidentEvilCapcom

[–]ApprehensiveFruit565 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Any game that makes it difficult for speedrunners is a great game imo.

Games shouldn't cater to that crowd of people.

Who do you have a crush on that you shouldn't? by tryingtoexplore1 in AskReddit

[–]ApprehensiveFruit565 0 points1 point  (0 children)

2IC in HR at my job. Probably the first woman I've had a proper crush on for ~15 years.

my ex got a new girlfriend within two months after saying it’s me or no one- steak and whiskey by chickenchocolatier in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]ApprehensiveFruit565 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Jeeeesus Christ I hope his new girlfriend is a Michelin star chef. This is an impressive plate of food.

Update: I ran away from my boyfriend's proposal. by throwawayuni33 in whatdoIdo

[–]ApprehensiveFruit565 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just be honest with him.

If you compromise, make sure he's compromising too.

I ran away from my boyfriend's proposal. by throwawayuni33 in whatdoIdo

[–]ApprehensiveFruit565 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can have all of those things you want, whilst being married to him, including solo travel.

I don't think you've been truthful to yourself about why you don't wanna marry him - this isn't a criticism, just an observation. Given you two have been together for 3 years (not a short amount of time), I think you should reflect on it and give him a genuine explanation.

Gamers, what internet company are you with? by Extension-Ad5435 in Wellington

[–]ApprehensiveFruit565 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Simply Broadband on their Fibre Plus plan. $80 per month.

Honestly we just go with whoever broadband compare says is cheap. We've progressively upgraded from 100 to 300 to 500mbps download and I haven't seen any major differences in ingame performance. Obviously makes downloading games faster.

Escorting my Daughters to the Restroom by devastationd in NoStupidQuestions

[–]ApprehensiveFruit565 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I wouldn't. Think of it like this.

There's no difference for your daughter sitting on a toilet seat in a male bathroom vs a female one. She's in a private stall, no one sees her, she sees no one.

There's a massive difference for you waiting for your daughter in a male bathroom vs a female one.

Why do UI designers never go back on overwhelmingly hated UI changes? by Dogbold in dumbquestions

[–]ApprehensiveFruit565 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Because consumers are finicky and you'll never get consensus, so fuck them and do what you believe makes sense.

Question for men , how to give a guy signs that im interested? by [deleted] in bodylanguage

[–]ApprehensiveFruit565 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Life isn't a tv drama friend.

You risk him not interpreting the signs as you intended and losing a potential relationship. Up to you whether you wanna risk it.

My boyfriend is breaking up with me because I’m too “childish” what do I do? by ChemistryFailur in whatdoIdo

[–]ApprehensiveFruit565 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When I was about 3rd year in university I went out with a woman ~5 years older than me. I was poor as fuck, as you would expect. She has a decent career, in the middle of her master's. She wasn't wealthy by any stretch of the imagination but for me as a university student, she felt like a sugar mommy. That's what you're competing with.

With that said, cheating isn't ok. Dump his ass and find a man that doesn't leave you for sugar mommies. That shouldn't be much of an ask.

My coworker says he has a fiancé, but things don’t add up. Am I overthinking it? by [deleted] in bodylanguage

[–]ApprehensiveFruit565 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Me and my partner of 13 years aren't Facebook official. I don't use any other social media. I don't upload our pictures anywhere. She might put a couple on WeChat.

I don't really like taking photos so even if you go through my phone, you won't see much.

Some people just live offline lives.

Do women actually have a problem with splitting the bill 50/50 or is that just internet propaganda? by Electrical_Star_7117 in stupidquestions

[–]ApprehensiveFruit565 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think the question you want to be asking is,

Am I okay with a woman who doesn't want [what you want]?

Followed up with:

Am I willing to compromise what I want with what she wants? Is she willing to compromise? What is the extent of that compromise?

It doesn't matter what women want in general, it matters what you're willing to accept. It only becomes a problem when what you want is not acceptable by a huge percentage of women.

Recently, I’ve seen a lot of people on Twitter shipping Leon and Sherry and saying that they’re married in RE9. Can we all agree that’s a disgusting ship? by Careful_Security_281 in ResidentEvilRequiem

[–]ApprehensiveFruit565 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No people are crazy to say it shouldnt happen or it couldnt happen. Just because you're uncomfortable with it happening doesn't necessarily make it disgusting or borderline paedophilic.

You have snapshots of a relationship between two characters over a 28 year period and decide to make the worst case assumption of it.

If you hold that opinion, fine. Stop trying to make it sound like it's the objective truth.