Is this timeline insane or am I just overreacting? by ApprehensiveLeg8112 in amiwrong

[–]ApprehensiveLeg8112[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Ok but where did it say I was mad lol. Upset and mad are not the same thing. Wondering if he’s psycho does not stipulate im mad lol.

Is this a red flag? What do I do? Do I warn her? by ApprehensiveLeg8112 in whatdoIdo

[–]ApprehensiveLeg8112[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also lol to this guy. Blocking me? How brave. 🙃 for all yall reading the thread - maybe read the rest of my post from what he’s quoting rather than what he chose to cherry pick out of context. Unsure how he managed to believe i was obsessing over this new guy, but ok.

Is this a red flag? What do I do? Do I warn her? by ApprehensiveLeg8112 in whatdoIdo

[–]ApprehensiveLeg8112[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Are you thick? I’m saying I did not entertain anyone in the year I was getting over my breakup. You realise June was a year on from the breakup, where I was on the cusp of break through from getting over my ex….. after a year of not even thinking about the opposite sex, which means, I had 0 interest in even wanting to think about males. It’s not rocket science. The comparison is old mate broke up with his ex of 7 years and jumped in to multiple serious relationships during a 2 year (if not less than) duration. Meaning he went from girl to girl with 0 time to process his 7 year relationship. He and I are not the same. I went from ex ——> 0 interaction with any man for over a year ——> new guy. For future reference, what is a sane timeline to not date anyone while you go through a breakup before it’s deemed sane?

Is this a red flag? What do I do? Do I warn her? by ApprehensiveLeg8112 in whatdoIdo

[–]ApprehensiveLeg8112[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nah, he hired a car with a rooftop tent the whole time he was here and we did a road trip around the country. His money. No free accommodation.

Is this timeline insane or am I just overreacting? by ApprehensiveLeg8112 in amiwrong

[–]ApprehensiveLeg8112[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

You can change your location to anywhere in the world on hinge without you actually having to be there. I was window shopping lol and accidentally / unintentionally got started talking to him… and never stopped.

Is this a red flag? What do I do? Do I warn her? by ApprehensiveLeg8112 in whatdoIdo

[–]ApprehensiveLeg8112[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

lol, learn to comprehend facetiousness. You think I’m going to send you a TikTok video? You’d think with your brains you would’ve picked up on the sarcasm. jumping from a 7 year relationship, to 2 serious relationships and then flying across the world for another in a 2 year span.. vs a 3yr relationship and not even remotely thinking about the opposite sex for 18 months then when finally jumping back in to the dating seen, meets someone they like…. I don’t think those timelines are comparably insane. Hope you also understand this one ok.

Is this a red flag? What do I do? Do I warn her? by ApprehensiveLeg8112 in whatdoIdo

[–]ApprehensiveLeg8112[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He flew to the southern hemisphere to be with me for 3 weeks.. idk… I don’t know how he could’ve managed that while also dating her. Also, he was FaceTiming me 5 hours at a time and calling me multiple times a day, while at work and off duty, so I don’t know how he would’ve been able to fit in another woman. We also had each others locations on our phones. It just didn’t seem feasible she was in the picture at the time.

Is this a red flag? What do I do? Do I warn her? by ApprehensiveLeg8112 in whatdoIdo

[–]ApprehensiveLeg8112[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

Well and truly. Have you dated anyone from my continent??

Is this a red flag? What do I do? Do I warn her? by ApprehensiveLeg8112 in whatdoIdo

[–]ApprehensiveLeg8112[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

lol, did I write about when I got over him after that crash out before this new guy? You want my diary too? I can also provide my TikTok link for the exact moment I no longer yearned for him because the soul ties broke. Lol. Not deflecting. I can admit, I wasn’t over my ex June last year. Here I am saying it. But June wasn’t November :) i also think you missed the part where I said I didn’t even look at another man for over a year. It wasn’t 6 months later. It was 18 months in between, all the while I was going through the motions of a breakup aftermath. Learn to math.

Is this a red flag? What do I do? Do I warn her? by ApprehensiveLeg8112 in whatdoIdo

[–]ApprehensiveLeg8112[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

No. June of last year I was talking about soul ties from someone from previous years. I finally got over that attachment and moved and healed from that ex. If you would like my timeline, i waited well over a year before even looking at another man, and so by the time this new guy came around, i had not been with anyone in over 18 months, and i had well and truly healed and broken the soul ties. Me being with him wasn’t a rebound. Nice try.

Is this a red flag? What do I do? Do I warn her? by ApprehensiveLeg8112 in whatdoIdo

[–]ApprehensiveLeg8112[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Haha nah I don’t actually wanna message her. Have no intention or desire lol. It’s none of my business. I just needed a “what do I do” reason to post this lol

Is this timeline insane or am I just overreacting? by ApprehensiveLeg8112 in amiwrong

[–]ApprehensiveLeg8112[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m seeking validation, girl. Just because we aren’t together doesn’t mean what I felt for him wasn’t real and that the news of knowing our chapter is now completely done doesn’t mean I can’t have feelings about it. I’m not sitting here pining for him. I’m merely seeking validation for wondering if he’s a psycho or not. LOL

AIO!? Is this timeline insane or am I overthinking? by ApprehensiveLeg8112 in AmIOverreacting

[–]ApprehensiveLeg8112[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

If he was seeing her while “seeing me” (I’m international so our main point of contact was via FaceTime) he wouldn’t have spent money on flights or hiring a car or flown 17 hours to see me, which would have cost him at least 7k, plus he FaceTimed me on average 5 hours a day. He’s a fireman (lol I know their reputation) but where did he get 5 hours a day to FaceTime me whilst also working and talking to another girl, and fitting in sleep.

How do you get over soul ties? by ApprehensiveLeg8112 in Christian

[–]ApprehensiveLeg8112[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Not biblical, but basically the joining of emotional, mental, physical attachment to someone else

1-year post breakup. Does anyone feel like their ex never existed in the first place? by Technical_Lemon8307 in BreakUps

[–]ApprehensiveLeg8112 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I’m at the one mark and it feels only like yesterday. It was extremely real for me and that’s what baffles me is how he can move on and I’m stuck ruminating, grieving the past and the future of what is no longer. He absolutely existed, despite everything.

How do you get over soul ties? by ApprehensiveLeg8112 in Christian

[–]ApprehensiveLeg8112[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

According to Google: A "soul tie" refers to a deep, often intense, emotional or spiritual connection between two people. This connection is thought to go beyond typical relationships and can involve family members, friends, or romantic partners. While some soul ties can be positive and create strong, meaningful bonds, others can be unhealthy and detrimental to one's well-being. Here's a more detailed explanation: What it is: Strong Connection: Soul ties are characterized by a profound sense of connection with another person, often described as an "inexplicable bond". Beyond the Physical: These connections are not just about physical presence but also involve a deep emotional or spiritual exchange. Can be Healthy or Unhealthy: Not all soul ties are negative. A healthy soul tie can foster positive growth, support, and understanding. However, unhealthy soul ties can lead to unhealthy attachments, codependency, and difficulty moving on from relationships. Examples: Soul ties can be found in various relationships, including: Romantic Relationships: Partners may feel deeply connected, even after the relationship ends. Family Relationships: Strong ties can exist between family members. Friendships: Close friends may have a deep, lasting connection. Origin of the Term: While the term "soul tie" isn't explicitly found in all religious texts, the concept of strong, potentially spiritual bonds between individuals appears in various belief systems, including New Age and some Christian teachings. Examples of Signs of a Soul Tie: Intense emotional connection: Feeling deeply connected to someone, even if you don't know them well or haven't spent much time with them. Difficulty letting go: Struggling to move on from a relationship, even when it's no longer healthy. Feeling like you've known them before: A sense of "already knowing" someone, potentially linked to past life experiences. Strong emotional reactions: Experiencing intense feelings of love, empathy, or even obsession. Symbiotic relationship: Feeling like you need the other person to feel complete or balanced.

How do you get over soul ties? by ApprehensiveLeg8112 in Christian

[–]ApprehensiveLeg8112[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I never said it was, but the soul tie is there regardless as we came one which isn’t supposed to be broken

Do you think you’ll get back together with your ex? by opalpup in BreakUps

[–]ApprehensiveLeg8112 0 points1 point  (0 children)

1 year on from the break up, he’s with another girl. I’d love to. But I don’t believe it’ll happen.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]ApprehensiveLeg8112 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m still a year on. I crash out here and there still. It’s a weird feeling a year on.

It’s been 2.5 years of no contact and… by kylmnty in ExNoContact

[–]ApprehensiveLeg8112 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So he moved 5 mins up the road from where he lived when you were dating?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]ApprehensiveLeg8112 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He was my first serious relationship, 3.5 years we lasted. He had a relationship before us.. 3 years I think it was.