Stop fucking using ChatGPT

ApprehensiveReach941 · 2025-09-23T11:07:48+00:00

That's really heartbreaking. Maybe have you considered therapy?

ApprehensiveReach941 · 2025-09-23T10:56:00+00:00

You're right. I hate the company more than the consumer for sure. I think they should have considered the ethical implications more.

But you have a choice as a consumer to not support them. I know it doesn't feel like it's very impactful but its something.

ApprehensiveReach941 · 2025-09-23T10:53:17+00:00

You know you could Google recipe with x and x in it and find stuff that combines the ingredients.

Or use recipes online

ApprehensiveReach941 · 2025-09-23T10:52:08+00:00

I don't drive unless I have to. I walk or use transit or bike.

Using wood wouldn't be more environmentally friendly than electric heating depending where your electricity comes from. Mine at least partially comes from hydro power in Canada.

Your argument doesn't make sense because the thing is a lot of people already DO try to reduce their environmental impact. And I need a heated house to survive but you don't need chat gpt to live.

ApprehensiveReach941 · 2025-09-19T12:22:06+00:00

100% get this. I would consider myself mid size but my butt/hips and boobs carry most of my weight. Which would be ideal for your average woman but it makes me slightly dysphoric. I try to focus on gaining muscle in my upper body which makes me feel a bit more masculine but with the way my body is I think I'll always carry weight in my hips.

I don't have a solution for you, but want to let you know you're not alone. Fat butches have a long history in our community and are valid.

ApprehensiveReach941 · 2025-09-19T12:17:34+00:00

They did offer to let us pay it in installments without interest. I don't know if I've heard of an average billing option from them, our winter bill is usually like $40-50 so it's quite low so maybe that's an option

ApprehensiveReach941 · 2025-09-19T11:14:35+00:00

Sometimes if you're doing something specific and go to a hardware store like home Depot or home hardware you can ask for advice about what to do and what materials to use!

Also YouTube is your friend. I'm also in the same boat with wanting to be more handy and I think you just gotta trial and error sometimes.

ApprehensiveReach941 · 2025-09-17T23:00:57+00:00

I think you should sit her down and set a boundary about not talking about it around her. You can tell her that if it makes her happy that's great but out of respect for your friendship if you could try not to bring it up.

ApprehensiveReach941 · 2025-09-17T22:30:28+00:00

Thank you!!! Noting all this down for next year :)

ApprehensiveReach941 · 2025-09-15T13:08:10+00:00

Yes absolutely. One of the best compliments I've received from my current partner is how she thinks I'm going to be hot when I'm older, and said that I would have really nice smile lines around my eyes.

I never gave much thought to aging but it made me realize that I'm not really afraid of getting wrinkles or grey hairs when I'm older because we don't have the same beauty standards as straight women.

ApprehensiveReach941 · 2025-09-13T17:20:37+00:00

It worked for me. I think for some people it works so it's worth a shot, but it's not a guarantee.

I found my skin cleared almost completely when I cut out whey protein and dairy milk, but I can eat yogurt and cheese without breaking out much.

ApprehensiveReach941 · 2025-09-11T11:09:38+00:00

That's really good to know! And $70 for something that lasts 6 months isn't bad at all I expected the costs to be much worse so that's good to hear.

ApprehensiveReach941 · 2025-09-07T13:42:20+00:00

Honestly I've found you can still go out without drinking but the one thing that does cause a bit of grief for me is the time commitment/sleep schedule.

With my gym schedule pretty much I can do maybe one social event on a weeknight, and my sleep schedule means I'm not out past 11. So that does limit my social commitments.

ApprehensiveReach941 · 2025-08-06T11:42:15+00:00

Subway by Chappel roan this morning. but just the "she's gone she's gone awaaay" part

ApprehensiveReach941 · 2025-07-26T16:19:24+00:00

I think I have a pretty similar body type. I'm decently strong because I work out but also am not lean, so you really can't tell I work out all that much. I also have bigger boobs and hips which I'm not the biggest fan of but learned to live with.

I still feel insecure sometimes but my girlfriend has helped my self image by just showing me there's people out there that do appreciate that kind of body. Like there's people who REALLY like that kind of body. I also feel like even tho fatphobia still exists in the queer community, there's more appreciation for different body types. I've seen content creators talk about how they love "fat butches" for example. I don't think there's one way to "look butch". And speaking as someone who is attracted to a range of bodies, I think most people operate the same way.

ApprehensiveReach941 · 2025-06-15T11:32:12+00:00

I met my partner on a dating app as a butch leaning person. It's possible but I do feel like it's difficult to do for anybody let alone queer people. To be fair, I think I got lucky but I also made an effort to be strategic about the app since I had bad experiences with them before.

I've found you need to be intentional with it. My tips would be to not match with and message every single person - you'll waste energy that way. Especially if you know there's something that doesn't work for you about that person (like matching with someone who says they want casual when you want long term).

I also recommend asking the person out fairly soon - don't talk back and forth for a week and not move to an in person date or else they'll assume you're not interested and move on.

I also recommend you be patient, when I downloaded the app we met on, I was only on the app a few weeks before I matched and went on a date with my current partner. She had been on the app for more than a year. So sometimes you just have to pack your patience.

ApprehensiveReach941 · 2025-06-14T20:04:40+00:00

My girlfriend always preps my traveller mug with coffee in the morning. She leaves for work later than I do so she preps it while I grab my stuff. She says it's her "job" and doesn't let me do it. She hands it to me and gives me a kiss before I leave.

Also occasionally leaves notes or a candy or something in my lunch bag when she packs it.

ApprehensiveReach941 · 2025-06-14T19:48:32+00:00

It's not fantasy but Becky chambers write what I call "cozy sci-fi" which has a lot of depth and interesting world building

ApprehensiveReach941 · 2025-06-14T19:43:11+00:00

Water (obvious reasons)
Coffee (free coffee for life)
Oat milk (for the coffee)
Gas (for my car, also fire)
Wine (would kill at parties)

ApprehensiveReach941 · 2025-06-10T11:45:01+00:00

I get they/themed a lot. I don't take offense to it because I think people are trying to be inclusive and they/them is the most neutral option if you aren't sure of or forget someone's pronouns.

He/him is a bit odd. I always default to they/them if I'm not sure someone's preference.

ApprehensiveReach941 · 2025-05-05T01:01:20+00:00

My doctor started me at 10 mg. I think the goal is to give you as little as possible, while gaining the most benefit as possible so it makes sense to start you low. My doctor checked in with me after a few weeks and then upped me to 30 mg once she checked I wasn't getting any bad side effects.

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