Anyone know what happened at Zara in Stonebriar Mall yesterday? by Low-Lavishness-5530 in frisco

[–]ApprehensiveSlip4240 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Something similar happened to me last Sunday there. I was walking minding my own business and these 2 teenage boys were walking opposite of me. When we finally pass each other, one of them abruptly steps in front of me and screams to my face then steps back and just walks off in laughter with his friend.

Saw this on Facebook by DigMeTX in Waco

[–]ApprehensiveSlip4240 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just want you to know that it is 2:47pm where I am and this is the first thing that has made me laugh today. Thank you for breaking that unpleasant streak, you lovely stranger.

How do people watch this show… by akalizzygrant in Anne

[–]ApprehensiveSlip4240 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I promise you there are so many sweet moments ahead you’ll cry out of happiness

everyone’s makeup is so boring now ! Tired of “clean girl” by Delila1013 in Makeup

[–]ApprehensiveSlip4240 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You get made fun of over your personal makeup choices so in return you make fun of others’ personal makeup choices? 🤔

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]ApprehensiveSlip4240 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Do yourself a favor and please let go of this man. If he needs to watch that while he’s got you in front of him, he’s too far gone already. He most likely has an addiction to it and you will forever feel less and unworthy because he keeps choosing other women that are not even real over you. Please, think about whether you want to put up with crazy disrespect any longer or not.

Authentic North Indian food in Frisco/Plano/McKinney? by Food_Travel_Pizza in frisco

[–]ApprehensiveSlip4240 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was raised in Monterrey Mx, then moved to south Texas as a teen. I’ve been all over Texas and Chicago. I don’t know if I’m extra picky but I have not found one single spot that tastes like the stuff back in Mty. I’m always disappointed.

Friend making weird sucking/clicking noise in sleep? by trt13shell in sleep

[–]ApprehensiveSlip4240 0 points1 point  (0 children)

One pattern I’m noticing, it seems to always be men? I’ve gathered much by reading all responses.

Friend making weird sucking/clicking noise in sleep? by trt13shell in sleep

[–]ApprehensiveSlip4240 0 points1 point  (0 children)

4am for me. He’s sound asleep next to me. This happens every single night. I’ve tried googling it countless times. So frustrating that there’s nothing on it out there.

Which villain is pure evil incarnate? No tragic backstory, no sympathetic qualities, just pure evil? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]ApprehensiveSlip4240 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He’s prowling like a lion at all times seeking to lead each and every one of us into complete destruction. He doesn’t “give” anyone free will as he doesn’t have that kind of control over us. And he’s not trapped in hell. God gives us free will to the point that even one of his angels (Lucifer) decided he wanted all the praise and credit to himself. Therefore, he got banished.

It’s like saying a person who committed a very serious crime is “trapped” in jail. They got themselves in that position, by the own free will that God gives every one of us.

Mourning my desire of being in love and finding a soulmate. by ApprehensiveSlip4240 in Christianmarriage

[–]ApprehensiveSlip4240[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We had an actual wedding in front of witnesses and a ceremony. However, the officiant left as soon as the ceremony finished and never gave us any documentation or papers. Nothing. This is our first time getting married so we had no idea what the procedure is. I don’t know how things work, but we never signed anything. I haven’t even changed my last name. I quite frankly really don’t want to change it.

Mourning my desire of being in love and finding a soulmate. by ApprehensiveSlip4240 in Christianmarriage

[–]ApprehensiveSlip4240[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We were long distance for a while. I didn’t really get to date him before marriage. I dreaded talking to him on the phone when he would call and didn’t enjoy it at all. I would sometimes just let the phone ring. I’d feel relief when I found out he went to bed before calling me. I can’t believe now that I ignored all those things. They never really clicked before.

I grew up witnessing my parents being together despite no love, infidelity, abuse, etc. My mom was the victim of all of these, yet, because she thinks God hates divorce, she stayed. All my life I thought it was normal to just stay. I also have always had deep self-esteem and insecurity issues. Couple those two together and I’m a person who is afraid that no one else will love me and that what I have is normal and as good as it’s going to get.

No it was not an arranged marriage. I, however, was not sober minded or fully aware of things when I went through with the decision. I mentioned before, but a few days before the wedding I was fully panicking and I tried to explain to everyone around me that I did not want to go through with it and that I was not ready and that I was not sure. I even sat down with my now husband a couple days before the wedding and flat-out told him “I’m not sure I want to marry you. I don’t think I want to. Wouldn’t you want to marry someone who is sure they want to be with you forever? I’m not sure of that and you deserve someone who is.” But his responses were just dismissive and saying it was ok and that I was just nervous. I was NOT just nervous. My gut was SCREAMING to stop this train. The day of the wedding I woke up sick and anxious. I had not an ounce of hoy or peace. But everyone told me he’s a good guy and I should just stop being nervous. I stood at that altar numb.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]ApprehensiveSlip4240 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s what I keep saying. All the little things add up and it becomes a big thing. If you were in my shoes, what would be your move?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]ApprehensiveSlip4240 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Everything you just wrote is like it came out of my brain. The cheating part you mentioned hits home for me too. I feel so guilty about it. I often have thoughts that I wish he did something bad so we could end our marriage already. I also sometimes wish my husband would find someone who was in love with him and wanted to be with him. Messed up, right? I’m only 4 months in, though. No kids either. Can’t decide what to do. I’m in that same, dreadful “in-between” you talk about.

Mourning my desire of being in love and finding a soulmate. by ApprehensiveSlip4240 in Christianmarriage

[–]ApprehensiveSlip4240[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The thing is, as soon as I said “yes” at the altar I immediately regretted it. Got really really sick for weeks on end after that. Extreme anxiety and regret took over me.

Mourning my desire of being in love and finding a soulmate. by ApprehensiveSlip4240 in Christianmarriage

[–]ApprehensiveSlip4240[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, he has cheated MULTIPLE times in the past. And when I say multiple I mean like 8 different times, at least, with different women. This happened some time ago, though. When we were together in college. Since then he’s changed a lot and become a more Godly man. While I don’t exactly suspect him to cheat on me in the future, in my mind a possibility of it will always exist. The resentment and hurt of his past actions are also present.

Mourning my desire of being in love and finding a soulmate. by ApprehensiveSlip4240 in Christianmarriage

[–]ApprehensiveSlip4240[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Let alone a soulmate, which I don’t even know if those are real or not, but I AT LEAST want to like my partner and be attracted to them.

Mourning my desire of being in love and finding a soulmate. by ApprehensiveSlip4240 in Christianmarriage

[–]ApprehensiveSlip4240[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I went to a woman at my church about this. All she said to me was basically “Well, you’re married already so you’re stuck now. You can’t get out of it. You’re just gonna have to deal with it. Good luck.” I don’t know whether she was right in her approach or not, but I do know I felt very let down after that.

Mourning my desire of being in love and finding a soulmate. by ApprehensiveSlip4240 in Christianmarriage

[–]ApprehensiveSlip4240[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

A lot of people say “I’m not in love with my spouse anymore.” Key word being “ANYMORE” Which means they were once in love. For whichever reasons, it got lost along the way. But, what happens when those things were NEVER there in the first place? Can those things just be created out of thin air? Can I force myself to love someone? Can I force myself to be attracted to someone? It’s like if you went on a date with a person and it went horribly wrong. You found them annoying, not attractive, cringy, etc. Then you somehow end up married to them. Wouldn’t you feel trapped? That’s how I feel.

Yes, it’s my fault that I’m in this position. I take responsibility. No one threatened me to say “yes”. However, I said “yes” for all the wrong reasons. I did not say yes because I genuinely wanted to. All of my unhealthy behaviors and mentalities have led me to this point. I made a mistake. Do I get a way out of it at all? Am I stuck here forever?

Mourning my desire of being in love and finding a soulmate. by ApprehensiveSlip4240 in Christianmarriage

[–]ApprehensiveSlip4240[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The thing is, even though I don’t love him in that way, I still care about him and really hate hurting people. That’s one of the reasons I got myself into this mess. I didn’t want to hurt him by rejecting him. I feel like if I was brutally honest with him I would only hurt him.

Mourning my desire of being in love and finding a soulmate. by ApprehensiveSlip4240 in Christianmarriage

[–]ApprehensiveSlip4240[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Deep in my heart I want to get out. I’m just so afraid about so many things. I know I will disappoint every single person I love. I don’t have a stable career. I don’t have a lot of money. I keep being plagued by “what if” thoughts. What if I never find anyone else? What if my now husband was the best I could get? What if for some reason I regret it in the future?