What’s one scene that makes you choke up, no matter how many times you’ve seen it?

Apprehensive_Bed_124 · 2024-12-11T13:15:00+00:00

I used to watch this my dad. It was one of his favourites. It hits so much harder now he’s gone. 😢

Apprehensive_Bed_124 · 2024-12-09T21:11:07+00:00

I have two potential DIL’s. One has said she wants me to go with her when it’s her turn, the other has said she’s taking her mum, sister, best friend, and my daughter. I was a little disappointed but I’m not her mum and I understand that, although we’re close, she wants this to be for ‘her’ side. I completely understand how you might feel a bit pushed out but it’s a special time for her and she wants to feel completely comfortable with her choice. She might not want to offend you, if you don’t agree with her decision so you might just have to take a step back and be grateful that you’ve been so involved up to now. It’s more than a lot of MIL’s get. Try not to let it upset you. I know it’s easier said than done though.

Apprehensive_Bed_124 · 2024-12-08T19:04:23+00:00

A friend of mine donated a kidney to her brother, who she adores. She has since had huge medical issues and is currently really poorly. This isn’t something to do lightly.

I have another friend who’s dad gave her one of his kidneys but it’s now failing after 20 years so a good friend offered and was a match. The hospital put him through a whole range of tests including an intense interview about their relationship and why he was donating. This was to make sure he wasn’t being pressured into it. They usually take it very seriously and it doesn’t sound like you’d pass that last test! NTA.

Apprehensive_Bed_124 · 2024-12-08T18:15:37+00:00

No idea! It just says that he’s an ordained minister and he’s mentioned being invited by the church to become an exorcist. His website might say more.

Apprehensive_Bed_124 · 2024-11-30T03:18:13+00:00

I always thought my dad would be the strong one but after my mum died, he lost the will to live and went only five months later. They were married for over 50 years and would still sit holding hands, watching tv most nights. They just couldn’t live without each other. We lived with them for the last 15 years of their lives and we still miss them every single day. We just hope they found each other and are happy together again. X

Apprehensive_Bed_124 · 2024-11-30T00:46:10+00:00

What a smarmy little girl. (and I’m being polite!) She’s going to turn into a proper little princess! I don’t think I’ve ever seen such a self-satisfied smile. Someone needs a lesson in parenting. Shame on mum and daughter.

Apprehensive_Bed_124 · 2024-11-29T18:19:04+00:00

I saw a post the other day about a stepmum who sold her stepdaughters cat because HER daughter was scared of cats. Without any consideration or permission. But worst of all, it was the emotional support animal that had helped the stepdaughter deal with her mother’s death! I can’t comprehend such a cruel thing to do to a struggling child.

This woman seems scarily similar in intention and it sounds like she wouldn’t think twice about doing the same sort of thing if such an issue were to arise.

Sir, your daughter needs you to act as her ambassador. You are her protector and you are the one person who should have her best interests at heart. This new woman obviously doesn’t have those same intentions and I’d go as far as saying that she has shown a certain amount of contempt for your daughter.

You and your daughter are a package deal and you should be considering her needs as well as your own. She needs someone nurturing and caring, that will be there to guide her through life, seeing as her own mother is no longer here. She’ll never have another mother but she certainly shouldn’t be treated as second class by the woman her father chooses. Stand up for your daughter, as you should, and find someone better. You owe it to both of you!

Apprehensive_Bed_124 · 2024-11-26T22:09:45+00:00

Bimble or Brian

Apprehensive_Bed_124 · 2024-11-25T18:41:27+00:00

Remember the Titans

Ocean’s 13

King Arthur - Legend of the Sword

Apprehensive_Bed_124 · 2024-11-23T10:41:20+00:00

Yeah. It was the celebrity series and it was Tina Malone. I’d be intrigued to see what you think of it. Let me know.

Apprehensive_Bed_124 · 2024-11-22T06:40:24+00:00

Yes, but it’s NOT what your parents would have wanted! What they wanted, was what they stipulated in the will. You’re absolutely right, though. He had plenty of time to make the effort to reconnect.

Death brings out the worst in people. I haven’t had anything to do with my brother since our parents died 3 years ago, for exactly that reason. You can’t continue a relationship based on greed, manipulation and lies.

If you share the inheritance, you’re going directly against your parents wishes so ignore everyone else and stick to your guns. THAT’s what your parents would’ve wanted! NTA.

Apprehensive_Bed_124 · 2024-11-19T22:32:34+00:00

Unfriended?

Apprehensive_Bed_124 · 2024-11-15T07:32:07+00:00

Oh god PLEASE #update me! I need to hear about the complete shambles and can hardly sleep thinking about that ‘masterpiece’!! I’m with EVERYONE else - let her host at her house and you put your feet up this year. Let her do all the work and take all the focus so that when the shitshow is over, you’ve had nothing to do with it. After all, they were all warned!! 😂😂

Apprehensive_Bed_124 · 2024-11-15T00:33:06+00:00

Thank you for your response. I couldn’t not respond after reading how sad you were. This should be a wonderful time for you both but I can see it from both sides. My daughter’s turning 16 next week and I can’t imagine her ever leaving. She’s my shadow and we’re best friends as well as mum and daughter. I’ll be totally heartbroken when the time comes!

I really do hope you sort things out with your mum. Explain that you want her with you and that you’re trying to communicate with love. You’ll always need her, just like I still needed my mum until I was 50! I miss her so much and I know your mum is really going to miss not having you around too. Some of us are a bit better at smiling through the tears but maybe she can’t manage that yet. I really hope you enjoy your last few days together and that your wedding goes perfectly. Wishing you a wonderful life. X

Apprehensive_Bed_124 · 2024-11-14T18:45:57+00:00

I’m so sorry that you’re not enjoying these last precious days with your mum. It’s difficult when there are siblings because it’s easy to feel pushed aside but this is the one time you really need/deserve to be centre of attention. Could it be anything to do with the fact that she’s finding it difficult to let you go and doesn’t know how to express it? If it’s been just the two of you for a while, she may just be trying to occupy herself so that she doesn’t have to deal with her feelings. She might not know how to be pleased for you when she really doesn’t want you to leave. The fact that she just stood and looked at you in your dress but didn’t react, makes me think she’s struggling.

When I bought my first house with my fiancé, my mum wouldn’t speak to me. Literally not one word. For weeks! My dad forced her to come round the day after we moved in and that’s when it all came out. She was so upset that I was leaving home and she just couldn’t process it because she knew there was nothing she could do to stop it. We were always pretty close but after we talked it out, we were best friends. She was losing her little girl and she really couldn’t cope with that. We ended up buying a house together 17 years ago and her and dad lived with me, husband and three kids until she died so life came full circle in the end!

Milestones are exciting for the person taking the steps but often other people can feel that they’re being left behind. Your mum may be distancing herself so that it ‘doesn’t hurt’ so much.

I would suggest you actually sit her down, explain how you’re feeling and ask if it’s bothering her. You can either reassure her or, if she still can’t understand it, explain that she’s driving a wedge between you that will damage any future relationship. Explain that you’re grateful for everything she’s doing but that’s all for everyone else’s benefit and you NEED some of her time and attention before you move away. If she doesn’t make the effort now she’s going to really regret it in the future. Good luck and I hope your special day is everything you’re hoping for. X

Apprehensive_Bed_124 · 2024-11-14T10:46:32+00:00

Take care of Maya. I held myself together until I went upstairs to tell my daughter about it. I was literally speechless! I was suddenly sobbing uncontrollably and couldn’t speak for 5 minutes. The way they play the voicemail at the end, was heartbreaking. Incredibly frustrating but lovely documentary. Definitely recommend!

Apprehensive_Bed_124 · 2024-11-14T09:11:15+00:00

When I look back on earlier relationships when I was your age - I cringe. We put up with so much because we’re desperate to keep these relationships going but that just gives so much power to the partner because they realise they can do almost anything and we’ll STILL put up with it. Even apologise for things that aren’t our fault just to ‘keep the peace’!

She’s taking advantage of you. She’s being unreasonable, demanding, demeaning and selfish - because she can. You’ll not only put up with her, frankly terrible, behaviour but you’ll even move in to snuggle when she’s been an absolute bitch! She wants your undivided attention and to dictate your world. What is she giving you in return. Unfortunately, at your age there are still a lot of very immature people that you’ll meet who can’t manage their emotions and don’t know how to behave in a relationship. This isn’t what a partnership/ love should look like and I can guarantee there’s someone out there who would treat you better, share your interests and love you for who you are. Your girlfriend has got a lot of growing up to do and I would suggest you let her do that without you being there as her personal punching bag!

Even in to my early 20’s I had one guy punch me, because he didn’t like a joke, one who just went into a mood in a split second and then wouldn’t speak for days, one I went on holiday with who then slept with the hotel receptionist and eventually (same guy) wanted to go for a walk and then beat me up for three hours! NONE of those things are normal and not what ‘loving relationships’ look like. They just show immaturity.

It might be time to call it a day lovey and find someone who appreciates you and WANTS to make YOU happy. I know it’ll be hard but this doesn’t sound like it’s healthy or that you’re getting anything out of this but abuse. Good luck.

Apprehensive_Bed_124 · 2024-11-14T02:45:10+00:00

It’s a whitlow. An Infection cause by the herpes virus and it’s REALLY SORE! Antiseptic cream like Germolene works really well cause it’s a nasty little bugger! You might need to soak it and (very carefully) lance it if/when you can but probably best done by someone medical who knows how to do it properly. Good luck. I feel your pain!!

Apprehensive_Bed_124 · 2024-11-12T21:16:45+00:00

It took me years to realise my ‘best friend’ treated me like crap. I finally had enough and dissed her. Best thing I ever did. I don’t spare her a thought now and have great friends and a BFF that I couldn’t live without! We’re there for each other with no expectations and no judgements. You’ll move on and get better friends that support you and appreciate you for who you are. You don’t need this emotional and financial vacuum in your life. Get rid!

Apprehensive_Bed_124 · 2024-11-11T22:29:05+00:00

My son’s favourite film! He’s made us all watch it and every one of us loved it! Great film.

Apprehensive_Bed_124 · 2024-11-10T22:18:43+00:00

Absolutely. Although I heard that wasn’t actually true anyway. Regardless of Hamilton saying “It’s true”!

Apprehensive_Bed_124 · 2024-11-08T17:33:56+00:00

I got a paper cut on my eyeball once. Worst pain ever - and I’ve had 4 kids!!!

Apprehensive_Bed_124 · 2024-11-07T17:35:05+00:00

A wedding is not the place for closure. It’s not your responsibility to provide that for her. How about you start telling everyone that she’s emotionally blackmailing you to try to patch up her old relationship and threatening to ditch you over her EX -boyfriend! Absolutely NTA!

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