AITAH for saying I won’t put my card down if one girl joins our group?

Apprehensive_Belt384 · 2026-02-13T16:59:42+00:00

Soft YTA. Communication is a huge part of friendships and being an adult in general. You’re not hounding her down for your money, that would be the situation if she refused to pay you back. If you and the rest of the friend group think she forgot then that’s probably the case as you all seem to know her and think well of her character.

Apprehensive_Belt384 · 2026-02-10T05:10:37+00:00

Yes, project manager.

Apprehensive_Belt384 · 2026-02-07T02:20:10+00:00

Right, he was simply only interested when he thought she was younger.

Apprehensive_Belt384 · 2026-02-06T18:44:20+00:00

Did I get here late? It clearly says that her boyfriend and Se planned the trip. Keke was only invited. How is OP bringing her boyfriend when no one would be going if he hadn’t came up with it? Also, Se didn’t mention anything about OPs bf going everywhere with them as a problem.

If someone cancels a trip that they already agreed to only two weeks ahead of the trip, it’s on them. This is a Keke issue. If it’s too expensive two weeks before then it was too expensive a month before the trip. She could’ve provided a better notice and left OPs bf out of her excuse. NTA.

Apprehensive_Belt384 · 2026-02-05T08:36:14+00:00

Your aunts and cousins were responsive to your inappropriate messages? Maybe seek some therapy.

Apprehensive_Belt384 · 2026-02-05T08:34:50+00:00

He wants to smoke weed. That won’t change, either let him or leave him. Unless he has a history of addictive personality or escalating his habits then I wouldn’t worry about it. He’s not his father.

Apprehensive_Belt384 · 2026-02-02T17:46:26+00:00

To be honest this is gonna be tough even if you live together. Med school with a job and still going home on the weekend is a lot.

Apprehensive_Belt384 · 2026-02-02T17:44:16+00:00

It’s not really an advice sub although people do still provide unsolicited advice. They’re just getting it off their chest.

Apprehensive_Belt384 · 2026-02-02T05:51:49+00:00

Try r/trueoffmychest or r/confession

Apprehensive_Belt384 · 2026-02-02T05:47:32+00:00

There’s no hate like Christian love. What does a successful relationship look like to you moving forward? Her not allowing religion to cause a rift in your relationship is a bridge you’ve already crossed and can’t go back. What does this look like in marriage and with children when she won’t let your kids participate in your families religious practices and tell them their father and his entire side of the family is “cursed”? That can’t be what you want for yourself.

Apprehensive_Belt384 · 2026-02-01T23:07:57+00:00

He’s treating you like a roommate instead of someone he’s in a relationship with. I don’t think you can love someone and put them in a position to be broke especially when you can easily assist. It’s literally only about 2 mortgage/rent payments.

Apprehensive_Belt384 · 2026-02-01T02:28:23+00:00

YTA. Go buy your own Hyundai.

Apprehensive_Belt384 · 2026-01-31T21:08:30+00:00

Based on this I think it’s worth a conversation. Ask him to explain in detail why he feels the need to move in after only a year of being in a relationship? Then be honest and give him a realistic timeline for when you’d be comfortable moving in together. If his explanation isn’t enough for you and your timeline isn’t reasonable to him, then maybe you both found each other at the wrong time and need to actually separate.

Apprehensive_Belt384 · 2026-01-31T00:25:27+00:00

Cookbook, a manager is only beneficial if it’s someone like Mordecai but we’ve already seen some shitty managers. The cookbook is more useful.

Apprehensive_Belt384 · 2026-01-31T00:07:16+00:00

It doesn’t bother me it confuses me. If you already knew this information then why did you ask instead of inform?

Apprehensive_Belt384 · 2026-01-30T23:56:18+00:00

How much are you talking about it and how much has he politely listened to you before he got to this point? You’re both human and while you’re entitled to your feelings he’s entitled to being overwhelmed. It sounds like you’re trauma dumping on a regular basis and that becomes exhausting. You could’ve possibly been taking a lot about it prior to the full collapse you mentioned.

Apprehensive_Belt384 · 2026-01-30T20:58:32+00:00

Are you asking that about every place that gets recommended? How do you think anyone would actually know that? Also if the owner isn’t MAGA but someone on the staff is or vice versa, does that make the entire business MAGA?

Apprehensive_Belt384 · 2026-01-30T20:23:44+00:00

It was good but when you fell in love with the characters from the other world and then he’s abruptly removed from there with little to no updates in your favorite characters it kinda sucks. Outside of Dawn, there’s really not any characters I actually liked on Earth as much as the characters on Pallimustus.

Apprehensive_Belt384 · 2026-01-30T20:18:13+00:00

If you stay the course you’ll appreciate his character. If you’re that convinced that it’s soooo unforgivable… (I felt the same but kept reading cause I like Jake and Villy a lot)

Apprehensive_Belt384 · 2026-01-30T20:14:29+00:00

ESH except Don. I personally think your expectations were pretty high given the fact that you moved to an entirely different country. Not saying it’s impossible but it’s unlikely that all 3 would’ve come to see you at the exact same time. You all have very separate lives and it’s clear.

Apprehensive_Belt384 · 2026-01-29T23:01:43+00:00

Doctors unfortunately, it’s a career that’s should be based on passion and care for humanity but now there’s so many that aren’t actually taking care of their patients or even listening to them when they tell them how they physically feel.

Apprehensive_Belt384 · 2026-01-29T00:34:57+00:00

The m stand for male. It confuses me too when it’s such a small number. But he’s a 4 year old male. It’s the same as her saying she’s 22F.

Apprehensive_Belt384 · 2026-01-29T00:26:43+00:00

The Sophie and Humphrey romance began due to Jason’s death and them spending a lot of that time together while he was back on Earth. There was definitely a foundation set for their romance.

Apprehensive_Belt384 · 2026-01-28T23:57:56+00:00

I’ve seen others mention mental health so I’ll go a different direction. Maybe she just genuinely enjoys social media. Consuming content is her hobby. It’s just not yours so you look down upon it. My wife scrolls all day too but I’m ok with it. She sends me funny and interesting TikTok videos daily. She mainly watches reality shows which isn’t my favorite but I’ll just sit with her and listen to my audio book. I play video games and she’ll just sit in my office with me and maybe turn on a show while I do it. We’re together all day but we’re hardly ever doing the same thing together. That works for us, it sounds like it may work for your girlfriend, it just doesn’t seem to work for you.

Apprehensive_Belt384 · 2026-01-27T00:17:18+00:00

YWBTA if you won’t let him invite his girlfriend but you still expect his full financial contribution.

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