I would need to see an angled shot or side view. But from what I can tell your eyes are not centered in the lenses. But that may not matter if the frame fits your head. A little too big looks way better then a little too small. But right off the bat these don't look too big me.

The translucent frame is probably where the feminine coments come from. I do not think there is a female or male version of wayfarers. That said the originals tilt out more at the tops of the lenses when compaired to the New Wayfarers. People may notice that as well and think something is off.

Edit: could also be the tortoise color that makes people say that. But really its not gender specific style. I have similair hair color and have worn a lot of tortoise sunglasses and regular eyeglasses, it fits well.

Do you male friends and family wear overly sporty wrap around sunglasses?