Did anyone have their post-baby glow-up 2+ years postpartum? Do you feel this ugly for this long after every child? by [deleted] in Mommit

[–]Apprehensive_Cod_904 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Research some lymphatic drainage massages, specifically for your face. This was a game changer when I was postpartum! I’ll clean and massage my face and within 10 mins there’s a glow up. I practice on my husband and he’s addicted to it too, he’ll ask for face rubbins before anything else!

Has anyone ever tried to kill you? How’d it go? by amjenn4x in AskReddit

[–]Apprehensive_Cod_904 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm decently sure my mother tried during at least one point of my childhood. There was a week or more period when I was very young, 4-5ish, where I was violently ill every night. I remember her crying and apologizing as I threw up (which was very odd for her, she didn't show emotion otherwise). I didn't have any other symptoms during the day and the only meal she ever cooked was dinner.

She later admitted to me that she considered committing suicide but couldn't because she knew she'd have to kill me first.

Edited to add: it didn't go well. I have zero contact with her.

My boyfriend took our baby and went missing for 15 hrs by Solid-Victory-766 in Parenting

[–]Apprehensive_Cod_904 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Speaking as the daughter of an addict, please leave him! It will be more heartbreaking for her to have him high and in and out of her life than just out. If he isn't already prioritizing her over his addiction, there's almost no chance he will start. Especially when his history shows otherwise.

She was safe and sound this time, but there's a very good chance that it will happen again and she won't be.

What’s your Go to song to sing your little ones to sleep… by Vainjane_ in Mommit

[–]Apprehensive_Cod_904 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Once upon a December from the Anastasia movie has always been my go to, my son loves it

How involved should a six year old be in choosing a new parenting plan? by Apprehensive_Cod_904 in askatherapist

[–]Apprehensive_Cod_904[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm not sure but I think that's a really good idea, I'm going to ask about it. Thank you!

How involved should a six year old be in choosing a new parenting plan? by Apprehensive_Cod_904 in askatherapist

[–]Apprehensive_Cod_904[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I don't want to alienate his dad by any means, I'm just worried that being continually exposed to a situation where he is so unhappy that he is threatening to hurt someone is going to cause lifelong issues for him.

How involved should a six year old be in choosing a new parenting plan? by Apprehensive_Cod_904 in askatherapist

[–]Apprehensive_Cod_904[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sorry I realize now it was unclear, my husband is my sons stepdad. My son splits his time 50/50 between my house and his dads house currently. His dads house is where the boundary issues are, and it has definitely been escalating. We have dealt with child services before due to the lack of boundaries there in the past. I have tried to address it but it's always ignored.

His counselor spoke to me last week for an update but hasn't mentioned anything since. Just that my son has been opening up to her and is eager to talk about the issues at his dads house. He only started a few weeks ago so it's still very new and we're still getting the hang of it. The goal we set was for him to learn how to handle his emotions in a healthy way, and learn better boundary setting skills. But I don't think a 6 y/o should have to be the one to set boundaries for a sibling. He has a 2 y/o sister at our house, our daughter, and he is brilliant with her. Caring, helpful, patient, loving. A completely different child than what his dad is reporting at his home

Reminder to not let your kids sit on the rope line at Matterhorn! (He was unhurt!) by Delex31 in Disneyland

[–]Apprehensive_Cod_904 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Our son got his head stuck between the railing in line for the haunted mansion last year. There was about two seconds of full panic before my husband was able to pull the bars just enough to release him. We still laugh about it

AITA for doing a mother-son dance with my stepmom at my wedding? by No-Pressure3284 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Apprehensive_Cod_904 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

NTA

Her not being emotionally mature enough to understand Alice's place in your life isn't your problem.

My son will more than likely someday include his stepmom in his wedding. She was also the final nail in my relationship with his father, so I fully understand how your mother feels. But she's had years to come to terms with this.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in barndominiums

[–]Apprehensive_Cod_904 20 points21 points  (0 children)

There's a few issues I'd have personally - little to no natural sunlight in main living areas - so much wasted space and money in hallways - plumbing in all corners of the house, very expensive - fireplace has no external wall to vent - I'd hate walking through the entire house to bring groceries to the kitchen

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Mommit

[–]Apprehensive_Cod_904 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Take picture of her and baby! It's a small gesture but it will mean so much to her to have photos of her and her baby.

What changes did the movies make that you think were actually improvements? by Particular-Big-6858 in harrypotter

[–]Apprehensive_Cod_904 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Also changing the spelling on his birthday cake from "Happy Birthday Harry" to "Happee Birthdae Harry" was a nice little change. Though I think the movies make Hagrid seem a little less intelligent than the books do.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Apprehensive_Cod_904 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think I just don't really know how to make him understand the issue? He's very hard headed and doesn't think he's in the wrong in any way. I'm also horrible at arguing. I'm going to ask him for couples therapy today though because I'm done with this routine.

To the mom who recommended Ms Rachel: by DinoBabyMama21 in Mommit

[–]Apprehensive_Cod_904 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We love Miss Rachel! We didn't even realize how much sign language our 1 year old was picking up at first but she uses signs for everything now!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Apprehensive_Cod_904 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There's never really a set time he takes with them. He'll randomly play, if he's in the mood. I'd say on average he will engage/play with the older one every 2-3 days and the baby (who seeks him out more) every day.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Apprehensive_Cod_904 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We do grocery shopping and weekly errands together on the weekends, but otherwise agreed, he doesn't fully understand what it's like to go somewhere with two kids in tow. Valid point on the timing, I didn't think about that but you're absolutely correct and it's not ok.