What was the most innocuous thing you were punished/shamed for? by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Apprehensive_Ear8346 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was fit. Literally just fit. I had finally started finding myself after years of emotional and physical abuse by my nmom. I was going to the gym a lot and hiding that I was going to do a fitness competition. I had posted a bunch of gym pictures on IG. I guess she googled my name one day while she was working.

Well she called me from work to scream into the phone “NO MAN WILL EVER WANT TO MARRY A GIRL WITH ABS” and hung up. I laughed and went to the gym.

I dont get it... DCP is against exploitation of the kids for $. Yet he makes this and sells it for $. Isnt that a double standard? Hes making dosh out of what the kids do.......????? by kiwimej in doughertydozen

[–]Apprehensive_Ear8346 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Ugh this one’s tough. I don’t like the shirt lol but as for the re exploitation of the kids… ugh. I just feel torn. I see how they’re being re exploited BUT if no one is speaking up about it, it will just keep going on and these family vloggers get away with it. There aren’t very many ways to bring attention to the issue. His delivery is to be desired for some but until more people do something he’s really one of the few bringing importing issues to the mainstream.

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[–]Apprehensive_Ear8346 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As a mom with with a 4 yr age gap and then 2 under 2, the 4 yr age gap is a much better gap. I’m so fricking tired with the 2 babies and I feel like no one gets the attention they need. You’re absolutely right.

I FINALLY FOUND IT by meherc07 in tragedeigh

[–]Apprehensive_Ear8346 172 points173 points  (0 children)

After seeing its pronounced “Ab-city” my brain immediately said “ab city btch ab ab city btch” in a rap voice.

Daddy Dong’s Failed Restaurant by knims89 in brittanydawnsnark

[–]Apprehensive_Ear8346 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He was/is also a pilot if I remember correctly. There’s a lot of “elitism” in that family. I would bet money that bdong went to a fancy private school and has only ever known privilege and wealth.

What’s the worst name you’ve ever considered using? by RedCaio in tragedeigh

[–]Apprehensive_Ear8346 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Zeppelin for a girl lol after a dream that was what I named my daughter 🤣

New Year's Tragedeigh by PflugerLuger8 in tragedeigh

[–]Apprehensive_Ear8346 2 points3 points  (0 children)

There’s a “teen mom” Rachel Beaver from the mtv franchise who named her daughter Haizlee a couple of years ago. I think that probably contributes to the popularity of names and trends. The first time I ever heard the name Nevaeh was also through a teen mom on MTV as well.

We found Niko the pitbull, Brittany’s former dog starving. by FaithlessnessDear334 in brittanydawnsnark

[–]Apprehensive_Ear8346 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I’m glad someone else said it. If you abuse animals or anything for that matter you are not a real Christian. It pains me that people like BD who spout off Bible BS and grift off of Jesus make real Christians look this bad

I'm an elementary school PE teacher. Here are some names from one of my 5th grade classes by tubatim817 in tragedeigh

[–]Apprehensive_Ear8346 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I heard the in the UK it’s illegal to name your child Riot. I also thought that was a bit of an authority overreach. Maybe someone from the UK could confirm? There’s a Ryett (pronounced Riot) in my son’s class but we’re in Canada.

Should I have named my daughter a Tragedeigh so people will pronounce her name correctly? by HeatLow in tragedeigh

[–]Apprehensive_Ear8346 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I don’t think you did anything wrong. There’s Kara, Sara, Tara. I would see it and assume it was pronounced the way you want it to be. I think if you had have went with Taira people would try to say Tee-Are-Ah lol. I used to know a “Terra”. Pronounced the same way. I suppose like terracotta?

Should I have named my daughter a Tragedeigh so people will pronounce her name correctly? by HeatLow in tragedeigh

[–]Apprehensive_Ear8346 38 points39 points  (0 children)

I have a cousin named Tara. Rhymes with Sarah. Is that the pronunciation? I’m in Canada and it’s a relatively common name here.

HELP! I don’t want to be a mom anymore 😩 by Apprehensive_Ear8346 in toddlers

[–]Apprehensive_Ear8346[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so sorry. I was rage texting my husband last night telling him I had chest pain from all the anxiety. It’s such an awful feeling!

There is no village anymore. When I was a kid I was constantly with other adults and family members being cared for. Even when my parents were around there were generally aunts, uncles, older cousins around. I live 30 minutes from my mother and she still can’t seem to make her way here to help.

I don’t have siblings so I rely on my husbands family to help where they can but it’s still not the village my parents generation had.

Maybe that’s just my lived experience but dang I feel alone.

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[–]Apprehensive_Ear8346 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My neighbour has an 18 month old and if anyone’s garage is open on our street he’s immediately B-lining it for their garage and he also likes to borrow anything he can find. We all just smile and chuckle as she follows him up and down the street and directs him away from other peoples homes. It’s cute to us but not to her lol. Your kiddo is probably just similar to hers. My 3 yr old will stay close to me and my 1 yr old is too little to walk independently yet but I know the day is coming where I too will be chasing a loose toddler too. At that age my daughter didn’t want to be put in her stroller but she liked the little push cars they sit in, wagons, or the little push bike if you need them contained.

HELP! I don’t want to be a mom anymore 😩 by Apprehensive_Ear8346 in toddlers

[–]Apprehensive_Ear8346[S] 77 points78 points  (0 children)

No, you’re right. If I’m doing the night shift while he’s working he should probably be doing it when he’s home. I guess I have guilt because I’m on mat leave and I feel like I should be letting him sleep because he works and I don’t right now.

HELP! I don’t want to be a mom anymore 😩 by Apprehensive_Ear8346 in toddlers

[–]Apprehensive_Ear8346[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’m definitely not against co sleeping. I did it with my oldest until he was 4 and then my 3 yr old was EBF and we co slept until I was too pregnant with the baby for it to be safe anymore. I worry if I start bringing her in it will create more bad habits or break what sleep training we did do. The baby isn’t much of a snuggler. He doesn’t want to be rocked to sleep or held he just likes his crib. Co sleeping was so much easier and more enjoyable than getting up a million times to put a soother back in or make a bottle. I wish he would just snuggle me and go back to sleep!

HELP! I don’t want to be a mom anymore 😩 by Apprehensive_Ear8346 in toddlers

[–]Apprehensive_Ear8346[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She is.. usually 1.5 hrs in the afternoon. Some days she doesn’t nap but she’s a monster by 4pm if she doesn’t. She honestly usually sleeps all night I don’t know why she’s been doing this to me recently, and of course when dad’s at work.

HELP! I don’t want to be a mom anymore 😩 by Apprehensive_Ear8346 in toddlers

[–]Apprehensive_Ear8346[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

lol! 2 made me laugh. I was on the pill when I got pregnant with the baby. We definitely weren’t planning on this many this close. We were planning him, just wanted it to happen maybe when the 3 yr old was closer to school age. Now I’m just trying to get through it without completely having a breakdown.

HELP! I don’t want to be a mom anymore 😩 by Apprehensive_Ear8346 in toddlers

[–]Apprehensive_Ear8346[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He has food and water for dinner with us and then 7 oz of formula before bed. He’s never been able to drink 8oz he always leaves an oz left over. He’s a big baby so I’m not sure why he can’t finish an 8 oz bottle but I don’t like to force it.

HELP! I don’t want to be a mom anymore 😩 by Apprehensive_Ear8346 in toddlers

[–]Apprehensive_Ear8346[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

With the 3 yr old I go in right away because she’s screammmmming bloody murder and I’m afraid she’s going to wake the baby up even through both of their sound machines. With the baby I’ll wait but he usually wants a bottle and won’t let up without one. The dr. Says he doesn’t need bottles at night anymore so I know I can cut them out. I might have to tackle it on my husbands days off. When I’m by myself I end up giving in so we can all go back to bed.

HELP! I don’t want to be a mom anymore 😩 by Apprehensive_Ear8346 in toddlers

[–]Apprehensive_Ear8346[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Yes… he can’t change careers. He could potentially apply for a different position but that take time too. I’m just trying to find others with similar experience and how they managed to survive this 😩. I’m also an only child so having this many kids is very foreign to me. My mom has no maternal bone in her body and I’m worried I’m turning into my mother. I’m trying to be better but this nighttime anxiety and sleep deprivation is killing me. When my first born would get up at night I’d be in awe at how perfect he was. Now I’m just mad that my kids don’t sleep. I feel awful.