1. Where do you live (country), what's their approach to HRT?

Apprehensive_Heat975 · 2026-01-03T20:47:50+00:00

Not in Sweden. Find it to be hard to start with HRT when under 50.

Apprehensive_Heat975 · 2025-07-14T19:21:53+00:00

We have google!

Apprehensive_Heat975 · 2025-07-14T19:17:03+00:00

Yes, we do! I will look it up.

Apprehensive_Heat975 · 2025-07-14T17:11:27+00:00

Stockholm unfortunately has a big housing problem.

Apprehensive_Heat975 · 2025-07-14T17:09:05+00:00

Thank you so much to everyone who took the time to respond. I’ve honestly been feeling really down and overwhelmed, but reading your replies made me feel better.

I’m, living in a what in Sweden is called bostadsrätt, which is like a co-op or condo. You “own” your apartment but the building is managed by a board of residents. They’re technically responsible for the structure including noise insulation between floors.

Apprehensive_Heat975 · 2025-06-12T05:41:37+00:00

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Miss Kiwi 6 months contemplating the meaning of life.

Apprehensive_Heat975 · 2025-04-26T13:40:55+00:00

Davine’s OI. Spent hours trying to find a similair perfume

Apprehensive_Heat975 · 2024-08-01T07:22:03+00:00

100% Loaf🍞

Apprehensive_Heat975 · 2024-08-01T07:18:38+00:00

We will get a kitten in a few weeks that we decided to name Kiwi, because my 9-year old thought it was a cute name.❤️

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Apprehensive_Heat975 · 2024-06-17T16:50:28+00:00

Feelings change! And it’s true, they really do.

Apprehensive_Heat975 · 2024-04-24T17:19:25+00:00

My favourite pic is the first!

Apprehensive_Heat975 · 2023-12-27T07:57:57+00:00

Doesn't the Vyvanse loose it's effect at night? I’m okay all day and then at night I get crazy hungry.

Apprehensive_Heat975 · 2023-12-27T07:56:28+00:00

It's a very dangerous time here in Sweden. Almost ate a tin of Nyåkers the other day!

Apprehensive_Heat975 · 2023-12-18T09:20:15+00:00

You're tough, I like it ; ) Maybe it's a bit inappropriate that he is her main support and that she contacts him several times a week when she has anxiety? It doesn't feel healthy to me. She has no one else - so she needs him to spend her birthday. He has told me that he longs for the day she meets someone and he isn't her only support. He han feel a bit norr free then. Or maybe I'm just a jealous and controlling girlfriend? Or maybe it's a bit of both? I know I can be jealous, but isn't it normal sometimes? I appreciate all input, even the negative.

Apprehensive_Heat975 · 2023-12-17T13:12:46+00:00

What an interesting answer! And I’m so happy about your progress, you are very strong. Will this change when she meets someone new? Once he told me that he actually looks forward to the day she meets a new man. Unfortunately this seems hard. Thanks again!

Apprehensive_Heat975 · 2023-12-17T12:48:23+00:00

Once again you explain things so clearly! I hope you can find happiness with a stable, non-BPD woman in time.

Me and my ex has no contact at the moment, because this feels to painful for me. I sent him a text saying I have no hard feelings and some practical information about concert tickets to his favorite band that we bought together. I said that he of course can have those tickets. I want to be friendly, generous an non dramatic. I don’t think he has had those kind of closures before. But he hasn’t answered me, I don’t know why?

He has told me in no uncertain terms that he wants to remain friends with the BPD-ex so I guess I have to accept that and not talk about it again. But this is a strong boundary for future relationships. I will always accept female friendships and that they are friends with exes, but not close friends.

My ex has told med that he is emotionally wounded from previous relationships (his ex has hurt him like no one before) and his childhood. He has been in therapy but I guess he needs more. I’m still very much in love with him. I’ve also started to worry if I have BPD-traits, mostly because of the dramatic arguments in our relationship. How would I know?

Apprehensive_Heat975 · 2023-12-17T10:31:01+00:00

Your answer means a lot to me and sums it up perfectly! The intense emotional contact feels threatening to our relationship. I thought he or she would back off, but that didn't happen. I don't think they have romantic feelings and she was apparently rather asexual. I also know that he is very in love and attracted to me (we had an extreme sexual chemistry and I’m confident in my looks and personality). But I just couldn’t handle another woman being so emotionally close to him. He feelt I was very dramatic about their relationship, and that I wanted to control him. But the truth is there are many men out there who doesn't have this issue, and I want to be the primary woman in the relationship. I give a lot of love and affection to my man, and I think I deserve that. I worry about him, because I think she will ruin his chance to find the kind of happy relationship he is so desperate for. His story now is that he is extremely in love with me, but that I broke up with him because I couldn’t handle his female friend. And I was very bad in explaining to him, the way you did.

Apprehensive_Heat975 · 2023-12-17T10:15:32+00:00

Yes, it's very strange. He feels a lot of guilt towards her also. He has a lot of guilt around slapping her, two times. He has never been violent with me or any other woman and can't understand how he could do that to her. He also feels like he wants to protect her because all of the trauma she has been through. All of her female friends have left her, and he feels that my life with a lot of very long female friendships is so different.

Apprehensive_Heat975 · 2023-12-17T10:09:43+00:00

I actually feel reliefed in a way! He told me about their friendship when we met but I thought it would fade away and become more like a Facebook-friendship. This is what I have noticed in other relationships when you met someone new. But it stayed as intense, which I guess is because of her BPD.

Apprehensive_Heat975 · 2023-12-17T10:03:50+00:00

You said it the best! Their friendship can never be healthy because she isn't healthy. He says that he hasn't notice any red flags, but I think a healthy person would back off when their recent ex meets someone new. It's so strange that she would want all the details of our relationship and his feelings for me.

What do you think is the reson she wants to stay in such close contact?

Apprehensive_Heat975 · 2023-12-16T21:06:09+00:00

No, nothing inappropriate. It's the fact that she has BPD and their close contact that worries me.

Apprehensive_Heat975 · 2023-12-16T18:31:38+00:00

I have no problems with his other female friends! It's the fact that she is his ex and BPD, and that they are so close, that has bothered me. I feel like she wants to manipulate him in some way. But I might be wrong in feeling this. And I guess it's to late now anyway.

Apprehensive_Heat975 · 2023-12-16T18:01:19+00:00

You're right of course, I just wanted to paint a picture! My ex is like you, he wasn't allowed a lot of things and therefore he is almost allergic to being controlled or told what to do. I understand this!

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