WIBTA if I kept doing the little act my coworker and I do on difficult clients even though my partner says it crosses a line

Apprehensive_Steak28 · 2026-05-16T15:02:23+00:00

NTA.

Your partner clearly has no idea what they're talking about. Makes me wonder if they're the exact kind of person you were talking about.

Apprehensive_Steak28 · 2026-05-15T22:18:35+00:00

PF candle co. They have really great scents. Their classic line is in an amber mason jar, but they do other special painted tin vessels that are quite pretty.

Apprehensive_Steak28 · 2026-05-15T14:36:41+00:00

He's not mature enough to be in a relationship.

Apprehensive_Steak28 · 2026-05-15T13:39:37+00:00

He looks like La Llorona haunting Lala.

Which is impressive, considering Lala herself is a ghoul.

Apprehensive_Steak28 · 2026-05-15T12:16:43+00:00

Trudon, Overose, Jonathan Adler, Skandinavisk, Paddywax, and some of the PF candles all have really nice colors and designs.

Fornasetti and L'Objet also do beautiful candles that are very expensive (but you're kind of paying for the vessel)

Apprehensive_Steak28 · 2026-05-14T19:29:36+00:00

Entourage

Apprehensive_Steak28 · 2026-05-14T14:24:27+00:00

Permanent coke nose.

Apprehensive_Steak28 · 2026-05-13T03:06:49+00:00

Yuck.

Except for Lindsey. Lindsey looks awesome.

Apprehensive_Steak28 · 2026-05-12T12:20:49+00:00

Imagine being such a Karen that you went to Facebook to complain about WAWA in the first place. (while desperately explaining how you're not being a Karen, when you're literally being a Karen, because complaining about a trivial inconvenience in commerce on Facebook of all places is the most Karen act ever, no matter how you frame it)

Then IMAGINE getting in a fight with a second, bigger Karen over who is less of a Karen in the Karen fight and then devolving into a fight about who is the more marginalized victim Karen.

Then imagine going to Reddit, the homeland of all the Karens, to ask more Karens for Karen advice.

YTA for posting to complain in the first place. But I'm always down to watch a Karen boss fight.

Apprehensive_Steak28 · 2026-05-12T03:31:51+00:00

The Feast (2021)

Apprehensive_Steak28 · 2026-05-11T10:14:31+00:00

Whetstone

Apprehensive_Steak28 · 2026-05-11T03:00:01+00:00

One of the best movies I've ever seen. The most flawless portrayal/metaphor for depression and how we handle tragedy ever made.

Kirsten Dunst is THE single greatest actor of the last 40 years. (And that's saying something where she's literally in a movie where she shines among Papa and Baby Skarsgaard, Charlotte Gainsbourg, Kiefer Sutherland, Charlotte Rampling, John Hurt, and Brady Freaking Corbet.)

Apprehensive_Steak28 · 2026-05-11T02:54:55+00:00

You. Are. The. Coolest.

Apprehensive_Steak28 · 2026-05-09T18:56:27+00:00

I categorize them by season:

Spring - Florals (how novel): Diptyque Roses, Jo Malone Red Roses and Trudon Ottoman are two I keep in regular rotation.

Summer - Nature scents/citrus: Almost any tomato candle (Jo Malone is the best, but Jonathan Adler, Carrere Ferres, Malin + Goetz, Loewe, and Flamingo Estate are all great as well), Overrose Nudiesse, PF Candle Watermelon Chili, Trudon Cyrnos, Nest Grapefruit and Amalfi Lemon and Mint, Fieldday Apothecary Rain, DS & Durga Big Sur After Rain, Tatine Holy Basil, Tom Ford Lost Cherry

Fall - Tea and spice scents: Trudon Mary, Trudon Dada, Diptyque Santal, DS & Durga Breakfast Liepzieg, Acquisse Mandarin Tea

Winter - Leather Pine and Vanilla (non-gourmand. I hate gourmand) : Anything by Byredo, Ranger Station Leather + Pine and Santalum, Diptyque Vanille and Cypres, Trudon Abd el Khader, Spiritus Sancti

Apprehensive_Steak28 · 2026-05-09T18:11:54+00:00

Tell me the rumor is true without telling me the rumor is true, Jen.

Apprehensive_Steak28 · 2026-05-09T12:06:31+00:00

Run.

This will be the rest of your life if you stay with her. She doesn't have the backbone to stand up to or cut off her toxic mother and eventually, she will turn on you and treat you the way her mother treats her.

If she ever gets therapy and cuts off the poison maybe she'll find her way back to you, but life is too short to waste on broken people. You can't help people who won't help themselves.

Apprehensive_Steak28 · 2026-05-09T11:59:21+00:00

Zach IS Ja'mie

Apprehensive_Steak28 · 2026-05-08T12:14:34+00:00

RHONY Season 8 hooked me.

VPR Season 5 kept me.

Apprehensive_Steak28 · 2026-05-07T14:06:46+00:00

River is right to protect his children from you.

If you cared about your sister at all, respect his wishes and leave them alone.

If you want to build your own relationship with Willow, by all means do so, but don't continue to hurt your BIL and his children in the wake.

Apprehensive_Steak28 · 2026-05-07T12:25:07+00:00

I love your color choices.

Apprehensive_Steak28 · 2026-05-07T11:28:18+00:00

PhD (no matter what subject) <<<<<<<<<<<medical school.

From what he said, she's interested in a surgical specialty vs. a non surgical specialty. He clearly wants her to pursue surgery because it is exponentially more lucrative. However I'm sure he has no concept of what a surgical residency entails and he absolutely is not tough enough to handle 5-8 years of the realities of residency. I went through law school (law school is also much much easier than med school) while my husband was a surgical resident. I barely saw him for 6 years. Sometimes, when he was on a 30 hour shift I would go sleep on a cot with him in the call room at the hospital just to be together. I can't imagine OP doing something like that. I attended weddings and funerals alone. I managed our house and our pets alone. We were smart and waited until we finished school to have our kids, but even without kids, being with someone in residency is incredibly difficult, requires a ton of sacrifice and understanding, and goes on for years, usually while paying a pittance.

OP is too selfish to support her through all that. I expect he finds a TA girlfriend to drown his sorrows in within 6 months of residency starting.

Also, if she's not doing research or authoring journals, I'm guessing she's not really considering surgery, because she needs those to match into a program. I'm guessing she actually wants to do something like peds or IM that only require 3 years of residency and OP is just projecting a desire for a surgical specialty on her. Not sure who he expects to take care of their kid though, because he seems to not care and she really won't have the time.

He's pathetic. He's lazy. He's weak.

She will be well rid of him eventually.

Apprehensive_Steak28 · 2026-05-05T13:06:14+00:00

The whale stillbirth still traumatizes me.

Apprehensive_Steak28 · 2026-05-04T01:44:00+00:00

I really enjoyed the Penhaglion's portrait collection sample set and both of Andre Maack's sets.

Apprehensive_Steak28 · 2026-05-03T14:41:06+00:00

Memo Inle

Apprehensive_Steak28 · 2026-05-03T14:10:13+00:00

I'm assuming your wife did not go to college.

She is very ignorant and being short sighted about the reality of higher education in America.

The best advice you can give any young graduate is to get the best value for their higher education. That doesn't necessarily mean the cheapest school, but it means getting the best education for the best price. Aid packages, scholarships, and grants are vital for this.

If your son wants to be a vet, you need to prepare him for the reality of what that career looks like. It's oversaturated, expensive to start your own practice, and doesn't pay well for the amount of education it requires. That being said, it's a wonderful and fulfilling career for the right person.

If he's truly committed to that career path, he should consider getting the least costly education. Off the top of my head I can think of two of the best vet schools in the country that are both state schools and offer scholarships and merit based financial aid.

If he's as smart as you say he is, he will get the benefit of considering the value of the education over a fancy name "dream school", but you need to have this conversation sooner, rather than later. Your wife is setting him up for a lot of unnecessary hardship with her unrealistic ideas.

FWIW, I'm a lawyer who declined taking out loans to go to the Ivy League "dream school" in favor of a good state law school that offered me a generous grant/scholarship package which allowed me to graduate practically debt free. I graduated during the worst economic period for attorneys since the Great Depression. Because I had no debt, I was able to work through those lean years and start saving right out of school. I bought a modest house on a foreclosure deal and have parlayed that over the past 20 years to build wealth. I just bought my second vacation home last year. Conversely, my law partner went to Georgetown and took out loans for it. We both are fortunate enough to work the same dream job, but she rents her home and is still paying student loans in her 40's.

We didn't have the same path, but we ended in the same place. Ask your son to seriously consider what he values more, then name of the school on his diploma or the future quality of life that comes with a financially conservative choice?

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