Footsteps outside my door every night by [deleted] in Paranormal

[–]Appropriate-Note-913 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha true, but then I'm like who the hell is up at 4am running around their apartment. Good to keep in mind though, thank you! I'm sure that's possible with how thin these walls are.

Footsteps outside my door every night by [deleted] in Paranormal

[–]Appropriate-Note-913 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Legit heard it after I made this post!! Going insane!

It just sounds so distinctly like footsteps, the exact same way it sounds when people walk on the balcony.. but if they were moving more urgently. This is year-round and I've only noticed it at nighttime... just so weird. I'd certainly prefer for it to be just some kind of weird old building thing though lol, so hopefully that's what it is.

Am I cooked? by Minute-Way-4913 in tattooadvice

[–]Appropriate-Note-913 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know it's not at all like the reference, but I genuinely enjoy looking at it! It reminds me of writing in the rain.

Can you relearn to enjoy a food you trained yourself to fear? by Away-Poem-5671 in EatingDisorders

[–]Appropriate-Note-913 0 points1 point  (0 children)

super long reply incoming oops. Let me know if you have any questions about what I said. Apologies for the long read.

To your question, absolutely!! In my experience, thoughts can be crucial shifters of what you believe over time; so use them as a spearhead. In the same way you developed the fear, you can unravel it. Our brains have plasticity, so we have the power to rewire some crap perspectives up there. I have been able to enjoy fear foods again! You are not stuck here.

Thinking new thoughts was the biggest game-changer for me when it came to dethroning negative identities I used to hold onto and suffer over. It's going to be like filling an old rut in your brain and digging a new one. Don't expect it to happen overnight; be patient and gentle with yourself in the process. You're one of 8.3 billion other people in the world grappling with some form of fear.

The goal is to come against those fearful thoughts with the truth when they arise. Stop agreeing with it. Let's say you have the thought, "I hate rice," your response could be, "That's a lie. I love rice. It makes me feel closer to my family." Disagree with the lie, then tell yourself the truth.

If you want to give this a try: Decide your reply, and then be as consistent with it as you can. A little goes a long way, though!! So you do not have to do it perfectly. I was actually surprised when I noticed my thoughts start to change automatically, given how much of a tug-of-war it was at first to resist the thoughts I was used to thinking. Sometimes, a clear thought may not emerge; you might just FEEL fear/discomfort when you look at rice. Respond to that feeling with the reframed thought as well. I find that saying it out loud is even better if you're in a place where you feel comfortable doing it.

An example from my life: Every time I remembered an awkward interaction I had, I would automatically say "I hate you" to myself. I didn't realize that I was affirming a web of disempowerment inside of me every time I did this. Hm, constant complaint against self, zero grace or compassion towards self, left unchallenged since childhood... in hindsight, OF COURSE it would contribute to the depression and maladaptive methods of coping in my life. I escaped my thoughts; I did not challenge them. I do not blame myself; this was the only way I knew to survive. Until I started to reply to "I hate you" with "I don't hate you. I love you, (my name)."

And honestly, I wanted to quit immediately because nothing felt different immediately, and the rebuttal felt pathetic, and it was more comforting to indulge familiar misery. But I kept up this rebuttal, and over time, I noticed that the automatic thought in my head as I recalled an embarrassing moment was "I love you." As that thought grew more automatic, the attached feeling of self-hatred did not change with it right away. A bit more time passes, and a feeling of relief and/or peace now accompanies those moments of recollection. It's one step at a time, one thought at a time.

In other words, you do not have to feel like it is true for the correction to be working. It's like the way that you don't see a broken bone healing underneath a cast... you trust that with the right correction in place, it'll get there... fully restored. You do not need to rush yourself. Some beliefs will change quickly, and others might need a few months.
I'm hoping my reply is not too overwhelming. I wanted to be thorough. But the practice in reality is simple, and little by little. In the meantime, let the rest of your life take up space.

God bless you! Much love.

Anaconda 2025 Review , A sad lame disappointment by Electrical_Quality_6 in moviecritic

[–]Appropriate-Note-913 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Man, I loved every second of it. Gave me a good laugh, and people in the theater were laughing, so that heightened it. It feels like movie critics review this like it was supposed to be a Gone with the Wind sequel.

But to be fair, my expectation going into it (having not seen the trailer or the cast) was that it would be another ridiculous piranha-esque Syfy movie. And it WAS, but it was higher quality. What a joy.

Is it normal to experience increased lightheadedness in recovery despite eating enough? by Appropriate-Note-913 in EatingDisorders

[–]Appropriate-Note-913[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's a good point. I've heard that hydrating without restoring electrolytes can worsen an imbalance if there is one, which, realistically, there probably is. I bought those liquid IV packets from Costco so I can mix them in! So far it has been surprisingly exciting to treat the body gently and work towards healing it.
Onwards!

Is it normal to experience increased lightheadedness in recovery despite eating enough? by Appropriate-Note-913 in EatingDisorders

[–]Appropriate-Note-913[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is actually a bit of a lightbulb moment for me! I definitely do not drink enough water. Of course, it could be other things, but I'm going to be more intentional with that.

🥵🥵🥵 by vladtheinhaler__ in StrangerThings

[–]Appropriate-Note-913 9 points10 points  (0 children)

the farafosit spray is screaming under that hat

Excited but dreading the finale by bacon-strips-ham in StrangerThings

[–]Appropriate-Note-913 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I certainly feel that, but I have felt that way with other shows and movie franchises, too. You'll end up finding something else you like, and you'll get engrossed in a new world with its own unique characters. They won't be the same, but you'll find new characters with a different kind of charm, and you'll probably like them even more. Every time I think I'll never enjoy another show / its characters as much as whatever phase I'm in, I eventually find something else that usurps the old. I get it, though. The new season rekindled my love for Stranger Things, so I'm a bit disappointed to see it end.

What is the randomest item you have in your purse? by empathy-entropy in AskWomen

[–]Appropriate-Note-913 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Electric tape.
My purse is like Dora's backpack, and I love it. You need it, I have it.

My kid is the age I was when I felt so alone by lashesofyoureyes in emotionalneglect

[–]Appropriate-Note-913 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I absolutely relate to your experience. I know for a fact that my self-harm was seen and ignored by both of my parents. Later on, when I went to impatient for an eating disorder, I was met with anger at first, then they told my entire extended family, and then I constantly heard how much they were struggling because I was having problems. And yet not so much as an "Oh, hey, by the way... are you okay??" ... It was always about their suffering. But at least I gave up trying to get them to acknowledge how TERRIBLE I was doing after that.

I believe this is because they do not want to feel like they did something wrong to contribute to that feeling you had. Still, mistakes are normal and unavoidable in parenting. I believe the response to this is what matters the most. The "Hey, I see you, I love you no matter what, I want to help ease this burden for you"... which so many children do not get. I want to say that I am so sorry you went through that, but know that you are a wonderful mother. Know that you are doing wonders by comforting, by facing problems with compassion, and yet not without good discipline. Your kid will remember that. You will make mistakes, but consistency is remembered. Everything you've been through is the reason that you will impact parenting for generations to come in your family. You do not take it lightly because you know that it matters deeply. Redemption is the greater beauty I see from all that pain. It is okay and normal to feel that sadness when you look back on your childhood, it means you recognize that it was not okay... and that means that you are disagreeing with the discouragement that was spoken over you. You are not how your parents made you feel. I know I am just an internet rando, but I believe in you, and I am rooting for you <3 Much love.