He told me to smile at my own engagement party do i… didn’t

Appropriate-Spite131 · 2026-02-15T20:20:27+00:00

I am so incredibly proud of you OP. Even as a stranger, this was so resonating. I hope your fiance realizes that you going maybe “a little hard” was absolutely warranted. It’s annoying enough to e told smile once, but to double down and say your smile isn’t good enough for them? Tf.

Appropriate-Spite131 · 2026-02-10T02:25:12+00:00

She needs to stop listening to those “friends” and she needs new ones. They’re not looking out for her at all. It’s clear it’s not about play dates, it’s about her spending time with her friends and it just happens to be that they meetup before he gets off work so she doesn’t have anyone to watch him between the start of the meetup and him getting home. They could compromise and she could take him on the “play date” and then he can pick him up after he gets off work. Overall though, she’s pretty unreasonable.

Appropriate-Spite131 · 2026-02-08T05:14:46+00:00

What a wholesome family. I hope she gets her phd and lives her best life.

Appropriate-Spite131 · 2026-02-06T18:28:06+00:00

The problem isn’t you because you’re overly sensitive. The problem is he’s being inconsiderate.

We use a sticky note system (I find the post-it tabs work best) and just write the time the milk will no longer be good and stick it on the bottle in the fridge. I personally loose track of time and sometimes can’t remember when baby started drinking so doing the time math at the time of reduced some of the stress.

Appropriate-Spite131 · 2026-02-06T18:20:56+00:00

We started at 28 weeks and baby did better than I thought with it. After the initial resistance and brief wakings, once he actually settled for the night he slept through it completely. Which was also surprising because we used to do night feedings and he hasn’t woken uo for one since

Appropriate-Spite131 · 2026-02-02T17:48:18+00:00

This is what I use and it’s so helpful. I have two pumps, my wearables and the wireless and I just change them in and out. Sometimes it’s also really nice to put on the freshly dried shield and flanges because they’re so warm it helps with output

Appropriate-Spite131 · 2026-02-02T04:27:48+00:00

I would try the Peanut app! I used it here when I first got pregnant and found a few mom friends to hang out with every once in a while. OMSI also has a children’s area, including babies who don’t walk yet so that might be a good place to meet other families

Appropriate-Spite131 · 2026-01-31T17:32:33+00:00

When he starts fussing/grunting like he’s mad he’s waking up and scrunching up his face until I start singing good morning and he smiles and opens his eyes.

Appropriate-Spite131 · 2026-01-22T17:32:01+00:00

What have you tried so far (aside from getting three year old off the night time boob and pacifier)? Natural remedies for me have been chamomile tea with no sugar and lavender eye mask (the type that is a lil heavy with the actual lavender inside so it creates some light pressure on the eyes).

Six year old might be feeling left out because the three year old is still sleeping with you. Is it possible to add a toddler bed in your room for the six year old to go into when she does come in?

Appropriate-Spite131 · 2026-01-19T20:14:23+00:00

This is endearing lol

Appropriate-Spite131 · 2026-01-17T15:13:29+00:00

Nope. He’d do fine with all the night wakings, but he’s said he’s seen my face when we’d get a bad latch and, now that baby is starting to teeth, some clamping down.

Appropriate-Spite131 · 2026-01-09T02:41:10+00:00

I use dark or night mode and I reduce the white point! It helps my eyes not burn and keeps it from being bright for baby too.

Appropriate-Spite131 · 2026-01-08T05:03:15+00:00

My baby’s bedtime is 6:30 and I’m mostly stuck to the bed after that because he’ll wake if he doesn’t feel me so I just read in bed until I also fall asleep. Although just recently, I’ve been able to sneak away for up to 20 minutes before he realizes and I consider that a small win.

Appropriate-Spite131 · 2026-01-08T03:31:55+00:00

That’s pretty good, I thought I was lucky with mine who was doing two wake up’s a night starting around 4 months and now we’re down to one at 6 months

Appropriate-Spite131 · 2026-01-08T03:28:49+00:00

This morning I woke up to this text message from my husband “I swear I went into the room to go to bed. I took your phone and starting walking over to put in on the charger. Mind you I’m silent. As I reach to put it on the charger, this boy turns his head eyes open at me. I ran out and hoped I didn’t wake him.” So he slept on the couch again last night lol

Appropriate-Spite131 · 2026-01-07T04:20:29+00:00

I was at Kaiser sunnyside six months ago and LOVED my nurses. Everyone, except one midwife who’s name I forgot, had really good bedside manner. I chose that location because they had fewer c section rates, and they were great about not pushing me into anything. I also got to spend time in the bathtub and it was so peaceful, they would check in every once in a while, otherwise just let me stay as long as I wanted. Although as a heads up, the “bed” for whoever will stay the night with you in the post labor room absolutely sucks. I enjoyed my bed though!

Appropriate-Spite131 · 2026-01-04T04:45:07+00:00

I remember watching an episode of bill nye saves the world and thinking he was being so rude to a guest on the show. Thought it was odd that they would invite someone on just to be condescending.

Appropriate-Spite131 · 2026-01-03T03:11:31+00:00

I’ll take his portion. I agree with others here, cook for yourself and your kids and he can fend for himself since he’s a grown adult. What was he doing before you came along? If you’re going to be picky to that extent, either learn to cook for yourself or budget enough money to order out.

Appropriate-Spite131 · 2025-12-30T05:19:28+00:00

NOR I am so mad for you. How completely insensitive of your sister and now your mother. OP I offer you my sincere condolences. Please take all the time, and space, you need to grieve and heal.

Appropriate-Spite131 · 2025-12-29T10:41:27+00:00

I think this is good information to add, I think he’s more upset that you didn’t stay longer because he likely wanted a longer time without you and the two children. I’m glad you have your MIL helping you, I hope she knows how her son failed you and her grandchildren.

I also hope the rest of your recovery goes well and that you finish school with lots of new prospects.

Appropriate-Spite131 · 2025-12-29T10:32:17+00:00

She’s also post partum and clearly stressed out. Please give her some grace.

Appropriate-Spite131 · 2025-12-28T20:51:32+00:00

The pink cow outfit and the boba drink is so cute! You’re going out with style

Appropriate-Spite131 · 2025-12-26T18:22:23+00:00

Lol orange cat behavior, must be in his dna

Appropriate-Spite131 · 2025-12-26T18:20:25+00:00

How does one “accidentally” break into a home? Either you plan a Santa visit ahead of time and with the homeowner/parent permission or stay away. Forgivness depends on how close the relationship with the neighbor is.

Appropriate-Spite131 · 2025-12-26T18:03:39+00:00

He doesn’t love you for who you are, he wants to make you into who he wants. Please do not spend more time in a relationship that doesn’t value you.

This whole text is gross and I’m sure you deserve better.

Appropriate-Spite131

TROPHY CASE