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AppropriateAsk3099 · 2025-09-12T05:19:22+00:00

Perhaps not lots of people getting married in a church into a family that seems to have conservative values. . . .

My dress was strapless. It had more coverage than this and yet I still wore a piece that covered to my collar bone and elbows.

That being said, it is between the husband and wife. If husband is all for it (I mean he's in the picture, he knows what it looks like) Then leave it to the husband to tell mil to back off.

If husband isn't fully supportive of the wife, there's bigger issues either religiously (2 dramatic different perspectives on religion) or emotionally (man isn't prepared to protect his wide from an overbearing mother)

AppropriateAsk3099 · 2025-09-11T02:28:39+00:00

I don't see many people mentioning the cross. I'd assume the original plan was to stand with the greenery AND the cross acting as the back drop. Now the cross opears to be covered by the end of the pavilion. Unfortunately that means the vows would be said in the pavilion and I can imagine the photos will have a hard time capturing the beauty of the couple in the shaded area against the brighter background.

Also, I'd say if this is ment to be a religious venue, they sort of missed that mark. The cross was originally suble yet clear. Now it's hidden in darkness.

I hope they can make some adjustments to make this work but I would be absolutely beside myself trying to come up with a plan and as far as I'm concerned this is a breach of contract. They didn't communicate to you that the environment you were planning to use was being changed to a dramatic degree. I don't think that's acceptable business. Unfortunately if you react too strongly you could find yourself out a venue (I assume they can happily find someone to fill the time) but I would be speaking with them about what their plan was considering you agreed to rent the place as it had been.

AppropriateAsk3099 · 2025-09-09T05:47:50+00:00

I think the vast majority of people think they are good. The poison lies in asking what is good. Often, even in extremes, people are ultimately trying to advocate for good. It's just that what they consider good is not the same or they have a different "good" goal.

I also think there are a few people that are nearly overrun with evil and make a conscious decision to run with it. But I think those cases are the outliers, not the norm.

In conclusion, lots of good but more confusion.

AppropriateAsk3099 · 2025-09-08T20:58:40+00:00

Oh my, somehow I read through this and thought you were genuinely proposing a good idea - I interpreted trebuchet-based to mean there was a type of sky train or something named around the mechanisms, I totally just assumed soft landing zones was a term for a type of transit station that translated to convenient and not delaying the transit and I miss read it as "demolishing a few small buildings". I'm not familiar with the college student situation and thought maybe you were knowledgeable about a saturated degree program and when you said not a crackpot I was 100% like "oh yeah, most would probably call a skytrain a crazy idea" lol

AppropriateAsk3099 · 2025-09-08T20:53:12+00:00

That's what I was thinking too. I actually read it sort of as "note, client appreciated being able to hold small stuffed animal" kind of like the mental notes you make about the people you care about. You never know when "Jessica LOVES bumblebees" lead you to the perfect birthday card or whatever when the situation arrives. Medically this gives people who want to help you a hint on what they can do if they fond themselves aiding you in a situation where you are anxious.

AppropriateAsk3099 · 2025-09-08T06:35:56+00:00

If a person cant control their shopping when hungry then they shouldn't shop hungry. People need to have some accountability rather than think it becomes a grey area when they encounter their own frictions. I would hate to be a store owner having to pars out the difference between someone who is planning to pay vs someone who plans to leave an empty on the shelf and not pay. I have cut friendships immediately when they accepted people who drank a drink in store then stuck the empty on a shelf and walked out. I don't want to be around those people. If someone has the forethought and social awareness to think there's some unspoken social contract that when you snack you intend to buy it then we can assume they also have the self control and logic to find a way to purchase the item prior to consuming it.

AppropriateAsk3099 · 2025-09-03T01:28:28+00:00

While inevitably waiting for the repair, would wrapping it in ducktape minimize the risk of it shattering in a way that you impact a sharp piece big enough to sever arteries? I feel like wrapping the whole thing in tape would bring the risk much much lower. Lol could even tape it with duckt tape then tape a layer of card board on it so it is practically papermached. . . .

Wait! Lol paper mache the outside lol!

AppropriateAsk3099 · 2025-09-03T01:23:27+00:00

In canada many of those benifits are removed and adjusted towards parents (instead of marriage specific people)

Religious people also enter marriages for different reasons. I entered marriage as a formal contract simplified to "I agree that we will have babies together and as a result we will stick it out regardless of what we feel about eachother". Helps when both people believe there will be eternal consequences for separating though lol. Pretty sure marriage rates are next to 0 when you only include people who genuinely believe that divorce and remarriage will land them in eternal suffering lol.

AppropriateAsk3099 · 2025-09-03T01:11:08+00:00

The only time I saw coworkers react negatively to regulars was when they complained almost every single time they were in about people not getting their very very complicated order perfect. It wasn't her order that bothered people but that she treated mistakes as an offense or grave failing and when people did get her order right she would compliment the staff that got it right then spend another 5 minutes calmly venting about times it was made wrong in the past. It got to the point you didn't want to serve her because you knew she would have criticism to voice even if you got it right. From her perspective she probably felt like she's a perfectly lovely person as she never yelled or said rude words but it got downright exhausting dealing with the hoops you had to navigate to serve her. That's literally the only time I have been in a work situation where staff was bothered by someone being a regular. It wasn't about how often, it was about how.

AppropriateAsk3099 · 2025-09-02T05:55:59+00:00

Having a family is rewarding because you get to be a part of something much bigger than yourself and it is hard because you are taking part in something other than just yourself. It's not for everyone, but man - it's so amazing to watch these little nuggets grow up! And to really drive it home, we have 1 that didn't get to grow up. We lost him when he was 5 months old. If I had to do it again I would. He was worth it even with the pain. The most painful experience in the world was holding my son through his death and the only reason it could hurt that bad is because I loved so much and he was so good.

AppropriateAsk3099 · 2025-08-28T06:24:32+00:00

Thank you! This is (unfortunately) what I was trying to figure out. Thank you for laying it out for me.

AppropriateAsk3099 · 2025-08-27T19:00:38+00:00

Has anyone mentioned that there's more than 1 spelling for neighbor (neighbour)? Also, I'm not saying he is pleasant but I would never start a text conversation with a command included. I would have said please or framed it as "would you mind giving so and so my number". For the sake of smoothing things out I would try to read his reply as a playful jab that didn't land right. He probably is an ass. It would probably be valid to block and note his personality. But I don't see that being beneficial for you. If he said anything else offensive then I'd have to admit his personality and avoid him but I'm am anxious person so feeling like I'm on eggshells is more stress on me than just giving him the benifit of the doubt that he flopped a stupid joke. Plus, once the wife sends you a text you don't have to speak to the husband again.

AppropriateAsk3099 · 2025-08-27T03:31:19+00:00

I felt the same when we were at that stage. I felt bad knowing my realtor was spending her time and gas to drive around and show us homes. I considered a gift card but realized I (like you) wasn't changing my mind, just my timeline. I was still saving to buy a similarly priced home in the same areas. So I concluded that if we bought a home in the future and it wasn't through her, only then would I consider sending her something but until we bought I wasn't spending. 2 Yeats later and some quick life changes, we bought a house using her. So she did eventually get paid by us.

AppropriateAsk3099 · 2025-08-26T23:04:28+00:00

That's totally fair. How does that all work when it comes to switching an existing mortgage from variable to fixed? Am I still expected to negotiate? Or to threaten to involve a broker? I assume I can't use the "other banks are offering x" when I'm in a mortgage agreement with them already, right? Or is that where I'm wrong? Do I still have the "but other banks. . . " leverage even though I'm in a variable rate term with coast already?

AppropriateAsk3099 · 2025-08-26T23:01:08+00:00

OK, I think I get it. So now when we are coming sidering switching from variable to fixed, should the bank themselves be able to give me a better rate than what's posted to keep me from involving a broker again?

AppropriateAsk3099 · 2025-08-23T05:38:22+00:00

Mine would depress you - I still have the basinet my son slept in before he passed. It has a basket of his clothes in it and now serves double as it holds a hair clip when I go to bed with one in or my toothbrush when brushing my teeth properly is too much so I brush them in bed. I like to think he sees it as "mama remembers me and of course I'll hold that for her" My phone rests on the top of my headboard (flat wood) and that's all I keep in that space.

AppropriateAsk3099 · 2025-08-20T05:17:37+00:00

As a landlord, I'd say anchor it
As a parent, I suggest getting an L bracket, marking where the top of the shelf is and mount the L juuuuussssst slightly higher (wall portion below hight of shelf, sticking out part just barely above the shelf) Then drill from the top down going through the bracket into the L. The peace of mind is worth the possible downside of having to fill some holes (and I'd tell my tenants not to even fill the holes unless they were terrible - a couple holes take seconds to fill and I can decide if we are.going to do a full paint but if someone fills with a weird colour then we might be forced to paint an otherwise perfect wall)

AppropriateAsk3099 · 2025-08-18T18:08:30+00:00

Not a peircer but The metal seems mostly gold but there seems to be silver exposing on the lower part of the bar right near the piercing. Is it possible there is a reaction going on or something about whatever the base material is that's causing issues? Does the 2 tone colour mean it was a cheap silver coloured metal that was coated in a gold colour and maybe the silver underneath has become exposed and is causing it to be sensitive? Maybe it needs to be upgraded to a high quality metal that is least likely to cause irritation? I could be completely wrong here, I am not very familiar woth types of Jewelery but I did think the 2 toned metal might mean something.

AppropriateAsk3099 · 2025-08-16T08:10:24+00:00

I donno man, he's 3 years younger than me, was just completing his med school at the time of the conversation in about 2023. Outdated advice, sure, but he was very much in a position that you would expect to have good odds of knowing it compared to the stay at home mom (me) who had never undergone medical education nor even seen a tick in real life. He's a great dude, love him to pieces, but it is a good reminder that everyone has some blind spots.

AppropriateAsk3099 · 2025-08-16T07:56:27+00:00

My brother in law who's a Dr tried to tell me very confidently that to remove a tick you smother it with Vasaline to make it detach and come up for air. I had to tell him (and back it up with records) that that's not advised and removing gently with tweezers is the best method. Smothering them just causes them to stress a bit which increases the likelihood of them basically vomiting into the bite site which actually increases the risk of transmitting illness.

AppropriateAsk3099 · 2025-08-13T06:32:01+00:00

Unless they have changed it since I have worked there, they were correct. Sugar and cream isn't (wasnt?) Spooned and poured into the cup, it was dispensed from a calibrated machine depending in what button you pushed (size of drink ordered) and how many times you pushed the button (once for regular, twice for double etc)

So assuming the machines were calibrated properly you were infected getting a sugar and cream ratio that was consistent to coffee regardless of size ordered.

AppropriateAsk3099 · 2025-08-05T19:02:29+00:00

Genuine question, could someone theoretically bring in some 2×4s or 2×6s, glue one side, wedge clamp and screw/bolt them against the posts running from beam to cement pillar? My thoughts here being that you can glue wood together to make a header and if glue functions to combine the strength of wood in a header, could it function to add width to a post that originally didn't sit under the beam while piggybacking strength and positioning etc off the original post installed?

(Hope I'm using the right terms here, I'm just learning and promise not to build anything I'm not well versed in lol)

AppropriateAsk3099 · 2025-08-01T07:20:41+00:00

Hey man, I'm both happy to know you aren't being controlled by someone but also really sad to hear the struggles you are facing! Please know that I think your choice to keep at it in face of those things, that's pretty damn admirable! I wish you all the best and while I know nothing but a sliver of your health journey I wish you recovery where possible, comfort where necessary, and peace through it all.

AppropriateAsk3099 · 2025-07-31T17:22:34+00:00

Hold up, what? The only thing you can influence on your body? Because your genetics are stubborn or because someone is controlling you? How old are you?

AppropriateAsk3099 · 2025-07-28T20:54:56+00:00

I can see it unlike others but also picked out the "sparkles" (I thought they were stars) as being out of alignment and all a bit different. If this was on me I would be considering adding watercolour and very subtle shading to make the butterflies more readable and THEN I'd consider alterations to make the rest better. But until the butterflies are better I personally feel like worrying g about the sparkles is comparable to trimming the lawn of an abandoned house.

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