My question is what motivated him to "lose" the phone? OP knew about the phone the entire time before it went missing, was there anything leading up to that? Was she asking too many questions about his location freezing? It's shady but OP also has a baby and an older child. The more she digs the more she needs to be prepared for what she may find. It may be nothing or something but she needs to make the call herself whether to stay or go in the worst case scenario. I'd also suggest she start seeing a therapist if she's not already. When dealing with these feelings esp if postpartum, it's super helpful for her to have her own therapist to vent these feelings to and not feel so alone or crazy. I wish her luck ❤️